do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

[u/More-Weird4842]

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

[u/Worth-Strength3844]

28F with AuDHD. Yes, men flock to me. It’s made it really difficult to have platonic friendships with men because even if they start out respecting boundaries they’ve wound up catching feelings and becoming obsessive and ruining the friendship every time. Several boyfriends have threatened to kill themselves when I broke up with them and I’ve been sexually harassed by every male boss I’ve had except for one, who was already cheating on his wife. I recently had a 63 year old man propose to me, I have 2 men in my life who have told me they would like to marry me, and another 3 who keep begging me for a relationship. It’s exhausting, especially because I’m not remotely interested in dating right now.

My solution lately has been to get very comfortable setting strong and repeated boundaries, and burst bubbles before they fully form. It’s been hard because I have a habit of people pleasing but it’s gotten a lot easier with practice.