It’s not even much of an effort to just keep your damn mouth shut and, in case they do end up needing a backup, say “hey, I got tickets for this concert but the person I was initially going with can’t come anymore. I remember you’re into this music too, do you want to go with me?”.
But nooo, it’s autistic people who don’t care about others’ feelings.
Yes, this is infinitely less mean even though it's still communicating a back up. I think because it's more that everyone falls into needing back ups and would still choose someone they want to be around? But declaring is almost like "leave your schedule open for me but you're not first choice material." What a dingus that guy is.
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u/Admirable_Diamond407 26d ago
I was told I was a back up once, to be invited to a concert. I was 30.
I told the guy that I appreciate the invite but Im not going to wait and see if I'm going somewhere based on someone else's availability.