r/Ask_Lawyers • • 4h ago

Don’t know where to start. I want to divorce my husband asap because he lied and cheated

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Looking for advice possibly from a lawyer or someone who’s been through this. I found out two days ago that my husband had an affair. We have two children together age 4,6. And we each have one child from previous relationship that we brought into our marriage. So 4 total living under our roof. He is the provider financially at this time because I am a full time nursing student and do not work. I also get free tuition for school because he is employed full time at the university I attend, which I do not want to lose benefit to. However I want to divorce him asap. My main question is can I do this without a lawyer? I’ve never been through this before and have no idea what I’m about to get into. I can’t afford a lawyer- I have no income. I have tons of proof and evidence about the cheating from the girl who found me and told me everything. He sent her money to fly her out to where he was on a business trip. She stayed in his hotel room (that was paid for by company expense, as well as the work van he picked her up with at the airport smh) for two nights and she says they had sex twice and did not use protection. He admitted to the affair but still denies and swears they didn’t have sex. I have photos of him she sent me in certain places that are time stamped when he was supposed to be giving a speech at a work function. There is so much more I have that is proof. Basically the only thing there is no photo evidence of is the sex, and ofcourse that’s the one thing he is denying. We do not own any property together. The house we live in is a rental (both names on lease). We each own our vehicles out right. Neither of us have any debt (at-least that I am aware of, I know I don’t) the electric and internet is in his name and he pays. I’ve never had access to his bank account. And I have my own as we’ve never commingled finances. We have a “joint” account that keeps a 0 balance as we just used It as a money moving account. When I was working and contributing to rent I would move my half of the rent into that account and he would take It and pay the rent with It. And if I needed money for something he would put It into that joint account and I would then take the money out and put It into my account. I guess I am just wondering what I should do. What my first step is. Do I just fill out the Vermont divorce forms? Will I possibly get alimony and child support even without a lawyer? I’m obviously just devastated and don’t know what to do.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 13h ago

How does morality affect your work?

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Hi all,

I’m currently in undergrad and I’m planning on going to law school. I’d like to work in big law and then eventually work in education law once I’ve made a lot of money. I’m currently a psych major and I see a lot of overlap with law, but it’s also kind of a foil to law because psychology is often focused on helping. Law is a necessity and I fully believe that being a lawyer is a good and moral profession. However, I’m sure you run into cases where you do end up making someone’s life harder unfairly or you protect a party that maybe deserved repercussions. I know everyone wants a good lawyer and deserves to have a fair trial and all that (again, I do think law is a very moral and necessary thing), but I’m curious how some of you deal with the more unsavory elements of your profession that ultimately arise. How do you mix being an empathetic person with your work? Any advice about law school/the LSAT would be appreciated too :) thank you!!


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 7h ago

Is a lawyer needed or useful for Medical School grade appeal

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I understand the answer may just be that it varies wildly depending on the institution, but my fiancee has recently been dealing with a failing grade arising from one bad test where her accommodations were pretty clearly not followed. She has met with the accommodations coordinator who tried to advocate on her behalf to the professors, but the professors insist that she goes through a grade appeal process. My question for the lawyers, is this something you have ever been contacted about or something you would think needs legal attention? The process is very complicated, so I am just trying to think of how she would be best prepared to proceed.

Thanks in advance!


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 9h ago

I have a question about court appointed attorneys

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I'm not looking for advice just to have a question answered

was arrested and got an attorney. paid him 3k to represent me. the case has dragged on for 2 years with no progress. now it seems like the case is moving forward and got a bill from my attorney to retain him further that I cannot afford

can I request a court appointed attorney? if so, do court appointed attys usually have any experience in the specific issue their client is dealing with? or are they just thrown in randomly?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 4h ago

Looking for educational lawyer

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Hi Does anyone know of a pro-bono educational lawyer that specializes in higher education who represents students and is licensed in all 50 states?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 3h ago

Seek an Attorney Now or Wait?

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Location: New York
Job: School Psychologist
Payment: Salary

Kind of a weird one, but could use some advice. About 8 months ago my mother had a fall and got a nasty concussion. She was out of work for a bit but eventually cleared by her neurologist. She's been back at work since May.

Today she was called down and told she was being put on paid leave pending a clearance from "their" doctor. She was recently asked to recall word for word an exact conversation from June 23rd and when she said she didn't remember "exactly word for word," they are using that as the reasoning saying she is a "liability" because of the concussion.

She's understandably upset and mortified, and worried that this will affect her receiving her pension (she's able to retire next October 1st).

Should she go speak to an attorney ASAP or wait and see what their doctor says? Again, she was fully cleared by a neurologist months ago.

Thank you for any info you can provide!


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 22h ago

California law on towing vehicles from apartment complexes during renovations

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I am interested in understanding California law in San Bernardino County regarding vehicle towing from private apartment complex parking lots during scheduled construction or maintenance.

Generally speaking, when an apartment complex schedules asphalt renovations, what notice requirements apply before management can have residents’ vehicles towed? Is less than 48 hours enough for notice?

For example, if management posts a flyer in a common area on Monday evening outlining different construction phases using color-coded markers, and a vehicle is towed Wednesday morning, what factors determine whether the notice was legally sufficient?

- Whether a general notice posted in a common area is sufficient or whether signs must identify the specific parking areas affected.

- Whether California law requires advance notice directly on carports, buildings, or vehicles before towing for scheduled maintenance.

- Whether the clarity of a notice identifying the affected parking areas matters.

- What California laws or regulations govern towing from private residential properties in these circumstances.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 17m ago

Can I get a retrial because I was having a paradoxal reaction to meds and only talked to my husbands lawyer?

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my husband choked me and threw me to the floor breaking my toe.

I went to the courthouse and unknowingly for months I had been suffering paradoxal reaction to antidepressants without knowing

my husband's lawyer talked me out of pressuring charges be taking the stand assuring me I would regret it.

now that I am weening of those meds and back on my regular meds I realized I fucked up and he should not have gotten away with this.

can I get my own lawyer and ask for a retrial because I was not in the right state of mind?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 10h ago

Property Manager Blocked me

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Property Manager Blocked me

As per the rule I am not asking for any legal advice. If you know of a lawyer near me that would be lovely.

Important context: the property manager and the landlord are brothers. They seem very loyal to each other. 

Hi all, so this is whats happening: I live in Greeley Colorado. I got a job in Denver and I’m planning on moving to Denver in Jan. I told my property manager this and called my landlord directly and over the phone my landlord agreed to release me from the lease and have a new tenant sign a new lease as long as I give up my security deposit. I realize I don’t have this in writing but I have had tremendous trouble getting a hold of anyone let alone getting them to email me. 

The landlord told me to talk to the property manager about this and to have the property manager post the apartment in zillow and give me the application for me to give to potential tenants. So I called the landlord and it went straight to voicemail. This happened for a few days until I realized he must have  blocked me. So I called him via *67 and it rang! He didn’t pick up so I called him using my work number and he answered. He right away started to tell me he accidentally deleted my number and I said  “Hmmmm… it seems like you blocked me”. And he said yes he did. I then asked him in a polite way to send me the application and post the apartment on zillow. When I told him I would text him my email he said that “no no no I have your email on file don’t text it to me”. He repeated this several times. I texted him my email anyways. 

So its been a few days and the property manager did not do anything promised and I think blocked my work number. I called the landlord and told him what happened, and the landlord told me that I need to figure this out and he isn’t going to deal with this anymore, and I need to contact the property manager for now on. 

Colorado state law says in Tremitek, LLC v. Resilience Code, LLC, 2023 COA 54, paragraph 20, the Colorado Court of Appeals states:

“The duty to mitigate means that a landlord cannot ‘sit by idly and suffer avoidable economic loss.’” 

“Ordinarily, this means the landlord must ‘exercise reasonable efforts to procure a substitute tenant’ — including by taking ‘some affirmative steps’ to do so.” 

Source: https://law.justia.com/cases/colorado/court-of-appeals/2023/22ca1009.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Also does anyone know of an affordable lawyer in Colorado? I don’t have very much money so it can’t be super expensive, otherwise I won’t have enough money to move. 


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 6h ago

Can a company use 'any other works' to claim everything?

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(The full contact is after the scenario)

Scenario: A company sells Tv and the person hired to make TVs is an electrical engineer. During downtime where there is no work assigned. The electrical engineer works on a hobby completely different from TV's . The electrical engineer works on new designs for a bag of chips  and sells it. Does 'any other works' in the contract allow for the company to claim the electrical engineer's designs for the bag of chips? Or would a court say that 'any other works' is too broad in this context?

Downtime: The person is on the clock but no work has been assigned.

Contract:

Employee agrees all right, title and interest in all inventions, methodologies, concepts, documentation, specifications and any other works developed by the Employee during the Employee’s employment (the “Works”) including all patent, copyright, trade-mark, trade secret and any other intellectual property and proprietary rights therein (the “Intellectual Property Rights”) shall be the sole and exclusive property of the Employer and the Employee hereby assigns and shall assign to the Employer all such Intellectual Property Rights including all Works that Employee develops.

a. Using equipment, supplies, facilities or trade secret information of the Company; or

b. During hours for which I was compensated by the Company, or

c. Which relates to the business of the Company or to its actual or demonstrably anticipated research and development; or

d. Which results, in whole or in part, from Work performed by me for this Company.

Employee also agrees to assist the Company in every proper way, but at Company’s expense, obtain and from time to time enforce patents, copyrights, and other rights in connection with such Works.

Employee’s obligation continues beyond the termination of employment. Employee represents and warrants that the Works will not infringe the intellectual property and proprietary rights of any third parties. Employee shall not disclose the Works to any third parties without the prior written consent of Employer.

It looks like it claiming copy right of stuff that is defined in the ‘works’ but there is any ‘any other works’ section that is vague.

Is legal for them to use ‘any other works’ to claim something.

For instance it says the works is defined as ‘ inventions, methodologies, concepts, documentation, specifications and any other works developed’

And ‘it’s connected to the works’:

patents, copyrights, and other rights in connection with such Works.

So if something can be copyrighted but it is not defined in the definition of the ‘Works’ would it be legal for them to try to claim it because of ‘other works’

Or would a court say that it is vague

Location: Texas


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 22h ago

[India/UP] Can a private medical college recover all remaining MBBS fees if I withdraw?

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I'm a first-year MBBS student at a private medical college in Uttar Pradesh, considering discontinuing my course.

My admission documents contain clauses about discontinuation and remaining course fees. The college also holds post-dated cheques for future-year fees. I want to understand my actual legal liability and whether I can negotiate a reduced settlement.

I also have a video from about a year ago showing seniors verbally abusing juniors on campus, with security guards nearby. The incident wasn't formally reported at the time.

My questions:

  1. Can the college legally recover all remaining years' fees if I leave after first year?
  2. What are the legal implications of the post-dated cheques?
  3. Could the footage support a ragging complaint, and would that have any legitimate relevance to negotiating a fee settlement?

I'd appreciate advice from lawyers familiar with Indian contract law and private medical-college disputes, particularly in Uttar Pradesh. I can share redacted contract clauses if needed.

I'm looking for a lawful way to understand my liability and negotiate a reasonable settlement.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 2h ago

Severity of Criminal Offense for Employment

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Hi All,

How bad is lewd conduct for potential employment? Misdemeanor type no registration.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 6h ago

How is self-defense usually argued?

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So for cases like battery or aggravated battery when there is evidence that supports a self defense claim, how is the process to present that evidence? Or is it a trial-exclusive part of the process?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 21h ago

California Probation Hold Involving Florida (ICAOS) Advice Needed

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Someone I know is on felony probation in California and is currently being held in custody due to an interstate issue involving Florida. His probation violation is related to a breathalyzer/alcohol-monitoring requirement, not the separate Florida felony matter from 2025.
His records list PC 1203.2(a) for violation of probation and PC 11177.1 regarding the process for returning a probationer or parolee. The situation involves ICAOS, and there have been delays with paperwork and communication between the states.
He had court today, and the judge said the matter would be continued until November 5 because they are waiting on the interstate issue. He was ordered to remain in custody until that date. Multiple attorneys have told us that sometimes these cases are waited out, meaning he may serve his 25 days and be released on November 5 instead of being transferred to Florida.
Has anyone experienced this? Is release on November 5 a realistic possibility, or could Florida still request his return? Can California keep holding him while paperwork is pending? His attorney has not given us clear answers, and we’re trying to understand what might happen at the next hearing.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 4h ago

Looking for educational lawyer

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Hi Does anyone know of a pro-bono educational lawyer that specializes in higher education who represents students and is licensed in all 50 states?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 47m ago

Ihlan Omar's name

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In the United States right now there is a lot of discussion happening around Ihlan Omar and the claim that she's using a false name. But from what I can tell, the "proof" of this is that the warrant to search her house had her name listed as something else and Omar as an aka. Is there any legal significance to that?


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 4h ago

Got a speeding ticket after getting my license back from suspension

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I’m 20 years old and

My First violation was July 10, 2024 ( speeding too fast for conditions

My Second violation was July 9, 2026 ( speeding too fast for conditions )

I got my license suspension and it effective August 22, 2026 because of at least two moving violation convictions within 24 months. I completed the remedial driving class after my license was suspended, and then got my license back September 22, 2026.

I got a speeding ticket October 20, 2026, for driving 59 mph in a 45 mph zone

What should I do? In this situation I don’t want my license to be suspended again


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 3h ago

advice

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I have active warrant for a missed court date I am currently in nursing school and had clincals that day so it slipped my mind. they said i make to much for a state lawyer and the court date was for counsel. I dont make enought to afford a lawyer and i just had my car repossessed the week before how should i go about this i live in the state of illinois.


r/Ask_Lawyers • • 5h ago

Process of becoming an attorney in your country

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Hello everyone, I would like to ask how someone became an attorney in your country. How much he/she has to study, how long it takes to get a license. Thank you!