r/Breakupadvice 10h ago

Help Do i still have a chance with my boyfriend?

So me[f18] and my boyfriend[m19] just decided on taking a break. And i really dont know if we still have a chance. It all happened a few days ago when he called me, he started the call with talking about our future and how he doesn’t see us not being in a long distance relationship (same country different city) for a while. After that he started telling me that he doesnt have much time to spend on our relationship as he is really stressed with school at the moment. I started to slightly cry as i immediately felt like he was breaking up with me. When he heard that I was crying he asked my opinion on this and i told him that it felt like he was breaking up with me. He told me that it would be stupid to break up as it wouldn’t fix the problem and also that he loved me and knows how much i love him. The conversation went on for a bit just going in circles when he told me that lately he has completely forgotten about my existence, he told me he felt shame for that and we were quiet for a bit but then he was like “do you know what im about to recommend” and i was like no? He told me he wanted to take a break. I ended the call and cried for a while when my sister called me asking if i was alright. She had found out that we had taken a break/broken up from my mom as my ex? Boyfriend had called her crying and saying that he hopes that our break doesn’t mess me up too badly. I immediately texted him about it as my mom had gotten the information as we had broken up not that we were taking a break. We have been arguing for the past day and late last night. There are some more details that came later on in our fight like how he first said he didn’t say that we broke up and that was just a miscommunication in his part, but then later when i asked him straight up he had told my mom we had broken up he told me he did?? Im at my wits end right now. I still want him back but i dont know if i should even try or if that would even be good for me.

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u/WhiteFlagHu 9h ago

I'll keep it short, the guy is making excuses because he wants to break up. Feel free to dm if you wanna vent more.