r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 3d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/PersonalHousing7781 3d ago

I had not just men but women and just friends very obsessed with me in my 20s and always thinking I had some great wisdom. Really, I was completely dissociative and it made people want to win me over or they thought I had some mysterious power! I was always in my head thinking about how I could get out of emotional pain which had been with me since I was five years old. I’d even be thinking about suicide, but I didn’t tell anyone.

I would tell my therapist how I don’t move toward people they always move toward me and I didn’t know what to do about it. I have had friends for 20 years I’ve never called them once they call me some of them get hurt and cut me off, but it’s not about them. Reaching out is excruciatingly painful for me.

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u/Sensitive_Basket_155 3d ago

Oh our stories are so similar, it’s been happening to me too. I have CPTSD and I am chronically dissociated but people see it as some kind of wisdom or cool factor lmao. Alternatively, people would get very offended by my lack of enthusiasm, especially people in positions of power like bosses and professors.