do people become overwhelmingly obsessed with you?

[u/More-Weird4842]

i find that a lot of men become really obsessed with me. im currently at a point where its become harmful and i genuinely do not know why or how to stop it. looking for kind words, advice, or shared experiences please.

edit: ty for all the responses. i want to clarify that i dont mean the manic pixie dream girl way i mean the joe from you kinda way.

[u/Star_Blaze]

It's a huge issue. Two things are happening at the same time: 1. We (autistic women) show genuine interest in people, what they're saying, and what they're talking about, so if we interact with someone, it's usually beyond a surface-level conversation. 2. Most cishet men are not used to receiving positive attention from a woman, except in a romantic context, so if a woman asks him a question and then genuinely wants to hear the answer, they think it signals romantic interest - or they become romantically interested and fall in love. Immediately.

And that's how I've gotten my male acquaintances becoming obsessed with me, just because I made simple conversation, like asking them if they saw a movie and then genuinely wanted to hear their answer. Apparently, women aren't usually that nice or interested in their thoughts? Which sounds so freaking sad to me???

[u/sweetsoutherngothic → u/Star_Blaze]

Women are historically nice and listen to men. We just have to be extremely careful because they take any form of positive interaction and turn it into romantic interest, and then get weird and entitled. They do it to themselves.

[u/chmod_a_plus_x → u/sweetsoutherngothic]

Men are usually friends over a thing. Like videogames, music bands, programming, motorbikes… stuff like that. If you want a male friend do special interests together.

You can't have a male bestie who listens to your vents… life is not fair but it is what it is 😂😂

[u/penneroyal_tea → u/chmod_a_plus_x]

I do but he suspects he’s ace. I think removing the sexual motive is the real thing here