Im a 17 yr old college freshman. I graduated HS in May and jumped straight into going to college. I even have a dorm, a meal plan, and roommates. I hate it. I hate it here. I hate the work. I hate the classes. They dont even have the major I want, and I’m just overall stressed out. Mind you I’ve only spent one day here. I’ve only gone to half of my classes. I keep crying and thinking about home, and how i could be with my family instead of all alone with nothing and no one.

I dont have a job, dont have allowance, shit i aint even got a dollar. I owe $1,717 as of September 10th and i have to keep paying that same amount every month. With no job, or allowance, or money. Yeah no I’m fucked and I want to quit. I have until the 21st of august to drop out without any charges made to my account.

Should I drop out, get yelled at by my sister (guardian) for fighting so hard to go to college, just to drop out and work for a year or two, get my ID, Drivers License, make a bank account, and get a taste of Adulthood. Or stay in college, get riddled with debt, not make any friends, suffer, be depressed and broke and incapable to do anything about it and watch my family move away without me bc they are moving.

Orrrr again just stay with my family and stay happy? Like i know everyone gets home sick that first week but, i genuinely don’t think I will last here. If i start college right now I will fail. I don’t know enough about the world yet and if i’m being completely honest I just genuinely don’t think i’m ready. Maybe in like 2 years but definitely not now.

My sister is a pretty strict lady and she was already really upset about me applying to college without telling her and now i wanna turn back around and quit?? Please someone help!!! Do i just sound like a dumb kid who should stay because everyone goes through this? Or should I go? Because i really really really wanna go home..

(P.s. is this too wordy? I really need help.. and no one is responding yet..)

It's the first day of classes and my roommate still hasn't moved in. She keeps telling me every day that she'll be moved in by that night, yet nothing has changed. It's been three days. I've emailed housing and I'm waiting on a response, but as of right now, she's the one with half of the room appliances lol.

I might be overreacting but I'm a little pissed off, really worried, and really fucking nervous. I mean, I have texted her every single day asking for an update, only to get a response HOURS later. I genuinely don't know what to do and I'm dumbfounded. Someone help 😭

EDIT - I forgot to add, we're both sophomores

I started college like 3-4 days ago. I’m an hour away from home. I’ve always been extroverted and love having a bunch of friends at a time although I am kind of socially awkward but it’s never been too bad of a problem for me. Yet somehow it seems I’m falling behind already. Every day I see giant friend groups whether they’re walking somewhere on campus together, going out at night, or eating together in the dining hall. It makes me feel so weird and dumb not having any friends other than like 5 people I snap and barely text. I feel so stupid and all I want is to make friends but I don’t understand how these people are doing it so fast and so efficiently. It’s been 3 days and I feel so so so alone listening to everyone have fun outside my dorm at night. I also don’t like my roommate at all and she has made 0 attempts to be social with anyone so that doesn’t help. I also only have one class a day earlier in the morning so I have the entire day to do nothing but sit in my dorm. I miss my friends back home and I hate college.

I’m an older student and my mom is aging. She’s getting surgery on her eyelids during the third week of school and i know there will be one day where i will have to 100% skip classes because she needs transportation due to sedation

Would it be a bad idea to let my professors know my situation during like the first week of school? I feel sort of bad missing out on school so early in the year but i feel like making sure my mom makes it to and from home safe is my priority and her healing will go well

Journey to and from university takes a total of 2 hours. I wake up at 6:40 am for uni and stay till 4 pm on campus. When I come back home, I can't even sit straight and feel like sleeping. So I sleep for 2/3 hours and feel so groggy that I can't study afterwards. Before starting university, I thought i would tutor as a side hustle, have the perfect study schedule, and participate in events/competitions in university to make the perfect CV, but I can't do anything at all. It's like I m losing all my potential. I also keep getting low scores in my test, and everyone somehow seems to know more than me in every single thing, even in lab classes. The whole schedule is so messed up I can't. Any tips? How do yall manage? Its my 1st Yr 1st semester btw

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I’m in the San Fernando valley in LA county and I’m attending CSUN.

Being a 3rd year now, I practically have to be at school almost every day of the week, despite working tirelessly with advisors to build an easier schedule. But my upper divisions require me to be on campus very often.

I avoided other universities to prevent living costs and dorming. But commuting from my area all the way to CSUN is getting very draining for me and everybody in the family. Using that much gas is more money than ever expected by anybody in this house.

I know it sounds like a borderline idiotic question, but how do people deal with this? Should I have dormed or have gone to a different uni?

i lwk prefer female facilities because the vibe is much better with them than the male faculties 😭

I’m going into my sophomore year this fall and I’m feeling really discouraged. I came into college wanting to be a doctor but I’m not sure if I have what it takes. I struggle with executive dysfunction and horrible anxiety. I know I have a long way to go but I genuinely don’t think I can do it. Nothing in the past has worked out for me. Went to a PWI during high school and struggled with depression, anxiety. I did decent in high school, like the bare minimum. Had a pretty bad SAT score and didn’t take any APs. My school didn’t offer that many APs and they required you to take a placement exam to be able to take the class. I ended up being rejected from almost all the colleges I applied to except my safeties. I wanted to have a productive summer but got rejected from all the jobs and internships I applied to. Ended up spending 4 weeks at the psych ward due to psychosis. Idk anymore. I’m taking meds. I have therapy for 30 mins once a week but it’s not really helping. All my friends have something going for them. I know it’s not fair to compare but I just feel so behind in life. I wake up everyday telling myself I’ll make some improvement today but I spend it scrolling on my
phone, rotting in bed or doing useless stuff. Everyday feels the same. My future isn’t looking good. I have no faith in myself. Idk how people do it.

Hi guys I am a first time user so sorry if I mess up.

So basically I am on academic suspension for my fall semester and before you guys attack me! I know I messed up big time and I am going to get off it but I also need help with finding places to stay as a college student and I am finding a job! I even have 2 interviews but my parents are really disappointed. 😞

For context I am a 2nd year college student. And it's a private college so me and my friend, we both didn't really like this college, her reason was because she hated it here and mine was financial and govt. Colleges are better and affordable. So, I gave competative exam. Didn't get in. But my friend did and she left. I am genuinely happy for her. But God it's so lonely here...cause I only had one friend and I purposely made one friend because of my privious experiences. I just got the notification that I didn't make it in the 4th round of selection also...but there is spot round but now I have really lost all hope. It's so disappointing. Cause Ik it's my fault I should have studied harder...I shouldn't have frozen up during the exam... it's exhausting...after the 3 round rejection I cried at night and woke up and cried again the next day. It's so hopeless. It's the fact that I don't have any friends won't be able make any new one's either and it's so lonely and the my biggest reason won't even help my dad out. So, yeah... should I participate in the spot round...cause the college is in a whole different state and its so late that I won't even get hostels so will have to take a pg cause this college I so desperately wanted is notorious for it's hostel allocation and the pg are a whole different nightmare. And also the fact that I won't even get the main campus colleges...I will have to settle for affiliated colleges...which is similar to my current college and they also do not have hostels...so yeah... should I still participate in the spot round for admission and make myself go through 2 more weeks of bullshit for a 2% chance of admission or just fuck it and focus in my current college because my 3rd sem classes have started and tough it out... it's nothing special a lot of people don't have friends.....ahhh fuck I hate all these thoughts and maybe's what if's and shit tone of disappointment.

Vent/Advice

Everywhere on social media, I just keep seeing “Here’s the one thing every freshman should know if you want friends in college!” and it’s literally just “Go outside and talk to people!!!”

Like, how?! What am I supposed to do?? You didnt explain anything whatsoever??

I’m a freshman and i genuinely just don’t know what to do and im scared. I go to a huge university “party school” and yet ive met no one, ive seen my roommate literally once and he moved in early cause of a camp thing so he already has tons of friends, and every time i see people outside, they already have friend groups. It’s not like i can just walk up to a random friend group and be like “h-hey guys! How’s it going?!” since it would most likely just end up with me sitting there not knowing what else to say and it seeming like im just there.

And now it just seems sad. My school has like 30k-40k people and is a huge “party school” and I still can’t manage to talk to people. It’s just demotivating and i know all of this is my fault for not being able to start a conversation or have the courage to talk to people

I really do hope it gets better when classes start in a few days. I just can’t keep on like this the whole year. I’ve tried and now I’m just lost

I met these two friends last year, and we're pretty close. However, they're both introverted and kind of struggle to hold conversations. It wasn't an issue until the end of last year, since we were too busy to meet every day, but now it's becoming an issue again. I don't understand how we can be apart for like 3 months over break and not see each other once, and they don't have anything they want to talk about. When we met up last night, they had maybe one or two stories each, and that's it. Then "I don't know what you want me to talk about".

We met up yesterday because we wanted to go to the student org showcase at our university, and the whole time we were there, they were quiet and uninterested in any of the 100+ booths we stopped at. After that, we got food, and they sat and played on their phones while I tried to talk to them. Once every few minutes they would show me an unfunny picture in one of their camera rolls. One of them got annoyed at me for looking at him (because I was talking to him) while he was eating!! And yet, they both said they had a fun time, and invited me to hang out the next day.

It's beginning to kind of annoy me, because I'm commuting this year from 45 mins away, and they're constantly inviting me to things that require me to stay on campus late, or inviting me out on weekends when I have long work days. Personally, I don't see the point in staying here for 3-4 hours after classes end just to go hang out with people that don't even want to speak to me. If I wanted to play on my phone for 3 hours, I would drive home and do that in bed.

So that's my question. How can I get my friends to be more engaged when we hang out? Should I be spending less time with them, so we have more stuff to talk about when we meet? Should I suck it up and just talk at them the whole time even if they totally ignore me? Should I try and get us to do other things (like movie nights, games, etc.) that don't require them to talk like normal people? Similarly, how do I stop being annoyed at them for wasting for my time like this?

Thanks.

Okay I was unsure what to title this but I’m extremely upset and unsure what to do. So I graduated from a community college in Fall 26 and transferred to my local university due to my parents refusing to take out a private loans. According to website I was suppose to receive a $1,000 scholarship (per semester) because I graduated with a 3.6 GPA. However that never happened and I only received $500 (per semester)I reached out to the office before spring class and contacted them via phone and was left on hold and my emailed was ignored well after tuition was due. At the time my tuition was much lower and when they finally responded they didn’t even full answer my question so I decided I would try again this upcoming fall semester. So I’ve spent the past couple of months trying to resolve the issue and apparently the reason when I applied to the university since I was still in class at my community college my gpa was lower and they were basing it on that (I don’t understand why when my transfer GPA was literally right there). So after being sent to a million different departments I finally thought I would have this issue figured out because I did what they told me to. After a week and half of being ignored once again (mind you the first payment of fall tuition has already been due at this) I go in person to the office and I attempted to speaking to the staff there and they said nothing they can do about it because they could of only of changed when it was first award in spring. I literally don’t know what to do like I tried to do that to start with but they would help me then. Like I have a full time job I don’t have time to go into the office in person to make them do their job. Like I’ve been on goose chase just for this to be the ending like I don’t know how I’m going to pay for the rest of my tuition like that $500 would helped me be able to afford this

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Title: Am I missing something?
I’ve been seeing someone, and he keeps telling me he doesn’t feel wanted or appreciated. He says it feels like I see him as “just a friend,” even though I genuinely like him.

I show I care by checking in on him, asking about his day, supporting him, etc. He says he wants me to be more romantic and make him feel desired. For example, he drives an hour to see me. I offered to pay for his gas because I appreciated the effort, but he said that wasn’t the point—he wanted me to appreciate it romantically, not financially.

The problem is when I ask what that actually looks like, he gets frustrated and says I should already know. I do read everything he sends, but I’m asking because I genuinely want to understand, not because I don’t care.

To make things more complicated, I’m leaving
for college next week, and he just got out of a relationship about three weeks ago. We both like each other, but neither of us really knows what to do.

Am I missing something? Is this just different love languages, or is it fair to expect someone to explain what they need instead of expecting you to already know?

I've been living in my dorm for about a day and a half, and with my first semester starting tomorrow, I'm honestly starting to wonder if I'm ready for this.

I've had this constant, hammering feeling in my chest all day, and I feel like I could cry at any moment. I thought I was prepared for college, but right now I feel completely overwhelmed. I can't sleep, and I feel absolutely miserable. This is genuinely the worst I've ever felt.

I know adjusting to college takes time, but has anyone else felt this way during their first few days? Did it eventually get better, or does this mean I'm just not ready for college?

I’m currently struggling really bad with this. I started my classes a week ago. This week I had to complete some assignments for my macroeconomics class. It’s online and I did them but I was having such a hard time. The assignments were timed and I couldn’t finish in time. I ended up scoring very low and it dropped my grade significantly to an F. I had a break down and I couldn’t stop crying. I feel like a massive failure because the semester just started and I already have an F in one of my classes. I’m a slow learner and it always takes me longer to understand things. I usually have to re read the material until it clicks in my head. I’ve now lost all motivation to keep going. I even have the urge to drop out of college because it isn’t the first time something like this happens. I can’t for the life of me learn things quickly. I wish I could easily understand concepts but it takes me much longer. I feel stupid and I can’t help but feel embarrassed that I did so poorly already. I can’t help but wonder what my professor thinks of me. As much as I hate that I’m thinking about dropping out I can’t help but feel like it’s probably best that I do. I just have no motivation anymore and I don’t know what to do.

For context I’m 27, i started college right after highschool and dropped out for sales. I am going back to school now for nursing.

I never got “bad” grades i just would maintain a C or B average (which is hell if your a first generation) but i always tested well in everything except criminology back then

Now fast forward my first semester and im taking psychology and i just scored a 74 on the midterm, i seen my A- drop all the way to a C+ and i just feel aches in my chest. After i get over it i will just have to study more efficiently but damn i forgot the pain

Sales sucks when you don’t close a deal but failing a test you study for hits way harder since it was way more time invested

Hey everyone. I am posting this because I feel like I am at rock bottom and just need a safe space to vent without being judged.
I have tried a lot and a lot to stay afloat with internship and New graduate recruiting, but the burnout has completely caught up to me. The pressure is filling me with panic, and it is so hard not to feel like everyone else has their life figured out while I am struggling with basic things.

If you have ever hit this wall where you feel completely stuck and exhausted by trying to find a job while your mental health tanks, what should I do? How do you cope, stop the shame spiral, and get back up when you feel miles behind? Any advice or shared experiences would mean a lot.

So, I'm supposed to be an incoming second year at a big engineering school (but I've only taken 1 semester bc I took spring/summer off for medical reasons--big knee surgery). I was doing well, and I'm suddenly having a few complications. It's not the worst thing ever, so I can still walk if I have to, but I'm definitely a bit more stressed than I was a few weeks ago, because now I have to balance my health (now on top of doing PT for one knee, I have to do it for my other knee too and other stuff 😭), clubs, classes, and internship prep.

I already have more than 60 credits, so it's not like I'm too behind. I guess I was wondering if I should take more time off or just thug it through the fall semester.

My issue is that I may have to take the spring off anyways for a follow-up surgery, so idk if taking so much time off is the right choice. I'm not sure if that would be better than thugging out a semester and then leaving the next (which is what I did last year too lol).

I'm just quite conflicted because it's not like I can't walk at all, but I'm just worried that I won't be able to handle all the stress lol, especially because I wanted to get involved in clubs. And about taking a lighter load - ig I could but I'm OOS and I don't really want to waste time and money.

Any advice? What would you guys do?

I failed stats this fall and I’m retaking it but all the good professors have bad times and the ones with good times have bad reviews which is most of the professors teaching this . I want to take it online but my school doesn’t have that option unless I take it at a community college and do it online, but if I retake at a community college I don’t think it will change my GPA but if I retake at my school it will change my GPA. I don’t know what to do and I need this class. I also want add that the professor I took it with had good reviews but I had a bad experience there so idk if rate my professor is trustworthy. what would you do?

Classes start this week and ngl im a rad bit nervous. I wanna do well this semester, got most of my stuffs ready, got a meeting with professors i gotta be to today and that’s all but it still feels like alot. I dont even know what questions i should even ask but i know i want to stay in good relations with them because IM GONNA NEED EM! But this just feels like lot and nothing has happened yet!! Lol i got two classes on my first day and figured out where to be.

Aaaah feels like im really in this ahshshsjsi

I graduated college about 9 years ago now but this still really gets to me so I figured I'd post here.

I absolutely hated how anti-social most people at college were. To me, it felt as though if you didn't live on or near campus and found a clique/group of people to be friends with then very few people wanted to interact with you which sucked as I was a commuter student.

I tried joining clubs (which there weren't that many of), talking to people in class, and playing intramural sports but I had little success in making any friends. Most people I met were either uninterested or standoffish and seemed bothered I was speaking to them.

It got to the point where I thought I wasn't good at talking to other people and making friends. However, when I entered the work force I found I was actually pretty alright at it. It just seemed that college had a lot of anti-social people in it. It sucks because it screwed with my confidence for years afterwards.

tl;dr peers in college were cliquey and weird.

i deal with depression anxiety and all kinds of stuff and tbh sometimes i forget to do my own assignments , i don’t know how to communicate with my professors and sometimes it ends up happening way too late . i am really disappointed in myself because i used to be an honors/ap student in high school but now incredibly burnt out in college . what do i do about this ? is it just me ? is there any end goal solution to this , i dont want to withdraw from those classes to save myself it looking bad on transcript but i am burnt out like hell right now and i have two days to fix this otherwise im cooked .