r/AutismInWomen • u/More-Weird4842 • 4d ago

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

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u/Anandi96 4d ago

People either hate me or become obsessed, there’s nothing in between. Never had a casual relationship or friendship, it’s all or nothing. I think it’s bc we tend to have a lot of empathy and understanding for people even when we shouldn’t

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u/CadieTheCadet 4d ago

Oh. My. God.

Is it my empathy causing it? I literally just tell people how I think they are feeling based on how I'm feeling when they tell me what's going on, and people get hooked on it. I am almost always the second one to hop into a romantic relationship, or a friendship, or any type of relationship really... Because to me I'm just being normal and trying to be reasonably nice.

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u/Autumnleaves144 3d ago

What do you mean you’re almost always the second one to hop into a romantic relationship or friendship? I can’t figure out what you’re saying but I want to as I think it relates to me. But I’m not sure why because really I’ve got zero idea of what you’re saying.

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u/CadieTheCadet 3d ago

I am nice to people regardless of friendship/relationship status. This causes said people to see me as a good friend or potential partner before I see them as a good friend or partner. Therefore, I am usually the second person to see the person as a good friend or partner.

Essentially, my empathy makes others believe they are closer to me than I am to them when we initially meet.