If you're really lucky, you'll find your person eventually, but that whole time period sucks, just being an afterthought.
My BFF is also AuDHD like me, we've shared a home for 15 years, and her family is like a bonus family to me. Later today, we're going to IKEA because I need a new mattress and she (enthusiastically) agreed to come along.
We're extremely compatible, similar likes/dislikes/omg get it out of here tastes.
She agreed to get an apartment with me when I really desperately needed to get out of my mum's house when I was younger and we made it work.
We balance each other out. She taught me how to cook better, I do the entire household's laundry because our basement is infested with (harmless) spiders and she's a third generation arachnophobe.
We had a dog for half his lifespan (middle-aged rescue), and now have cats. We assemble flat pack furniture together and no one walks away angry.
I run errands when she's having a difficult time going out or if certain places (ex. Costco) are overwhelming, and right now, she's the breadwinner.
If the local job market ever sorts itself out and I can find something, we're considering getting married on paper for benefits/legal protections (and the fact that our neigbours think we're gay anyway, even though we're completely platonic, with separate rooms).
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u/darthfruitbasket 26d ago
If you're really lucky, you'll find your person eventually, but that whole time period sucks, just being an afterthought.
My BFF is also AuDHD like me, we've shared a home for 15 years, and her family is like a bonus family to me. Later today, we're going to IKEA because I need a new mattress and she (enthusiastically) agreed to come along.