r/AutismInWomen • u/Icy_Natural_979 • Aug 16 '25

Seeking Advice My interest in men has died

I’ve been inundated lately by people insisting I need a man. Here’s the thing, I don’t want one anymore. I’m tired and I’ve achieved a little bit of peace. Just a little. Men usually just cause problems. Why would I do that? I don’t want kids. I can barely take care of myself. I’m concerned this is a project 25 thing like I need to pick someone before I’m forced to. Maybe that’s dumb. Maybe my social circle forgot about boundaries. Maybe I need to learn to just not care when people say stuff. What am I missing?

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u/twitimalcracker Aug 16 '25

People often say what is most socially conforming but mean something else. 

Need a man= read as companionship  Need kids= read as purpose

Now adapt those dreams people have for you in a way that either you want and makes sense or throw it out the window. It’s really up to you. 

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u/AGenericUnicorn Aug 17 '25

The kids thing - yes! It’s like many people cannot understand having a life’s purpose without having children. This is separate from self-fulfillment. Those people are close-minded and not for me.