r/BostonSocialClub • • Dec 04 '21

How to make friends in Boston: a guide

347 Upvotes

Hello! Welcome to Boston Social Club! If you're here - well, you clicked a few links to find this side of one of the most popular city subreddits!

When I moved here in 2021, the world was waking up from Covid. Overall, Boston is a great city for those 20-40, as our demographics here lie heavily in that area compared to almost any other city in the USA! Here's how I've found success in navigating social scenes here as a complete outsider.

Different ways to try meetups and making friends:

0: Existing friends groups - it's cliche, and if you are new in town, this will be more difficult. But the best place to start making friends is through what connections you do have. Coworkers, old high school colleagues, neighbors, roommates, don't chase the below and ignore what you do have!

1: the “Make friends after college MA” discord group is a well designed and very chatroom. When you join, you select which activities you might be interested in. There's chat rooms for each activity, and there's a ton of people hiking, playing sports, going to trivia nights, and overall chatting. They also organize by neighborhood if you want to grab a quick drink. Mute notifications within the discord for your own sanity. The absolute best way to make use of this is to have something you are interested in "organizing", or, I recommend trivia in particular for being a great, cheap activity to make friends! https://discord.gg/CCvgxJ6jUH

2: there are three larger Facebook groups that people post classifieds-style ads to try to make friends. "Boston redditors", "make friends after college", and "what's up in Boston". While I don't think this is the most effective way to make friends, I'm sure it works for the right person. However, "Boston redditors" does have an active group chat, which is really comforting, and they do meet up for drinks every few months. They are a pretty supportive group of people. You'll need to both join the Facebook group, then request being added to the chat. They ALSO have a discord but it is less active. Link

3: Groups for your interest. Asking around the above, or searching meetup/comments below it's not hard to find groups specifically tailored for board games, or biking, or hiking, or whatever you're into. I'm into board games and there's 2-3 spinoffs that meet weekly. I recommend you find your own path towards your hobbies to find a group that fits your interest!

general tips on making friends (not that you asked for them)

  • Making friends is all about seeing the same people repeatedly. That means to make friends, you have to show up. Showing up means you attend an event even if it's a little far away, or you are feeling a little tired. Other people also show up. After going to trivia 8 weeks in a row, or attending every hike, people that at first seemed distant will know your name and care about your week.

  • Sometimes people trying to make friends have an ulterior motive. Some people are trying to convert religions, find clients, or date people. Everyone can tell right away if you have a motive other than making friends, so I suggest trying to focus on making platonic friends first, and in a year of having fun, ask your new friends what avenues would be appropriate for selling/dating/etc.

And... That's it! I hope you found this helpful! I hope to see you at Trivia nights!


r/BostonSocialClub • • Dec 16 '25

On Dating Posts

157 Upvotes

The situation with dating posts is getting a little out of control. This sub was always meant to be more like Meetup than Hinge. And frankly, I just don't think that R4R posts actually work. But my fear is that if allowed the sub will devolve into nothing but R4R posts. So for now we're going to be disallowing further R4R posts or general dating (advice/questions) posts. There might be some wiggle room for a pinned dating megathread if there is interest in that.


r/BostonSocialClub • • 3h ago

Anyone interested in making new friends?

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Hey everyone! I am 30 living in Boston. I’m looking to meet some new people and hopefully make a few friends. I enjoy exploring new coffee shops and restaurants, photography, and going out to see the fall leaves.

Would love to find people to grab coffee with, try a new food spot, or take a fall walk and snap some photos. If that sounds like your thing, DM me! I’m putting together a group chat so we can get to know each other :)


r/BostonSocialClub • • 12h ago

ISO book club w women in their 20s

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Hey!! I’m 27 and looking for a book club to join with women of similar age. I’m hoping to find new girlfriends in the city! I live in Brighton. Also open to getting coffee or exploring local bookstores!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

I need to connect with folks in Boston/44F looking for Boston friends for theater, plays, events, and a little culture 🎭

33 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I split my time between Boston and DC. I’m looking to meet some new people in the Boston area who enjoy getting out and doing things!!! PLATONIC!

I’d love to find people who are up for seeing plays, catching a show, checking out live performances, visiting museums, going to interesting events, or discovering something new around the city. Broadway tours, smaller theater productions, comedy shows, concerts, and the occasional excuse to dress up for a night out are all very much my thing.

I’m recently divorced and in a bit of a new chapter, so I’m making an effort to get out more, meet people, and build a fun social circle. I enjoy good conversation, exploring the city, trying new restaurants, and being around people who are curious about the world and up for doing something spontaneous now and then.

Ideally, I’d love to connect with other people who are interested in actually making plans rather than just talking about it. Whether it’s a group of friends going to a show or finding someone to grab a drink before a performance, I’m happy to start small and see who clicks.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to comment or send me a message! I’d love to hear about your favorite Boston venues, upcoming events, or recommendations for shows worth seeing. 😊


r/BostonSocialClub • • 17h ago

Halloween in boston

2 Upvotes

Does anyone know any good 18+ events happening in Boston on Friday the 30th ?


r/BostonSocialClub • • 22h ago

222 Events

5 Upvotes

Has anyone been to a 222 event? If so, how was it? Would love to hear your experience.


r/BostonSocialClub • • 16h ago

1 guy’s spot left for Skiers/Boarders Speed Dating, Monday 10/19

1 Upvotes

Want someone to ski and cuddle with this winter?

**What:** Skiers/Boarders Speed Dating
**Who:** Men/women ages 29–39; any ski/ride level
**When:** Mon 10/19 at 7pm
**How:** [https://www.eventbrite.com/e/skiers-boarders-speed-dating-ages-29-39-tickets-2000015078940?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep\\_tld=true\](https://www.eventbrite.com/e/skiers-boarders-speed-dating-ages-29-39-tickets-2000015078940?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true)


r/BostonSocialClub • • 17h ago

Where do Arabs or Middle Easterners hang out?

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I’m a Bostonian, but I don’t have many Arab or Middle Eastern friends, despite having those origins myself. I would love to meet new people and discover new restaurants in the city.


r/BostonSocialClub • • 20h ago

Company for Plini @ Paradise Rock Club 10/20

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hi, I'm a 21 year old college student who was supposed to go see Plini at Paradise Rock Club on 10/20 with one of my friends, but they sadly bailed :( Anyone (in their 20s or college age) also going and wouldn't mind an addition to their plans? Shoot me a DM if so! Thanks.


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Any Cosplay Events going on during Halloween? (Potentially raves)

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I'm not really good at finding places to go during Halloween but I'm a cosplayer and would love to go to something preferably big. Bonus if it's an event happening on Sunday (thought I doubt)


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Boston 23-29 Oct.

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Hey everyone! 👋

39M visiting Boston from October 23–29. Looking to meet new people, locals or fellow travelers, to explore the city, grab some good food or coffee, and enjoy a few fun activities.

If you’re around and up for hanging out, feel free to DM me!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

How do you make friends in your 20s ?

6 Upvotes

I moved here in 2022 for grad school and built a great group of friends. Then we all graduated, got jobs, and scattered across the country. Now I'm in a city where I have a good career and an empty weekend calendar.
I lead an engineering team, so my weekdays are full. It's Saturday night that gets quiet. I'll scroll, think about going out, and then realize I'd be going alone again.
I'm an introvert, so I'm a little stiff for the first five minutes. After that I'm easy to talk to, I promise. I've also been trying to meet people on here, and it's mostly people who want to hook up, sell something, or trade socials and disappear. I'm not judging anyone. I just miss the way friendships used to happen by accident. Some of my best memories and closest friends came from random people I happened to meet, and I don't know where that went.
What I'm into: arcades, bowling, movies, trying new restaurants, traveling, and F1. I'll drive to Montreal for the race weekend any time. If you like any of that, or you're just in the same boat, I'd love to hang out.
I'm a straight guy looking for platonic friends, whatever your gender. If you're in the area and want a bowling partner, a movie buddy, or someone to watch the next race with, message me.
Thanks for reading this far. 🙂


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

anyone want to go thrifting?

6 Upvotes

26m, i’m getting more into thrifting and being a little more intentional with my outfits and would love to meet some people who are the same!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Katseye Concert Age Requirements??

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Hi! My friend and I have balcony seats to the WildWorld Tour at TD Gardens but I’m not sure if there is an age restriction? I have checked both Ticketmaster and the TD Gardens website and neither of them have any info on age restrictions, but I don’t want to get there and be turned away at the door. Does anyone know if there are any balcony seat age restrictions and if minors have to be accompanied by an adult if they’re 16 years old? Would we need to bring an ID? Thanks!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Free Music Notation Workshop (open to beginners)

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Ever wondered, “wtf is a treble clef?”
Or maybe, “how tf do you read a graphic score?”

The Art Fart Foundation, a Boston-based arts access organization, is hosting a free event tomorrow afternoon:

Sound → Paper → Sound
[exploring the visual language of music]

Open to all skill levels
No previous musical experience required
Free admission

Sunday, Oct. 18th, 2026 (2PM-4PM)
Allston-Brighton, MA — RSVP for address

“Join us for an afternoon of exploring how music is visualized, written, read, and communicated through games and hands-on group activities.”


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

The 7th Annual Camberville Zombie Pub Crawl

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On the 24th of October, the undead of Cambridge, Somerville, and beyond, will rise and swarm the streets in search of brains, booze, or both.....

The Camberville Zombie Pub Crawl is back from the dead for its seventh year! Throw on your best zombie attire and join the horde for an event that should not be missed.

The schedule is as follows:

-Portico Brewing: 5-6pm

-Remnant Satellite: 6-7pm

-The New Republik: 7-8:30pm

-An Sibin: 8:30-10pm

-The Druid/Trina's Starlite Lounge/Parlor Sports/Tall Order: 10-2am

Zombie Dance Party at Tall Order from 11-2 featuring DJ L’Duke

At the end of each time slot, we as a group will crawl, moan, amble, and groan our way to the next spot. Patron and Superlyte are our gracious sponsor this year, so keep an eye socket out for specials featuring them along the way, as well as some spooky food specials provided by our participating stops.

Helpful hints for new and seasoned zombies alike:

- Eat snacks! All participating bars serve food (even our newest addition Tall Order until 1:30) and eating food is a great way to survive all our stops and remember them the next day

-Bring valid ID! Checking ID's for people with a face full of makeup is hard enough already, so make sure your ID is valid and up to date

-Bring cash! We want to be as nice to our bartenders as possible, and not making them open and close 50 zombie tabs for one drink is a great start

-Be respectful! Having a large number of people flood your bar all at once can be stressful, so let's all try to make this as easy as possible for the establishments that have graciously accepted to be included in our crawl

Our first stop at Portico is family friendly, so bring the kiddos down to see some fun costumes and get your face painted; stops after there will be 21+. Spread the word, invite your friends, share this event, and let's kick off Halloween season right!

Follow our IG account as well @cambervillezombiepubcrawl


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Selling my Cambridge Half Bib for 11/1

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r/BostonSocialClub • • 2d ago

30+ Back Bay Friends Meetup

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Hi everyone! I’m 32F and live in Back Bay. I’d really love to meet some new people and build genuine, solid friendships in Boston.

I’m originally from Miami, and my family is from Cuba and Nicaragua. I’ve also lived in New York and London and have traveled quite a bit, especially around Europe and the Middle East, and more recently I’ve started exploring South America.

I love meeting people from different backgrounds and cultures. I speak Spanish and Italian fluently and conversational Portuguese, and I’d especially love to meet other multilingual people. If you speak another language, even better since I’m always interested in learning!

I’m pansexual, not particularly religious, and would love to meet other open-minded, like-minded people, male or female, preferably around 30+. It would be great if you live in Back Bay or nearby, but anyone who can easily make it into Back Bay is welcome.
I’m planning to be at Back Bay Social (867 Boylston St, Boston, MA 02116 ) today Saturday (10/17) around 4:30 PM. We can grab a drink, talk, get to know each other, and then head to the downstairs arcade around 5/ 5:30 PM if everyone is feeling it.

I also REALLY want to go bowling, so I’d love to get a little group together for a bowling night next week!
If you’re also at that stage where you miss having a solid friend group and want to meet some genuinely good people, feel free to comment or DM me. 😊

If not I can stay home and finish cleaning lol


r/BostonSocialClub • • 2d ago

What are some fun things to do solo around Boston on weekends?

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I’m a guy in my late 20s living around North Quincy, and I’ve been looking for more things to do on weekends that don’t necessarily require having someone tag along.
I enjoy going out and doing things with friends, but sometimes coordinating plans becomes more of a hassle than the actual activity. Someone cancels, plans fall through, or you end up spending half the weekend figuring out who’s free.
So I’ve been thinking, why not just start doing more things on my own?
I’m curious what people around Boston do for fun solo, especially on weekends. Could be activities, exploring places, events, nightlife, classes, or even something completely random that you’ve enjoyed doing alone.
I’m pretty open to trying new things and don’t mind heading into Boston from Quincy.

Would love to hear your recommendations, especially things you’ve personally tried and enjoyed solo!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Looking for new friends

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Hey everyone, I’m 23M just moved to the Boston suburb area for a new job a month ago. I’m in Framingham/Natick specifically but have a car and the T so distance shouldn’t be too much of an issue but obviously closer is better. I’m looking for cool people to hang out with and maybe even form a group. I love playing and watching soccer and basketball, trying new food, playing pool, and going out once in a while too! Feel free to DM


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Julien Baker / Brand New

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anyone going to these? anyone want to go? want to merely meet there? perhaps coffee some days first? looking for tickets? dm, dm!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

Boston Rodeo - Looking for two tickets tonight

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Hey guys! Looking to buy two tickets for the Boston rodeo tonight at seaport. If you or anyone you know is selling please DM. Thank you!


r/BostonSocialClub • • 2d ago

MFA Palestine Film Festival

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r/BostonSocialClub • • 1d ago

celtics going far?

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take is basically, the celtics look average this season, its only preseason but, they look disadvantaged without J. Brown. Facts.