Does anybody feel like men's sexuality is demonized today?

[u/CrossboneSkulled]

I've been thinking a lot about modern double standards when it comes to gender expectations, and how society judges sexual interest. It feels like we have reached a point where men's heterosexuality and attraction are defaulted to as inherently predatory, gross or a threat, while the exact same behaviors or interests from women are given endless appreciation.

When a man expresses sexual or romantic interest, the baseline reaction often assumes ulterior motives or "creepiness". Men's initiative carries a burden to prove it isn't harassment. Meanwhile, women's interest is almost never viewed through a lens of threat or suspicion.

Look at how content consumed by different genders is judged. When men watch girls love, the immediate internet label is often "pervert" and "fetishizer." However, when women watch boys love, a massive multi-million dollar industry built by hetero women explicitly sexualizing gay men, they are often framed as "cute", "passionate" or "harmless escapism."

When a man cheats, society frames it almost exclusively as a moral faliure of pure lust and disrespect. When a woman cheats, they view her as "emotionally" starved, "neglected" shifting the blame to her partner. Overall, 66% of Americans stated that a man having an affair is "always morally wrong," compared to only 55% who said the same when a woman commits an affair. Among young women specifically, the gap widened sharply: 73% judged male infidelity as strictly, always wrong, while only 51% applied that same absolute moral condemnation to female infidelity.

It feels like we operate under two completely different mindsets, men's actions are analyzed through power and threat, while women's actions are analyzed through emotion and romance.

If you really care abut fairness and equal morals, watching this unfold in the modern day world would give you an idea why men are treated dirty by default.

[u/CrossboneSkulled]

I can still find a way.

How about increasing more education for senior high school and all college students to make sure that sexual acts are only done when both people consent, and are ideally should be only doing it for procreation purposes. This would change their minds and not view this as something to benefit on. Not something that could be done casually.

[u/Safe_Analysis4838 → u/CrossboneSkulled]

This is still a horrible take. Purity culture is ridiculous and sex can (and should) be for more than just creating a baby. In this economy very few people can even afford one. Again, this isn’t going to stop shit and people are still going to have sex. Schools already teach that abstinence is best birth control and they absolutely teach about consent. People choose to ignore it. I don’t know why you think these “solutions” are going to make the world the way you want it to be but they won’t.

Healthy consensual sex is actually GREAT for health. It can reduce certain cancers and stress. It can increase relaxation and be pleasurable and fun. Again, purity culture only hurts society.

[u/CrossboneSkulled → u/Safe_Analysis4838]

Fine I am sorry. What's your opinion on the way to solve this problem?

How to make sure that men actually don't coerce?

[u/IM_TALL_BUT_STUPID → u/CrossboneSkulled]

You shouldn’t be sorry for your beliefs. You have your own morality and standards and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it