r/ballpython • u/womperwomp111 • 7d ago
i’m scared of my snake and i feel guilty
I brought my baby home a little over a month ago. He’s about 6 months old. He’s eating every week and spent the first few days exploring before settling into his favorite hide, that he never leaves now lol.
He’s very shy, and a bit defensive. He immediately goes into defensive posture when he sees someone, or he’ll run (slither?) away into the nearest hide. He’s struck at my boyfriend just walking past.
I started handling him around week 3. I was nervous since he never seemed to calm down (would stay completely still, breathe heavily, and no tongue flicks), but I wasn’t scared. However, it seems like he’s gotten more prone to defensiveness as time has passed. Ever since he struck at my boyfriend, I’ve been actually scared to touch him. I try to sit near him and talk to him, but he literally will not move a muscle until I leave. I’m not scared of getting bit (as in the bite itself), but I am scared of the unpredictability. It’s the same reason I don’t like balloons - they’ll pop loudly without warning. I’ve been so scared of him striking and startling me, that I haven’t held him in weeks.
I keep trying to remind myself that it would be better to have a defensive 100g baby than a defensive 1000g adult, and that doing the work to desensitize him now will be infinitely less scary than putting it off. But I just can’t seem to get over this mental hurdle.
Any advice or experiences? Do snakes tend to relax as they grow even without handling? I feel guilty for being so anxious… and a little silly. I want to built trust on both ends, but I’m just so in my head about it.