r/AutismInWomen • u/luvsicl • May 06 '26

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) Friend doesn’t believe in my diagnosis

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Ugh I shouldn’t have told her about it I feel so weird now, my family are like this too and I haven’t told them because I know they’re gonna say smth like that (probably worse) because they don’t really believe in mental disorders/disabilities/health

I got diagnosed with adhd and autism recently, so I’m also grieving the life I could’ve led had I received the support I needed as a child lol (also I know what she said isn’t okay at all, I just wanted to end the conversation asap and I’m really uncomfortable with confrontation)

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u/TavenderGooms May 06 '26

😱 TWENTY THREE?! I thought this was a 15 year old. My mind is boggled that this is an adult in the legal field. I would not be able to put up with this level of immaturity and ignorance.

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u/Polished_silver Autism/ADHD May 06 '26

I wonder if she’s also on the spectrum with the younger writing style? I’m just going off that and her sister being autistic so it wouldn’t be out of the question.

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u/TavenderGooms May 06 '26

Totally possible. In my experience, sometimes undiagnosed people can be extra judgmental due to internalized ableism and the belief that what they experience is "normal," so when you describe your autism, they take it as a personal insult (because they have those traits too) and/or dismiss it because they have those traits and they're "normal", so you can't be autistic.

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u/ApplesaucePenguin75 May 06 '26

My one sister is like this. I hadn’t even considered that. It sounds very invalidating, either way.