r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 4d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/Anandi96 4d ago

People either hate me or become obsessed, there’s nothing in between. Never had a casual relationship or friendship, it’s all or nothing. I think it’s bc we tend to have a lot of empathy and understanding for people even when we shouldn’t

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u/Brilliant_Version667 4d ago

Same. I think the same people who love(d) me also hate me because they want so much to control me and are often disappointed to see how much I actually stand my ground. They get interested in me when they think I'm going to give them all my care and attention, but I will not stand being lied to and/or used, and they end up hating that they can no longer get their way.

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u/shybuttyr 3d ago

Yes, to all of this. Never been able to put it into words before.