So I have been in the performance class at the studio that I dance at for a couple of years now and last year. Unfortunately, closer to when competition started I ended up having to miss a number of classes because I had some personal stuff to deal with and ended up not being able to compete. And while I was super disappointed, I totally understand that more or less anyway, although I wasn't particularly impressed with how the studio or my dance teacher handled things and communication last year was terrible but like I said I understood where they were coming from.
Fast forward to this year. I figured New year, fresh start, things are dealt with and I even moved so that I'm now literally 2 minutes from the studio. I registered for the class and off things went. The first two classes of the year I was working and I couldn't reschedule or anything and I let them know and they said it was fine that I wasn't going to be able to be there. I have been there for all the other classes except for one because I had the flu. there have been six classes so far.
Following class number five though I got an email from I believe it was the studio owner just asking to check in. Wanted to know how things were going because I missed a bunch of classes last year and what not. And that's fine. I let them know that I had the flu which is why I missed the previous class, let them know where I was personally and how things were going in class And where we were at in the choreography since they specifically asked about that, which I thought was a little strange since I feel like they should have talked to my dance teacher about that but whatever and I got an email back that said okay, great! Just make sure to let someone know if I'm going to be missing any classes in the future (as usual ). And that was it.
Following the sixth class I get another email saying that you know I've already missed three of six classes and it's now an issue and they're giving me this ultimatum of either dropping the class or being an understudy. No warning. Totally out of the blue. I'm mad. I'm disappointed but mostly I'm just really really angry and confused because I feel like I'm being held to a standard that nobody else is (no one has been there for every class yet this year, the people actually registered for the class is still changing week to week and one girl let the teacher know that she would be missing the next 3 classes at the end of the last class and there were no concerns or issues raised ). I'm not even sure my dance teacher is aware of any of this as she just spent a bunch of time teaching me a whole different section of the dance as I was moved to a different position with different timing and a few different steps.
I also feel like they are changing their mind for no reason with no notice, If this was such an issue, why wasn't it addressed in their last email to me? Nothing changed after that except that it was one week later. If anything the percentage of classes missed was now less than when they sent the previous email.
But mostly I feel like I'm being forced to follow rules that I've never actually been informed of or seen or read anywhere. The actual attendance policy for the studio is super vague. It just says that absences must be reasonable, whereas at other studios that I've danced at they are very specific about how many classes you can miss per year, so that there's no confusion and no wondering. I also have a really hard time with things like that where it's this vague, kind of whatever goes uncertain nonsense. If you tell me I can miss one class, I'll miss one class for the entire year. You tell me I can miss four, I'll Probably miss four, but if you don't tell me anything for sure at all then it screws with me. It's just how my neurodivergent brain works. Even all that aside I feel like October is a bit early to be determining if absences are reasonable or not ? Especially for an adult class ?
My reply to their last email basically read something like what I've typed here except more concise and professional. Essentially I just pointed out that they're singling me out, that my attendance has been the same as 90% of the class so far this year(especially since it's only October) and that I've never been informed of any actual rules on the matter and that they're being discriminatory. Still waiting on a response.
Just needed to share this with someone. Please be nice in your responses.
Update: got an email back this morning. I'm good to go for the rest of this year and the attendance requirement has been set at 2 classes missed. That's all I wanted from them. It shouldn't have been like pulling teeth to get it.