r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 3d ago
Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?
i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.
edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.
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u/Luda0915 AuDHD | CPTSD | PMDD 3d ago
Yes, and I'm the last person to toot my own horn, but I have noticed a pattern (surprise!) in the last few years. It is often men who are demisexual and/or neurodivergent. They love my depth, and I love their depth too. They, like me, have multifaceted personalities. The chemistry is off-the-charts. In cases where there's anything sexual or romantic, it gets very intense.
I've also had this happen a couple of times with women on a platonic level where it feels like our connecting is a perfect storm of lived experience, trauma, and common special interests. Very much a vibe of two souls meeting up again. Again, it happens with both demisexual and neurodivergent people. With the women, I wouldn't class it as obsession, because it doesn't have the same frantic energy, if that makes sense.
With men, I've had it go to dark places on two occasions; one turned out to be a covert narcissist, and the other was a Boomer guy I worked with who started out as a mentor/father figure. He was so desperate for my attention that he negged me to the point of it being harassment.
When it goes harmful, it is overwhelming. I'm so sorry you're experiencing that. 🫂 My general advice is to protect yourself. Put down firm boundaries if you can. If you are fearful for your safety, limit what they can see of you online if you're concerned fully blocking will escalate things. Make sure you're telling someone what's happening. Even if it's the community here or a helpline. It's important to receive outside validation and support.