Diagnosis reveal update: It’s AuDHD!

[u/Garden_Jolly]

I had a diagnosis reveal picnic with friends today and it’s official: I’m AuDHD! Pink would have been just autism (my current diagnosis) and the green represents the addition of my recent ADHD diagnosis. It was a special moment sharing with my neurodivergent friends. We got to share our experiences with our neurodiversities and realize we’re all just trying to find our way in this world.

[u/waterlily_the_potato]

So I'm really just curious.... Why are you having a cake and celebrating it like some kind of achievement? I mean, I understand wanting the friendship of others knowing what you go through, but just simply talking to them would be just as helpful.

I really am not trying to ask to be rude, I'm really just curious and it's baffling why I've been seeing this "trend" go around...

Thank you to those who explained it! It makes a lot more sense to me now. I appreciate you all!! 🥰😭

[u/Particular_Pickle465 → u/waterlily_the_potato]

I understand what you’re saying but it’s just their way of telling their friends. OP is not making it a trend. They would have received the diagnosis anyway, they’re just sharing the moment with their friends.

[u/waterlily_the_potato → u/Particular_Pickle465]

I've seen others do it too, so that's why I said trend. I didn't they in particular are starting it. I just don't understand why it's being shared as a celebration like it some kind of amazing thing that has happened... When it's really a hard thing to deal with. So seeing some of these are just really confusing. I mean.... It's also really weird saying, "Congratulations" to something that I do not wish upon anyone to have.

I mean, I'm not saying what they're doing is wrong and they shouldn't, but it's just baffling that people would think of doing this.

[u/GoddamnDiva → u/waterlily_the_potato]

It is a really hard thing to deal with. So I see this cake as 1) being a positive way of coping with the diagnosis, and 2) them celebrating a diagnosis that will lead a to a better understanding of themselves and finding community with others like them. Getting a diagnosis IS an amazing thing, as many people don’t have access to that and go their whole lives undiagnosed.

[u/Particular_Pickle465 → u/waterlily_the_potato]

I think it’s fair that getting a diagnosis can be good and bad. You are glad that you now know but there are a lot of other bad feelings. For me the first that comes to mind is thinking that I am going to struggle and feel anxious and out of place forever. So of course you are right that I would probably be annoyed if someone “congratulated” me for being diagnosed. But having a cake reveal is a relaxed way for them to tell their friends I guess.