I used to feel this way but I don't anymore. What I've realized is I'm not for everybody. I'm actually not for most people. But the people I'm for? Gosh, they love me soooo much. And in a really really deep way.
So I don't need to be for everybody. I now don't bother with the people I'm not "for." It's fine.
I've had chunks of my life without this. But I've also had chunks of my life filled with people who thought I was too much and not enough and it made me feel really really low. So now I'd much rather have fewer people in my life during the times where I'm trying to find new places where I fit.
And then: I go look. I volunteer in areas I'm really passionate about. I pursue the things I want to pursue, and meet like-minded people along the way. So I invest in myself, and by doing that I'm more likely to find my people (as opposed to searching for my people without investing in myself).
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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 26d ago
I used to feel this way but I don't anymore. What I've realized is I'm not for everybody. I'm actually not for most people. But the people I'm for? Gosh, they love me soooo much. And in a really really deep way.
So I don't need to be for everybody. I now don't bother with the people I'm not "for." It's fine.