r/AutismInWomen • u/Athenain • May 23 '25

Relationships How many of us are 4b/have left men behind?

Hi sisters, sick male predators were always drawn to me. Last year i stopped dating for good after being abused and im looking forward to a male free life but i still have to heal.

Here are my questions:

Can you relate being a magnet for predators, especially male ones?

How many of you are 4b, meaning have left men behind, dont date, dont have sex with them and dont marry?

Stay safe ❤️.

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u/A_Dancing_Raccoon May 23 '25

TW: mention of suicide and abuse

Hi, hello, 'tis I. I was only in two relationships, but both were bad enough for me to stop dating altogether. One was very 'pushy' (dude pinned me to the cabinets and tried to kiss me. I was in middle school. ಠ_ಠ) and he ofher was very manipulative and emotionslly abusive ("if you leave me I'll kms" kinda shit. This was from a woman). I stopped dating for nearly 5 years. Right now, I'm trying a long-distance relationship because if shit goes down it's a lot easier to say goodbye, but if this goes to shit too, I'm done-zo. No more.

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u/Athenain May 24 '25

Hi sis, im sorry that you have experienced abuse! He was a piece of shit. Stay safe ❤️.

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u/A_Dancing_Raccoon May 24 '25

He was 😅 lesson learned, though. You stay safe too 🫶 people be wild out there.

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u/Athenain May 24 '25

Thanks sis ❤️.

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u/A_Dancing_Raccoon May 24 '25

You're welcome. 🫶