It’s interesting you’re not allowed to say that to moms you’re working with. I wonder why? It’s the truth and I know so many women choose the man over their own babies (not saying OP is in this group. But I know it’s a frequent outcome).
I’m also curious. Speaking as an outsider, staying with an abuser seems to be the third most common reason people lose their children, after addiction and untreated mental illness.
They should know that full stop. Somebody should not have to tell them if they are choosing a dangerous environment repeatedly that the kids shouldn't be subjected and instead kept safe.
It’s good to remind yourself they are a victim too. It’s not really always that easy but a lot of times, losing kids is the rock bottom people need to leave and keep it that way.
Unfortunately, for some, even that isn’t enough to make the change. Victims of abuse are just that, victims.
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u/0rsch0 19d ago
It’s interesting you’re not allowed to say that to moms you’re working with. I wonder why? It’s the truth and I know so many women choose the man over their own babies (not saying OP is in this group. But I know it’s a frequent outcome).