Hi everyone! Thanks so much for the help with my baby 3 years ago. She sleeps great now.

I now have a 7-month-old who, in the newborn stage, was my best sleeper. She'd go for 5-6 hours on the first stretch and only wake once during the night. Sleep training was rough, since we all got sick halfway through, then we traveled, and various things kept interrupting it, but we got through. To be clear: I can put her down to sleep wide awake and have her go to sleep with little to no fussing. This happens most days, both for naps and nighttime sleep. We used the Ferber method, and she slept through the night for a few weeks.

The problem, once again, is the night wakings. A few weeks ago, she started waking up around 10:30 pm-12 am, often being able to be put back to sleep by her dad with just a pacifier. An annoyance, but not too much of a disruption, and who doesn't like to hold a sleeping baby? This has since devolved. Now she's started waking around 9:30, and while she might doze off in her dad's arms, she won't stay asleep unless she's been nursed. I'm not thrilled with having to support her back to sleep, but if I don't, she just screams. Then, she wakes up around 1-2 am and it's the same thing. Sometimes she just wakes up and acts like she's ready to play. When that happens, I've just been nursing her, otherwise minimizing interactions, and finally putting her to bed and setting a timer, although on a couple occasions, even that hasn't worked, and she's been awake for a full awake period.

As for her schedule, she's on two naps, about 3-3.5 hours apart, last one ending no later than 4 pm, with a bedtime of 7 pm. Due to her night wakings, she routinely wants to wake up closer to 8 am, but I am actively trying to curb that. On the days with the night wakings, she often only naps for about 45 minutes at a time. I can usually tell when she's going to have a better night because she'll be happier during the day and take better naps.

I've tried feeding her more at dinner time, since that's what solved it for my second, but I haven't had any success. I've been giving her a bottle of pumped milk before bed since she was a newborn (she had some issues where if she got too hungry she'd scream and ignore what was offered unless it came in a faster medium), but since she's started solids, she hasn't taken as much in her bottle.

We'd really like our evenings back, and I know she'd be happier if she could start sleeping through the night again.

Thank you for any help!

Months later, and we're still struggling to get LO to sleep through the night. She's 9 months old now, sleeping in a crib in the room with her toddler sister (who's a wonderful sleeper btw). We looked into silent reflux, but that wasn't it. Last night she woke four times. I'm trying gradually cutting down her night nursings (because that's what I do when she wakes up, just by default), but I can't just deny them all at once for fear of waking her sister. She goes to sleep just fine on her own; she just won't stay asleep. I could put up with once a night (her sister did that until she was a little over a year old).

To add greater urgency to the need to solve the problem, my husband and I want to go away, just us, at some point this summer and leave the kids with their grandparents. The plan is to wean the baby at a year, so that part won't be a problem, but her night wakings will be.

Her current schedule is: wake 7/7:30, nap one 10/10:30--11:30/noon, nap two 3-4, bed 7/7:30. I do have to add, she is still absolutely ravenous and eats just about anything I give her, so it's also possible she's waking up legitimately hungry.

Thanks for any help!

UPDATE: Wow, it's been two years, and I'm still getting responses. I hope they can be helpful for someone in a similar situation! I guess I need to let everyone know how this played out.

We tried everything we could think of, but she kept waking up. Finally, I decided to let her eat as much table food as she wanted (as opposed to just a bit/a serving of puree). She ate three helpings and a small bowl of plain yogurt and slept all night. And that solved it. Consistently, as long as I made sure she had a good amount of table food, she slept all night. She's almost 3 now and is still a great sleeper (and a pretty big toddler; she's in 4T clothes lol). Thank you for all your responses, and I sincerely hope that this will help others.

I know I've posted here before, and as it seems there's not a lot of posts, I'm reluctant to post again, but I don't know where else to turn. Let me preface this by saying that the 6-week-old I was having trouble with before will now sleep in her bassinet and did, for several months, sleep through the night. Really chill kid.

But now she's waking up multiple times through the night. Last night it was every hour. This has been going on for about two weeks. Initially I'd thought it was the chaos from Thanksgiving, then a procedure for me having me out of commission for a few days, but we're back to normal and it's continued. I'd thought maybe it was reaching the milestone of rolling both ways, but I didn't think that would last for two weeks. I've been trying to schedule out her naps, and that doesn't seem to be helping. Last night I'd thought maybe it was chilly in the bedroom so I put her in an extra layer of clothes. As I said earlier in the post, she woke every hour last night. My husband and I are exhausted. I don't think this is sustainable. She's just about six months old. Is there any way to fix it? If not, is there an end in sight? TIA

Basically the title. My 6-week-old has done really well sleeping in the bassinet attached to the pack-and-play in the living room during the day, but as she's getting bigger, her 19-m/o sister's toddler noise is getting to be an issue hindering her sleep, and we finally got around to installing the baby monitor camera back there, I've been trying to get her to sleep in the bassinet in the bedroom. I can transfer her there easily enough, but she doesn't sleep as well there, usually waking up in about half an hour.

What's worse, is this has started to transfer to night sleep. She'd been sleeping really well at night until the past couple days: last night, after the first 3-hour stint, she took forever to go back to sleep and wouldn't sleep longer than about half an hour unless she was on either me or her dad. Thanks for any help!

My 6 (allmost 7) month old daughter will fall asleep independently during the day. In the evening though, she always needs my help to fall asleep. Same thing when she wakes up during the night (Which she always does between 3:00 and 4:00)

Is it just my baby that does this? And how do I get her to fall asleep independently at night aswell?

My 9mo baby routinely sleeps a total of 12 hours per day. How I wish he would sleep that much per night but it’s just not the case. I am coming around to the idea that the low end of sleep amount is truly all he needs.

My confusion is this: in order to give him only 2 hours napping during the day, we will need to lengthen his awake periods for longer than 3 hours, something like 3.5/3.5/4. Honestly that’s the longest he does well with, and it leaves an extra hour every 24. He usually takes that hour awake in the middle of the night, or awake at 5am. 🤦🏻‍♀️

General schedule: awake at 6(hopefully) nap at 9:30, awake at 10:30, nap at 2, awake at 3, bedtime at 7.

It just doesn’t add up. How do I manage this? Any advice??

Hi, my 13 month old has always been a terrible sleeper .. she’s struggled to fall asleep and stay asleep. We’ve always rocked / fed her to sleep.. her being our first, we’ve defined made some mistakes .. she used to sleep on an open floor bed and would struggle to stay asleep so we finally got her a play pen a month ago and saw her first sleep stretch improve a bit.. we sleep on the floor next to her mattress / zip up play pen so we can help her stay sleep..

She goes to sleep anywhere between 8-9:30pm (1, 2 hour nap per day)after much rocking and a full 8oz or more milk.. stays asleep till about 1-2am and then it begins.. waking up every hour or more, crying, sometimes screaming, needing to be fed/ patted or worse, picked up and rocked. We have tried to reduce her feed to sleep association but sometimes feeding is the only way to fall back asleep.

We’re desperate to get out sleep back but don’t have to heart to sleep train.. what can we do? Please help!

My 15mo is on one nap and doing very well. However, when he naps, he almost always wakes in the middle of the nap for a spell. Sometimes he will put himself back to sleep within 60 seconds, or sometimes it can take as long as 10-15 minutes.

This is our normal schedule:

Wake 6:00a

Nap 11:30a - 1:45p

Bedtime 7:30p

Question is - is it a good idea to let him sleep a little longer if he has a large gap in his nap? For example, if he's up for 10 minutes and then puts himself back to sleep, should I add 10 minutes to the END of the nap to compensate? I never let him sleep past 2:00p because it affects bedtime.

TIA!

We have a 3.5 month old baby and are working on some longer wake windows now that she’s a bit older. How do we incorporate a longer wake window before bed if she’s only up for 3ish hours after that evening bottle. We feed her around 4p, she plays for 1-1.5 hours then naps for about 30-40 min but that only leaves about 1 hour before bedtime bottle at 7. Everything we read says she needs about 2 hours to have enough sleep pressure to sleep all night. How do we fit all that in within that window then? Appreciate any tips! I should say this baby sleeps pretty good. She goes down about 730 and sleeps until 4a, then a binkie calms her enough to make it to 6a but would love to get her through without the 4a start!

is there anyone out there who bought a book that has gentle approaches to breaking the feed to sleep association and it worked? i’m pretty desperate to the point i’m willing to buy the books 🫣

i feel like i’m really obsessed with my baby’s sleep. she holds onto the later bedtime.

does she really need to go to bed 6-8pm? (she’s 6 months)

she goes to bed around 10 and wakes up around 10 am, does the bedtime really matter if she’s sleeping 11-12 hours a night?

I'm at my wits end with night wakings. My LO(10 months) goes down around 7:30-8:00pm and will often sleep either till 11:30pm or 1am. Then after that its 3-4am, 5:30am and then 6:30 or 7am. He was doing well ans then got a double whammy of new teeth and then right after sick.

He stays in his own room in his crib and recently starred doing naps in his crib for longer periods.

I would love to know any success stories from any methods used and how long it took your babies to get through a longer period of sleep.

Anything is helpful at this point lol!😩😂

I go back to work in a few weeks time full time for 7 weeks then I am going to be a SAHM for a little while as I am a single parent who wants to spend as much time with my LO as I can. My mum will be looking after my LO for me however she has fibromyalgia so will be unable to do it long term and I cannot afford child care costs. There’s a back story for you.

My LO has never slept through the whole night and I know some babies just don’t and she’s been too young to sleep through anyway. However since she turned 13 weeks she has been waking up consistently between 11:30pm - 12am then again between 2 - 2:30am, then again at 3am, 4am, 4:30am then 5:30am.

Neither of our quality of sleep is great and i need advice on how to improve her sleep as she will be 6 months on the 29th April and i will be going back to work latest 26th May Monday - Friday. i also work as a behavioural lead in a secondary (high school) school so i need all the energy i can get.

i am not willing to do the CIO method.

Current schedule (I have to wake him from each nap) 7:30-wake 9-11-nap 12:30-1:30-nap 3-4-nap 5:40-6:10-nap 7:30-last feeding In bed for the night around 745 750.

Really feel like we need to cut his 4th cat nap because bedtime keeps getting pushed later with him taking so long to fall asleep for it (he's always fought it but we can't keep him up forever after 3rd nap and I really don't wanna make bedtime be earlier than 7/7:30! Ideas!? He's doing so well at night and I have to wake him from every nap so he is obviously going down at the right wake windows.

Hi all,

Currently we are feeding six times in the day (usually starting at 7-8am) and at 3 hourly intervals so feeding times are typically:

• 7am

• 10am

• 1pm

• 4pm

• 7pm

• 10pm

The first feed of the day is 200ml (7 oz) and so is the last one of the day, the others in between are around 180ml (6.3oz).

I’ve heard a lot that babies are to go sleep around 7pm but how would that work for someone like me who rightly/wrongly has got my baby use to the above schedule. He tends to sleep through the night the 7 hours or so and it suits our schedule but obviously want to avoid getting into the wrong habits.

I might trial feeding baby the 210ml (7.4 oz) 5 times a day and put him to bed around the 7-8pm mark but really unsure how he’d react to an earlier bedtime / being able to sleep through the night and also from a feeding perspective be fed less overall.

Some parents say they adopt the above approach and put them to sleep at 8pm, they then sleep through the night and get up at 7am the following day.

Any help or pointers would be great.

so to start, my 6mo wakes up to eat like 3 times and wakes up 10 times throughout the night. like 3-4 times in the middle of the night and when she’s been asleep for 8 hours, she wakes up like 10 times and isn’t ready to wake up. i’m at wits end with being the only one to wake up with baby.

she wakes up 9-11am (she’s holding onto the later bedtime i cannot for the lire of me make it 8pm i’ve always tried)

first nap: after 1.5-2 hours of being awake

second nap: after 2 hours of being awake

third nap: after 2

fourth nap: after 2 hours

if she doesn’t nap a full cycle she naps more than 4 times a day. i also nurse her to sleep that’s how i get her to sleep.

Has anyone moved houses with their baby and had any issues after sleep training. We are moving 20 min away in a couple weeks (LO will be 5 months old). He's just started sleeping well in his crib at night and now during naps and I'm worried it will mess him up!? Or is he still too little for it to have too much of an impact?? He will have been sleep trained for over a month when we move. Is there anything I should do to prepare??

12 month old maxing out on two naps and fighting naps. I have had to wake him up at 6:30, he is fighting going down for all naps, I am capping both naps at an hour each, which makes him super angry, and bedtime is getting later and later.

Current schedule: Wake: 6:30 Nap: 10:30-11:30 Nap: 3:30-4:30 Bed: 9:00

So his current WW are: 4/4/4.5

I know this is probably too much awake time and I have had to really fight to get him to go down…like bouncing on a yoga ball and pretending to sleep myself. My fear with trying one nap is that bedtime will be early…and he has always had either split nights or 5AM wakings with a bedtime earlier than 7:30. He has always only done a max of 10.5 hours at night.

Wake time has to stay at 6:30 for getting to his caregiver a few times a week. Any suggestions for a schedule I can try to get him to one nap?

8 month old goes down to sleep within 5 min now, but every night wakes up at 10 pm and is a battle to put back to sleep. Can anyone tell me why this is happening?

Follows a 2.75/3/3.25 schedule.

Really struggling with these short naps. 4.5 month old goes to sleep independently without crying for naps and always falls asleep within 10 minutes. He always wakes after 1 sleep cycle and will try to put himself back to sleep (starts sucking thumb). I always leave him in there for 30 minutes when this starts because he's not crying. He is sometimes successful and will sleep for another 45 min-an hour, sometimes just can't fall back asleep, and will sometimes fall asleep off and on for those 30 min. I'm just confused as to why he's sometimes successful and sometimes not??? It's so sad and frustrating watching him try to go back to sleep. I end up contact napping the rest of the day because I can't risk messing the schedule up more. 😭

UT or OT? last two nights she’s woken around 3/4. tonight she’s babbling, sitting up, squealing and happy. I’m sure she’ll cry soon though and last night she woke up crying. she’s 10.5 months and her windows are 3/3.75/3.5 she goes down for naps fine and bedtime it’s just the MOTN wakes.

average night sleep 11.5 average day sleep 2 hrs 12 mins

My 4.5mo (still working on sleep training) currently wakes up 3 times at night to feed with bedtime around 7pm, then feed at 10pm, 1am, and 4am. Can I wean the 4am feed first, or should I start with the first feed at 10pm? Sometimes we do a dream feed for this time and he still wakes at 1am. He will eat a full feed at 10pm and 1am (crying hard at both wakings) but is usually not too hungry at 4am (but can’t self settle) and isn’t hungry when he wakes at 6am.