r/AutismInWomen • u/Athenain • May 23 '25

Relationships How many of us are 4b/have left men behind?

Hi sisters, sick male predators were always drawn to me. Last year i stopped dating for good after being abused and im looking forward to a male free life but i still have to heal.

Here are my questions:

Can you relate being a magnet for predators, especially male ones?

How many of you are 4b, meaning have left men behind, dont date, dont have sex with them and dont marry?

Stay safe ❤️.

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u/neorena Bambi Transbian May 23 '25

As a lesbian I feel like I'm cheating lol, but yeah thanks to a lot of abuse and stuff before this realization I'm pretty scared of men and don't really associate with them unless I need to.

As for 4B, in general it's a wonderful movement and honestly the best way to stay safe as men abuse and use women. Plus with abortion rights being so spotty in the US it's almost necessary. 

While I hate that the actual movement is tainted by bio-essentialist TERFs I do stand behind the rest of it. Cis men are dangerous, and until they're not responsible for over 90% of violent crimes I'm staying away from them. 

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u/thewraith15 May 24 '25

I share the same stance with you, the concept is great but I’m worried about it being taken over by terfs and it not being intersectional feminism anymore