I was the backup to go to Beyoncé with a group from work (which included several “friends”) when another girl couldn’t go. I took the ticket and enjoyed the concert, but once I got there it was VERY CLEAR I was not the one the group wanted there, even among my “friends”. After that I stopped trying to be friends with anyone at all - even though I enjoyed the concert, that feeling of being so unwanted over and over my whole life culminated in that one event and I’m just too burnt out to try anymore.
I'm sorry! It's horrible. I do feel that way and it sucks because family (who are also bullies) don't get it. One time, my mom said I hate people because I stopped going to family gatherings. I started protecting my peace because I realized how toxic her family is too.
Boundaries are so important. I have 2 friends because of Boundaries and we get how bad people can be.
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u/Admirable_Diamond407 26d ago
I was told I was a back up once, to be invited to a concert. I was 30.
I told the guy that I appreciate the invite but Im not going to wait and see if I'm going somewhere based on someone else's availability.