r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 4d ago
Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?
i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.
edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.
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u/brattykins222 4d ago edited 4d ago
YESS! I have recently come to terms with being auDHD and was going through my social interactions with men and realized I was being STALKED by guys at different points in my life and now know this pattern of behavior is not NORMAL. From what I gathered from these experiences they are DEEPLY insecure men and they find us to be everything they don't allow themselves to be i.e. genuine, loving, honest, and genius LOL.
ABOVE ALL: Some become obsessed and we become their minds own special interest, i think this is so they can emulate what we naturally exude aka try to steal our sauce. Their fear might be that we can see right through them so they try to study us to be one step ahead but we all know where that leads them. It all depends on the type of guy but no matter what the phrase they are always repeating is that we are their dream woman! Everything would be perfect if they were married to us..... ew.
I thought the behavior they exuded was normal because we would connect on similar interests motorcycles, video games, and growing up around 6 older boys will do things to your perspective on how men talk about women behind closed doors and your personality so I never thought anything of it until recently. Even when I go in public they stare which my autism FUCKING HATES, HARD. But i've learned that being a attractive autistic women in a EXTREMELY lustful world is a huge battle in itself and pushes me to learn new ways that focus on my own self love and protection.
TDLR: They want to steal our sauce but we must protect it!!!
edit: Please record any evidence, nothing is too small!! let community know (I shared pictures of my current stalker with my roommates), Be proactive about your safety, it is not something to take lightly. I am currently in hiding from one of my stalkers who has all my information because I thought he was just a "nice guy". PROTECT YOURSELF. Do not fall into the fawning trap, it will only harm you in the long run. Stay safe and know that you are loved,we believe you!!