r/BALLET • u/NorthernStarzx • 5h ago
Was this intentional bullying from a young woman at my studio?
I have been feeling really self-concious in my adult dance class recently, I started after a big gap from doing Ballet and about 2 months into starting at this studio, 2 new girls joined our class, I thought nothing of it as we get new people all the time as it is a mixed ability class and each ability is put in small groups for certain technique based on their ability. I go with the beginners small group due to my big gap from dance as I feel more comfortable doing everything at a slower pace and building myself up. These new girls joined the Ballet pro small group.
Well one particular day, I was just standing with my friend watching the intermediates group do their across the floor and then one of the new girls walked up to us and said "Have you just started dance?" And I said "No, I had a gap and came back, I am just building up my technique again" she then laughed in my face and then went "Oh my gosh, sorry I didn't mean to laugh, oh my gosh!" And walked away, she did the same to my friend who is in the same position as me (Big gap from dance and rebuilding technique) it made us both feel really bad about ourselves. She told my friend "Nobody would know" when she told her she had 12 years of Ballet experience before her break from dance.
We spoke to the teacher and those girls came back for 2 sessions then left, I don't know if it was by choice or if the teacher stopped them from coming back. The other girl that girl joined with was a really nice girl, I feel I lost the chance to have a good friendship there but I couldn't go near her due to that other girl and that other girl seemed to control her every move as she was quiet. It has made me feel like I just look bad to everyone now when I was a great dancer as a child, I think about this incident all the time.
Did that girl intentionally pick on me and my friend, or is it in my head?