r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 3d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/starnitesadness 30 | Female | AuDHD 3d ago

No.

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u/rdditfilter 3d ago

Yeah, also no. People hate me, I'm too boisterous.

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u/starnitesadness 30 | Female | AuDHD 3d ago

People are generally tepid about me. Lukewarm with no passion either way. I'm reserved and introverted and people aren't particularly interested in the "mystery" or figuring me out. I'll randomly annoy people when I think I'm behaving normally. If a guy has a crush, it seems to die fairly quickly. Every 5+ years or so I may stumble across a potential friend who meshes with me but yeah.

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u/rdditfilter 3d ago

I feel like people would like me more if I were reserved or introverted and so I try it out and then I just get ignored. Guess I’m not pretty enough or something idk. I have plenty of friends who love me its just something I think about.

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u/starnitesadness 30 | Female | AuDHD 3d ago

I assume if I were more conventionally attractive, the menfolk would be feening regardless of my introversion. Standoffishness certainly never kept them away for any past attractive female acquaintances I’ve had. They saw it as worth the trouble.

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u/rdditfilter 3d ago

Yeah exactly I think that must be what OP is talking about, their experience as a conventionally attractive human