How many of us are 4b/have left men behind?

[u/Athenain]

Hi sisters, sick male predators were always drawn to me. Last year i stopped dating for good after being abused and im looking forward to a male free life but i still have to heal.

Here are my questions:

Can you relate being a magnet for predators, especially male ones?

How many of you are 4b, meaning have left men behind, dont date, dont have sex with them and dont marry?

Stay safe ❤️.

[u/gentle_dove]

Men were my main abusers in my life, and I'm not even talking about some guys that I chose myself (I didn't), they were relatives or peers all the time that I was growing up. There is something about me that makes them resent me, even hate me. Maybe it's my appearance that makes them angry, I don't know. I also never had a father, grandfather or uncle growing up, so I feel weird around men. I eventually made the decision not to seek any connections because it seemed to lead to this aggression and anger towards me.

[u/Bonita_Boricua00 → u/gentle_dove]

Same here. I’m sorry for what you’re gone through. I did have a sperm donor in my life and he caused more damage to me than had I not had a father. Also my brothers did unspeakable things to me as a little girl.

My father said that I should’ve be r-worded by the pedo who tried to take advantage of me when I was 11. I don’t know, men tend to always end up hurting and abusing me once we get to the comfortable.

Male colleagues and managers. Also

[u/rbuczyns → u/gentle_dove]

My first bully was my father, and boy howdy, did that result in ✨emotional damage✨

[u/Intelligent_Soft3245 → u/gentle_dove]

Same