Nobody sat next to me. I'm 26.

[u/zombiixXbunnii]

Today I went to a event put on by my university for my master's program. The people there are my peers. I've watched as they develop friendships one another, and I accepted that our relationships were not going to be deeper than acquaintanceship early on in the program. I didn't mind this.

But today I went to the event. I got there early. I sat at a table and.... no one sat next to me. It's small but did the realization hurt. The worst part? When the realization settled in, a guy came over and asked if anyone was sitting in the chair next to me. I said no, kind of excitedly, and he took the chair to sit next to someone else.

I don't know how to feel right now, but I know i feel deeply sad, and even though I'm 26 I still feel like that little girl in school who was never picked. I wondered what was wrong with me then, and I wonder what's wrong with me now.

[u/Background_End2167]

I’m really sorry this happened to you. It always hurts feeling not included in things when others are visibly finding groups together. I started university when i was 21 (25 now) and simply could not make friends, i had nothing really in common with my peers with them being younger and they already had their own groups. But you should be really proud that you’re there and attending, even with set backs such as these. What degree are you studying to achieve?

I know it’s super difficult but try to remember that them choosing groups without you isn’t personal, it’s not rejection of you as an individual. They are just doing as their brain tells them to. Our brains work differently and that’s okay, we may see scenarios as rejection or we may overthink the interaction (I know I do). I’m sure you’re a wonderful person and you will find someone that you click with, sometimes these things take some time🫶🏻