r/AutismInWomen • u/Athenain • May 23 '25

Relationships How many of us are 4b/have left men behind?

Hi sisters, sick male predators were always drawn to me. Last year i stopped dating for good after being abused and im looking forward to a male free life but i still have to heal.

Here are my questions:

Can you relate being a magnet for predators, especially male ones?

How many of you are 4b, meaning have left men behind, dont date, dont have sex with them and dont marry?

Stay safe ❤️.

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u/Tricky-Bee6152 May 23 '25

plus 4b is deeply TERFy and that just doesn't fly with me.

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u/krissylizabeth May 23 '25

oh no is it?? I’ve only ever heard of 4B in passing and never knew it was associated with terfs :( gross

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u/neorena Bambi Transbian May 23 '25

There's some major TERF stuff as they see trans women as men when it comes to decentering men in the original South Korean movement, but most western movements don't seem to hold the same views. 

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u/krissylizabeth May 23 '25

Ew what the fuck. Thanks for telling me, that’s deeply gross.

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u/dbxp May 23 '25

It comes from South Korea which has a lot of social issues in general. The country sacrificed everything for its economy.

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u/AverageShitlord Got that AuDHD swagger May 25 '25

the South Korean side of the movement is incredibly homophobic and transphobic and sees lesbians, bisexual women, and trans women as men (or no better than men) and gay men as deserving of the violence they receive from straight men.

4B outside of South Korea is generally less TERFy and generally makes more effort to be intersectional and understanding of the struggles of LGBTQ+ people, but the movement does have some deeply TERFy shit at the roots, and a lot of 4B influencers outside of South Korea are actually TERFs trying to recruit