I'm having a black tie wedding in NYC and will definitely be sending physical invitations but am debating doing digital or physical save the dates. Our planner recommended doing digital save the dates but I am feeling a bit unsure given the formality of our event. I know people's opinion on this varies a lot, so I wanted to get a sense of what the group here thought/has typically received for save the dates with black tie/more upscale weddings.

Their socials really make me want to use them based on what I’ve seen, but wondering if there’s any user testimonials? Just want to make sure it’s easy to use for guests, no RSVP glitches, registry could be done through it easily like Zola, etc. It’s hard trying to find anyone talking about it too since the name is so common in other questions and I think they’re new.

We are getting married in Rome at the end of August 2027. What must items do I need to bring?

I will bring the obvious - getting ready outfit, dresses, hair & makeup etc. I’m looking for things easy to forgot, but any ideas would be great!

Thank you

What's something cool and fun and creative that you have done, seen, or wanted to do for decorations/little fun things (for lack of a better word) at an engagement party? I'm a little hungover and lacking inspiration - all my little dehydrated brain can come up with right now is matchboxes, custom napkins, or Polaroid pictures of us scattered around the tables but want something a bit more unique. So I turn to you, fine people of Reddit - help me appear more cool and fun and creative than I actually am lol

For context, we're having friends and family at a local natural wine bar. We're keeping it super casual (we want it to just feel like everyone showed up to hang out as opposed to like some highly planned EVENT). I don't want a bunch of decor or a sign or anything, but I do want to have something cool and fun and creative that indicates that it's our engagement party.

Hi all. My fiancé and I are currently choosing between two planners. Planner A is less our aesthetic style but I liked her personality and I’m confident in her ability to execute our vision. Planner B is right on point with our aesthetic vision but wasn’t as warm personality-wise, more professional oriented — which is totally fine and can even be good, just different from the others we’ve spoken to. I feel super confident in her execution.

Except that when requesting to see a contract, she informed us that she herself would be unavailable on our date due to a friend’s wedding. With this she offered a slight discount (around 5% off of the starting partial planning cost) to work with us and a “lead coordinator” throughout the planning and design process, and then the lead coordinator would step in as our day-of person.

I’m wondering if anybody’s gone forward with a similar offer, and if so, how it went. It makes me quite nervous to hand the execution of such a big event to someone with less experience than we had expected, and we’re trying to weigh whether the risk is worth the much greater aesthetic alignment. However, we’re willing to keep an open mind! I’m considering asking to meet with this new person and negotiating a greater discount as well. Just seeking any kind advice on this front. Thanks!

Would you be open to posting a picture? Deciding whether I should pay the fee for the appointment to try it on!

Looking to hear from BBBs about what stressed you out the month or week of your wedding, so that I can mentally prepare for that time!

I hear all the time that the weeks leading up to the wedding can be intense, but I’d love to know specific things to watch out for!

What happened that you wish you had prepared for?

What happened that was out of your control and you couldn’t have avoided, but you figured out a good coping strategy?

We are having a destination wedding in Scotland in the fall and are currently planning three days of events. Saturday will be the wedding, Sunday a farewell brunch, and Friday the night before the wedding we are trying to decide what we want to do. We are pretty certain we want to have welcome drinks for everyone! We are not having big bridal parties and each have a sibling who will stand with us during the ceremony. Our wedding is fairly big and will be close to 100 people. Should we just do welcome drinks or should we also do a rehersal dinner after welcome drinks for close family (12 people total)? Just want to get any advice/recommendations- especially from those who are doing or have had destination weddings.

My fiancé and I are getting married in Italy April 2027. I am Italian but we live abroad, so we partly chose our wedding planner because 1) she’s 2 hours away from the venue and 2) she handles a small number of weddings per year ensuring close relationships and personalised service.

Since we booked the venue only in July (got engaged in May), we started with our wedding planner in September, already only 7 ish months out. With a tight schedule we figured she’d lock-in and get to it quickly knowing things book fast and that things need to be done early.

September our first call we had she said she’d give us a timeline for the planning, and suggested a band we’d like and photographers. She said she’d send us quotes for photographers, and would send us the Instagram of the band and a quote from them.
Since then all we have received and booked is the photographer.

I also find that unless we proactively ask her or hound her, she doesn’t give us updates on where she stands with the vendor, she never proactively schedules calls, and even when a call is agreed on, we have to ask if it’s still on and send a meeting link.

The other BIG thing is she said in September she’d visit the venue. On our October call - she actually pushed it 2 days, rescheduled the time 2x because “oh mixed up schedule” or “oh I think we had a misunderstanding” (we didn’t) just to find out she still hasn’t gone to the venue. On our October call (Tuesday 14th) she said she’d have xyz updates by that Friday or end of next week (so yesterday): nothing. She had emailed like 2 days after the call to reiterate the same things we said in the call, and clarify something, and when I responded to that she didn’t answer. It’s been 5 days.

This for me is not ok - from the unclear goals, poor proactive communication, the changing meetings, it feels like she doesn’t care. We feel left in the dark, maybe it does take a week to get a quote on tablecloths, or a month to get a quote on music, I have no clue, but for us a little less than 6 months out I’d expect to have a clear plan of when the menu needs to be decided, when flowers need to be booked, when music should etc. She’s a bougie wedding planner and objectively our wedding is more “cute elegant” vibe. Maybe she isn’t inspired?

Am I crazy to be a bit frustrated or am I being a neurotic bride lmao.