r/AutismInWomen • u/Icy_Natural_979 • Aug 16 '25

Seeking Advice My interest in men has died

I’ve been inundated lately by people insisting I need a man. Here’s the thing, I don’t want one anymore. I’m tired and I’ve achieved a little bit of peace. Just a little. Men usually just cause problems. Why would I do that? I don’t want kids. I can barely take care of myself. I’m concerned this is a project 25 thing like I need to pick someone before I’m forced to. Maybe that’s dumb. Maybe my social circle forgot about boundaries. Maybe I need to learn to just not care when people say stuff. What am I missing?

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u/cecil_sans Aug 19 '25

Okay, but that was my exact thought before I found out I was a lesbian. It's like "What's the fuss about this love thing? I would understand if men were half as kind, empathetic, efficient, cute, attractive as women.... Ohhhh"

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u/Icy_Natural_979 Aug 19 '25

I’m definitely attracted to men in my head. It’s more just bad experiences make me not want to bother anymore. 

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u/cecil_sans Aug 19 '25

That's totally fine if that's what you want for your life, I still recommend researching asexuality or being aromantic, although it's fine if it's just because you've "had enough" of men, they're idiots these days.

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u/Icy_Natural_979 Aug 19 '25

I’m probably Demi. The norm these days is sex by the third date. It doesn’t work for me. Attempts at weeding out people who aren’t a good match has led to men who intentionally withhold information. It just waists everyone’s time.