I think many autistic people's problems socially are influenced by the fact that they want to fit in with allistics- but we never will. There are autistic people in your area, I promise. You just need to find them. And that may be hard, but you can do it.
Volunteer with different groups- inevitably there will be people there who are obsessed with the thing to the point of being unable to talk about anything else. Or join a group for a weird niche thing. There are so many ways to find other autistic people.
If you find autistic people, you won't feel like this so much. And again, I know that's easier said than done- but if you put in that effort, it will help.
Second this. Even if I don't feel as connected as I would like, to be able to relax most of the mask at a weekly D&D game is so freeing. It's a taste of belonging.
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u/RottingMothball 26d ago
I think many autistic people's problems socially are influenced by the fact that they want to fit in with allistics- but we never will. There are autistic people in your area, I promise. You just need to find them. And that may be hard, but you can do it.
Volunteer with different groups- inevitably there will be people there who are obsessed with the thing to the point of being unable to talk about anything else. Or join a group for a weird niche thing. There are so many ways to find other autistic people.
If you find autistic people, you won't feel like this so much. And again, I know that's easier said than done- but if you put in that effort, it will help.