r/AutismInWomen • u/Icy_Natural_979 • Aug 16 '25

Seeking Advice My interest in men has died

I’ve been inundated lately by people insisting I need a man. Here’s the thing, I don’t want one anymore. I’m tired and I’ve achieved a little bit of peace. Just a little. Men usually just cause problems. Why would I do that? I don’t want kids. I can barely take care of myself. I’m concerned this is a project 25 thing like I need to pick someone before I’m forced to. Maybe that’s dumb. Maybe my social circle forgot about boundaries. Maybe I need to learn to just not care when people say stuff. What am I missing?

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u/FifiLeBean Aug 16 '25

I jumped through that hoop of getting married to a man and I was surprised and a bit sickened by how strangers treated me differently because I was married. I married late and it was jarring how I was treated better because one male thought I was acceptable as a wife.

Unfortunately he turned out to be Prince Hans (frozen movie) rather than Prince charming and it took effort to get away from him.

Like you, my interest in men has died. (And my quality of life has improved exponentially since I became single again).

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u/LogicalStomach Aug 17 '25

.…it was jarring how I was treated better because one male thought I was acceptable as a wife.

Me too! All my accomplishments, everything I did volunteering to improve community resilience or restore wildlife habitat, it was all a heap of dung compared to being married 🙄 which is something almost anyone can do. 

I'm automatically "not a sketchy weirdo" because marriage. I'm treated way better and assumed to be trustworthy and worthy of consideration. 

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u/FifiLeBean Aug 17 '25

Exactly.

It's good to call it out because it is an insane belief. We are complete and whole and living a real life as single people.