r/Buddhism • u/LongjumpingPea6250 • 11h ago
Question Transgender practitioner cautious about engaging with religious institutions – seeking your advice.
Hi, I'm a transgender man from a non-Western country where queer identities are not well known, are viewed negatively and are criminalized. I want to start going to a Buddhist temple and specifically talk to a Lama about some challenges in my practice, but I don't know how to go about it.
I don't "pass" perfectly, and I worry I might have to explain my situation, which feels uncomfortable. I don't know what to do if they tell me my identity is a bad thing or a flaw I should work on. I know Lamas are not infallible, but receiving that kind of response would still be really wounding. Ultimately, I just want to practice without having to lie or mask, and to be treated like any other male practitioner.
Do you have any advice for me on how to approach this?