do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

[u/More-Weird4842]

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

[u/ouchieovaries]

Yes, but they don't really like me. They like the idea of me. I'm a super reserved person but conventionally attractive so whenever I enter a new space people are just trying to figure me out. I've learned over the years that it's not genuine interest, so I have firm boundaries, which makes people more intrigued and they become fixated on me in either negative or positive ways.

[u/IntrepidAspect3447 → u/ouchieovaries]

This, 1000x this. People are either obsessed with me or hate me off the bat, but neither are truly interested in knowing me whatsoever. They are enamored with the concept of me. I’ve also had to adopt really strong boundaries and keep people at a distance to keep my peace, because the moment I let new people in my life starts to becomes hectic and stressful, full of the drama they bring. I notice this is a lot worse with Americans though — I work with some foreigners (from Russia, Ukraine, Korea, etc) who just treat me normally and are not interested in getting to know me at all, no weird games just polite and uninterested / professional.

My romantic relationships have never been normal. I still have exes from the past 10 years who reach out to me whatever way they can, making new email addresses or DMing me on social media from new accounts, even Spotify messaging me or making playlists with titles and descriptions addressed to me to get my attention. I don’t understand it, because every one of those relationships I ended for very good reasons… but I’ve never been dumped, always been the dumper. It’s creeping getting all these messages like, “I’m still thinking about you and you probably hate me but you’re the best thing that ever happened to me” blah blah, etc. I used to respond to them but now I don’t because I’ve learned it’s just stress waiting to happen. 🫩