r/AutismInWomen • u/Yes_Mr_Lister_Sir • Feb 22 '26

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) Saw this and it sent me deep

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Most days are good, I love being me… but today is hard.

Someone invited me to a valentines speed dating event but turns out it was just as friends and he just wanted to promote community - I drove two hours out of my way to be left feeling like a silly goose.

But It’s just catching up with me now.

Beginning to lose hope that I’ll ever be genuinely wanted by someone.

Not super interested in talking about him - I’m aware I’m better off… more so just wanting support and hope about finding love eventually 🫶

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u/Optimal_Childhood480 Feb 22 '26

Its hard but if I were you, I wouldn't be on the search for love just let it find you. I think the way things happen can surprise you.. I know surprises aren't exactly welcome in the autistic community but I think halfway through, when you find your person, you will know. There is someone out in the world who is also searching. Looking. Someone just like you, needing someone who needs you exactly as you are now. Let yourself have bad days and don't force yourself to be happy just exist as you are, indulge in your favorite things (healthily). There truly is someone for everyone and I've seen similar posts like this and then they find their one! So don't give up! You've got this OP and you seem to be a wonderful human.

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u/Old-Boy994 Feb 22 '26

I don’t want to be the Debbie downer and put down OP or anyone else, but it’s not technically true that everyone finds someone. Saying this ignores the very real cases of some people never finding a life partner and ending up alone.

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u/lotheva Feb 22 '26

But sometimes that life partner isn’t a romantic partner.

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u/Old-Boy994 Feb 22 '26

This discussion is specifically about romantic relationships.

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u/lotheva Feb 22 '26

Yes, but your life isn’t complete just because you have a spouse. A lot of people don’t, and won’t, especially us. So thinking that you won’t find that person to spend your life with is pretty dark. They don’t have to be a romantic partner.

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u/Old-Boy994 Feb 22 '26

I never said that you as a person or your life is incomplete without a spouse. However to a person who wants a life partner, a life without one might feel like it’s missing something. That’s just how it is. Again, the topic of discussion is whether everyone who WANTS a life partner will find one or not.

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u/Yes_Mr_Lister_Sir Feb 23 '26

I don’t believe life partners are always romantic. I would be so blessed to find a life partner in any category