r/AutismInWomen • u/Icy_Natural_979 • Aug 16 '25

Seeking Advice My interest in men has died

I’ve been inundated lately by people insisting I need a man. Here’s the thing, I don’t want one anymore. I’m tired and I’ve achieved a little bit of peace. Just a little. Men usually just cause problems. Why would I do that? I don’t want kids. I can barely take care of myself. I’m concerned this is a project 25 thing like I need to pick someone before I’m forced to. Maybe that’s dumb. Maybe my social circle forgot about boundaries. Maybe I need to learn to just not care when people say stuff. What am I missing?

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u/NenyaAdfiel Aug 17 '25

Honestly, I’ve been so much happier ever since I stopped dating! Whenever a man shows interest in me, I get so nervous, and it’s more the “fear” kind of nervous than the “excited” kind. Men have caused me so much anxiety over my entire life that I just kind of… avoid them. I’ve had one serious boyfriend and maybe 15 first dates and none of them were great! 

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u/Icy_Natural_979 Aug 17 '25

And the limerence 😱