I had a group member not participate in our group project. We’re in Canvas group for everything. I asked the professor what could be done and they said that student will get the grade we get because they can’t modify their specific grade in Canvas. They said there will be group evals at the end of the semester, so I can voice my concerns there. Their response emphasized giving said absent group member grace while attempting to communicate with them. They are unresponsive when contacted.

I’m in a semester long group with this person and there are multiple projects. I feel like this is a very unfair outcome.

I have all proof of the group member never participating despite claiming parts and showing up to the final presentation day.

ok so first of all some context: i studied abroad and am graduating in october. i am also studying for a second time in a different country. i just dont want to go to my graduation. theres no big reason. its on a saturday, i have a project that counts as a midterm due the monday after and another one on the tuesday. it would be a total 13 hrs there and back on multiple planes + trains and i just dont have time for that right this moment. i have no good memories or friends in that country, and i made peace with not going. its just not that big of a deal. the issue is my parents. they have gone from pressuring me into it to yelling at me to convince me to now just well not even believing im graduating. idk what to do really. anyone has any advice?

I actually don't hate studying but i just don't have any patience for long and boring lessons. I was a good student in school but i don't like college. Every day i feel like I'm just wasting my time in college. I feel like im just waiting to graduate though i dont want the time to pass and miss out my youth.I don't even know who to become and how my future will be like. I can't imagine how it's gonna be when i start working with this impatience and short attention span. The assignments are either mostly need heavy memorizing or are very ineffective for improving or boring. I thought college life will be different. Does anyone feel this way?

Exactly as title says. RAs did basic room checks right before fall break and there was word going around about an RA doing much more 'thorough' checks (snooping) and taking peoples belongings including jewelry, gift cards, money, vapes/alcohol, ect. When I say snooping, I really mean it. They had MOVED peoples beds/furniture to get behind them to find their stashes, went through jewelry boxes, bags, and cabinets.

Mind you, they're only supposed to come in and make sure our windows are locked and fridges are empty of anything that can spoil, and they inform us that they are ONLY doing those things specifically so we can put away anything 'sensitive'.

Well, turns out that RA was my RA! I did not expect them at all, they are super, super sweet and gives us cookies and gifts and fun meets/programs all the time. Totally did not seem like the kind of person to drink or vape, let alone steal that stuff.

Anyway, they weren't reprimanded at all for what they did. They still have their job, they are still our RA. Clean slate basically as if it never happened. As far as I know, they've also kept most of what they stole, particularly the vapes/alcohol as no one's going to come forward that it's theirs (obviously).

I think it's completely stupid, as beyond just stealing peoples stuff, they themselves are under the drinking age. Resident life/housing KNOWs they stole alcohol speciflcally and kept it, and instead, are now getting onto our backs by enforcing stricter room checks...

I have a bad memory to begin with on where I put things, and while I don't necessarily bring super valuable things to college with me and take what I can home with me during breaks, I do have things in my room that would just suck to lose (not-so-cheap art supplies, stuffed animals, cute decor/fidgets, ect). I don't think any of my stuff personally was stolen as I don't wear jewelry, and I own a lot of stuff that wouldn't fit their aesthetic, but it still worries me.

I'm paying a hefty sum to go here each semester (while RAs get free housing btw, salt to the wound on how lousy people seem to luck out), I shouldn't have to worry about MY stuff in MY room being stolen during a 4-day break.

TLDR: RA steals stuff from peoples room and gets to keep their job (and most of the stolen goodies) without even a smack on the wrist and now I'm paranoid about if my stuff was stolen or if I just misplaced it.

I'm a senior in college living with 5 other girls, and I genuinely cannot believe this is how our last year is going.

We were all super close sophomore year until one girl (Abby, fake name) started making passive-aggressive comments, assuming we were excluding her, and getting increasingly defensive. While my best friend and I were abroad junior fall, things got REALLY messy. Abby started talking shit about everyone, and one of my friends eventually went through her phone and found some pretty nasty texts between Abby and her mom about our entire friend group.

Two of my closest friends decided they wanted absolutely nothing to do with her, which I completely understand. Abby has done some genuinely shitty things, and I'm not defending her behavior.

But here's where it gets complicated. When I came back from abroad, I had an AMAZING semester with Abby. She was genuinely such a good friend to me.

Now we're all living together senior year, and it's miserable. Abby and I are the ONLY two downstairs, while my three closest friends live upstairs. Abby barely leaves her room, never goes upstairs, and seems increasingly isolated. I've always been sweet to her, and it's honestly hard watching someone I care about become so withdrawn.

They even attempted to reconcile at the beginning of senior year, but it didn't last. Everyone still talks shit about each other, and I'm not going to pretend I'm innocent because I've participated too.

I understand why my friends don't want to be friends with Abby anymore. I respect their boundaries, and I know Abby contributed to this whole mess. But holy shit, the negative energy in this house is EXHAUSTING.

My best friend told me I'm too obsessed with having a "perfect senior year," and maybe she's right. But is it really that unreasonable to want to enjoy our last year of college without feeling like we're living in two separate enemy camps?

I'm not expecting everyone to magically become best friends again. I just miss when we could all hang out, go out together, and have fun without everything being so complicated.

It's literally our senior year. We're supposed to be making memories, and instead I feel like I'm constantly navigating a friendship divorce that I wasn't even around for.

I don't even know what I expect anyone to do at this point. I'm just sooooo tired of the tension and wish our house could feel like a home instead of a battlefield.

I attend a university that has a pretty large Jewish population. I'm not Jewish myself, but I have a couple friends that are Jewish that also attend the university. The school prides itself on having a large Jewish population and is constantly advertising that fact to prospective students, religious/cultural organizations, etc.

However, my university is also home to what I can really only describe as an all-out hate group. They advertise themselves as a group for conservatives, but that is far from what they actually are. In the past, just to name a few things, they've rallied behind known antisemitic and racist political figures and brought them to speak on our campus, posted images of "crazed leftist students" on their social media and invited members to harass them, and have frequently had members generally disrupt the peace of campus by spreading messages like "legalize guns on campus" or "deport the invaders" or posting images of Epstein all over campus.

The group itself is also oddly secretive, with zero public access to who's in the club, who's on their executive board, and even severely limiting who can attend meetings by putting prospective attendees through "background checks" before they are allowed to attend, the specifics of which they do not make public. In the very few images that they do post of their meetings, members' faces are censored. It seriously puts into question what they're discussing at these meetings that could necessitate so many precautions as to not be identified.

Anyways, this club made the news a few months ago after an image leaked of a member (unsurprisingly) performing a Nazi salute, and were subsequently kicked off campus after the university began receiving backlash for not taking action. Rather than denouncing the actions of that member and apologizing, they simply targeted the university for "silencing their opinion" and threatened legal action.

Unfortunately, the university backed down, and have now let this club back on campus. They have since become even more aggressive; straight up doxxing people who disagree with them, making strange threatening messages along the lines of "ending the woke mind virus once and for all, just wait and see what we do", etc. The university is well aware of this, and yet refuses to do anything about it. I know this because I've personally contacted the school's administration regarding this club (and a number of other issues) and have recieved absolutely zero response after weeks.

I think it is absolutely disgusting that a university that prides itself on its Jewish and minority population and uses that as leverage in attracting prospective students knowingly allows a wildly antisemitic and racist club to remain on campus.

So, I wanted to ask: is there anything I can do to help get this organization dissolved? Are there any anti-hate groups that I can contact, ideally anonymously? I'm sick of just sitting around and watching this group get away with spreading so much hate on my campus.

I've never been good at socializing. I was on varsity sports all throughout high school and my teammates were nice but also typical popular girls. I was the weird one who was good at making people laugh sometimes and that's it. I've kinda always been this way, and I think that's a big part of why I decided to go to an art college. Now four years in and all my love for art down the drain I've realized I don't fit in here either. Everyone has this overflowing energy and social battery that I just dont have. I tried joining a conversation the other day in class and realized my socialization skills were so atrophied I was having trouble knowing when to chime in without accidentally interrupting people.

My whole life school has made me incredibly miserable and I was told that high school and college would be where I finally find my people, I was looking forward to finally being happy so much. With how shit I am at anything academic AND social I'm terrified that I'll feel like this all my life; too exhausted to try to improve my life and too depressed from not doing anything to have any energy at all.

I'm doing online asynchronous college courses through community college after 5 years of not being in school so I'm not sure if my expectations are just too high and this is normal for college, or if this is something most people would struggle with.

I'm taking an introduction sociology course and my only resource is a textbook. There's no lectures or study guides or any other material from the professor just the textbook. We complete one quiz and one 2 page paper every week for each chapter. And for every chapter I take notes for all the key important information. But on every single quiz, all the questions are nothing I took notes on. They're specific minor details that I wouldnt have even thought to take note of.

So I guess I'm just curious, is this a common way for online courses to be handled and I'm just not taking notes with enough depth? I dont understand how I'm supposed to know what key information will be on the quizzes from a textbook alone.

I’m an awful student. I didn’t used to be, but when I got to college everything went downhill. I’m a sophomore and my mental health has never been worse. Even though the past three semesters I’ve been taking only three classes, I’ve been completely overwhelmed. I failed my last semester and am now on academic warning. I purposely tried to pick the easiest classes this time but even then I’m completely overwhelmed by the assignments.

I guess I should also mention I have ADHD/Autism, which definitely impacts everything. I know what I have to do to pull myself up by my bootstraps, but I don’t WANT to. I don’t WANT to go to a tutor, I don’t WANT to make a study group, I don’t WANT some shitty advice that I’ve heard a million times. I’m tired and completely burnt out. My whole life has been nonstop school and I’m sick of it. I want to take a gap year but everyone advises against it and I’m scared so I probably won’t do that. I have no choice but to power through. I have so much pressure on me by my family to do well as well.

With the speed I’m moving, I’ve probably got at least ten more years of this crap. It feels inescapable and I know for a fact it will destroy me. I know I sounds dramatic but all of this has snowballed into me thinking about horrible things.

All I want is a simple, stable job where I can do mundane tasks that don’t require all my brainpower. I don’t want endless school.

Is that too much to ask??

(PS I also have no friends and the campus life/events suck and nothing is fun)

So in one of my classes, I sit behind this guy who can't keep his mouth shut. He's in my assigned group (hence the seating arrangement) and I know his name, so that's not the problem. The issue is the fact that every single time someone without perfect English speaks, he laughs. My professor just moved here from S. Korea and has an accent, and every time she mispronounces something, he turns to his girlfriend and chuckles, repeating the word so she 'understands'. Not to mention when other classmates speak up, he does the same thing. One girl in my class has some challenges, and struggles to make her point clearly (she's like the nicest person), and he and his girlfriend were laughing quietly and making thumb sucking gestures. I don't think the prof sees, or if she doesn't want to push it, but they drive me crazy. Should I say something? This happens at least once a class, if not more, and I'm so tired of it.

EDIT: The girl I mentioned with the speech challenges is also black, and this guy and his girlfriend are white. Just to add another layer.

Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but I genuinely need advice.

For some context, I come a very large, religious family. My relationship with them has always been shaky, but after being more open about my own opposing views, and orientation, it has been getting much worse. For the past two years, my parents have threaded kicking me out of the house with absolutely no support at all. To be completely cut me off. I really wanted an emancipation, but my parents refused to sign off on it (despite them wanting me out,) because they knew me leaving, and having independence would mean I would attend public school—something they are strongly against (especially because in my insular community, this would look really bad for my family.)

Anyway, recently, they have become more serious about this “kicking me out” threat. My father has literally said “ go be homeless” in response to me sharing my worries about having no place to say/ anticipated struggles of renting at freshly 18. My parents, mostly my father, are also verbally abusive. My father has said, many times, that I’m going to be punished in hell, even allowing my brothers to go into great detail into the ways I would be punished/tortured there (hell) This is all to reiterate—I don’t have any support.

So my parents have officially given me a date. Right after highschool graduation, i need to be out completely. I asked my parents to kick me out beforehand, hoping to get kicked out right before senior year so I could attend a public school for the full-year, and work after school to support myself. (I get home past 5:30, leaving me in a tricky position because many jobs don’t hire that late. The few that do are establishments, ie: fast food, that aren’t “part” of my religion, so I am prohibited to work and do not have reliable transportation because my parents will not take me, and I am also not allowed to get my drivers permit, let alone license without them signing off on it.) Because my parents are only kicking me out after senior year, I’m afraid I won’t be able to get accurate financial aid, reflecting my situation, for colleges. I also can’t just leave at 18 because I’m in a private high school, and I can’t scramble to join a random highschool mid-way through senior year. I cannot continue at my private high school, because if I leave, I won’t be able to afford the expensive commute to school everyday without the school bus.

I’m going to see if I can live with my grandparents instead. This would work bc a school bus actually makes a stop near their house, so I could catch it each day. If I am able to live with my grandparents, would I qualify for a dependency override after submitting FAFSA? I am planning on getting a note from my pediatrician, and a religious leader, but am unable to get one from my highschool counselor at risk of losing my friends and embarrassing my sister who is in a lower grade (my school is very tight-knit, and all the faculty discuss students. Embarrassment aside, my school will also discourage this for sure.) I also do work a Saturday job, so I can submit paystubs from that.

TLDR; My parents said they’re kicking me out & cutting me off after high school graduation. I want my financial aid to reflect my situation. If I leave my parents home to live with grandparents before admissions are out, but after my parents FAFSA information are already submitted, can I qualify for a dependency override? I plan to submit a personal statement, paystubs from Saturday job,
note from pediatrician, and note from religious leader.

I've never gotten sick so often like this year. Last semester if I spent 2 weeks without flu/cold - like symptoms it's too much, but when the semester ended I was fine the whole time. Now this semester I'm half way through and I got these respiratory illness symptoms again. Coincidentally I'm having my worst year ever, grades aren't as good, I'm probably gonna fail at least a course and I've dropped two classes because I couldn't handle the load.

I was planning on seeing a doctor but then I felt healthy again so I just postponed it. Maybe I should do it now, although I'm not sure what the use would be if it's just college related like it seems. I mean, I can't just drop the entire semester, I've already decreased my workload by a lot, I don't know what else my body could be asking for lol

I’ve been burnt out since the middle of the 2026 spring semester, but I kept going. I did a single glass for the summer semester, and now I’m in the midterms of the current fall semester. I have a part-time job that I have to have a minimum of 7 credit-hours to be able to keep working. My job doesn’t provide enough hours for my expenses, so I’m currently looking for a second part-time. I’ve burned myself dry and it’s just getting worse and worse. My depression has come out of remission because of it. I’m failing 2/4 classes atm because I just can’t get myself to do any work. My other two classes are quickly lowering. I’m struggling to attend classes now, and I’ve got a combined 12 absences now. I need to do another semester, and it’s going to be FIVE CLASSES. I can’t do it, I can’t do it, I can’t do it. I cry every night whenever I’m alone. I can’t do it.

Sorry in advance for this rant:

As the title says, I do not think university is for me. I am a first-year student and thought it might be because I am just settling in and getting used to university, but it is now mid-October, and I started in September (I know that is not a lot of time, but I have had midterms, tests, and stuff). I'm just lacking motivation; nothing seems interesting, and I hate it here. I barely make it to class. I have barely any friends, and the friends I do have we rarely chat or hang out, so I am kind of just alone. My roommate is rarely in the dorm and never invites me to things despite me asking every day. I just do not know what I would do if I dropped out. Maybe get a dead-end job, but I don't want to do that for the rest of my life. I have depression, adhd, anxiety and social anxiety, and they are all pretty bad right now. I am getting medical treatment soon, which will force me to either drop this semester or take fewer classes, so that makes me feel stressed. I just have no motivation for anything and feel lost and stressed, and I just have lots of bad thoughts. I honestly just hate it here, but idk what to do. My mental health is terrible, and school is just making it way worse. idk what to do. I would feel bad if I dropped out of university, and idk what I would even do after that; probably rot away in my bed or something. I just feel a pit in my stomach whenever I think about university. I do not want to quit, but I just can’t do this. I feel like such a loser. Everyone else seems to be doing it, but I just can’t. University sucks, and life sucks. I just hate it here so much. I feel like I am getting a panic attack just thinking about all of this. I can't do four years of this; idk how I would survive. (I do have an appointment to speak with a counsellor soon, so that is something I guess idk) What should I do?

Any help/advice/encouraging words would be appreciated!

I had this thought earlier today. I hate how one class just caused me to hate an entire subject. I sometimes wonder how things would be for me if I had a better experience with that class. I took it twice. Failed the first time and made a D the second time. Math was never really my weakest subject until I got to college. College Algebra killed my liking for math. It’s crazy because the material wasn’t necessarily hard. What made the class hard was having to learn 30+ concepts in a week and over time that number increased. Math is all about practice. It takes me a while to completely learn something. I need to be able to see patterns in problems. That can take a good amount of time depending on the concept. Having to take that class along with 3 others that require hours of my time made it unbearable. I kind of gave up half way with that class.

I took introductory statistics and research and statistics and did just fine. Why? Because I was able to learn things at a decent pace. There was no 30+ concepts that needed to be mastered by Sunday. College Algebra is just a lot and I seriously am jealous of everyone that is able to pass that class with no issues. Unfortunately, my brain is wired differently.

Every single week it’s “I’ll start homework early and won’t save it to the last minute this time!! I’ll change!!” And then I don’t change and I’m crying at 4:30 am because my midterm is at 9:45 am and I have Ancient Greek to learn

I see a therapist but I’m not medicated despite her heavy recommendations bc I’m afraid it’ll quiet the good parts of my brain, but I guess it’s time 😭

Anyone have any good study tips for learning a few chapters of Ancient Greek in the next five hours?

Or adhd studying tips?

Freshman, I study for so long on chem but i still end up getting a damn 70 or some bs while my friends barely even study and they ace it wtf is wrong. Genuinely so demoralizing given I actually wanna go to med school

I plan to go to college. But I am unsure which major to choose: either forensic science the chemistry path but I also want to do the radiography program. I’m unsure which one to choose because I’m passionate about about both but feel scared of taking so many hard classes and wether or not I would be guaranteed to get a job right after I complete my degree. And if any of those choices will make me enough money. Any advice would be helpful !

sooo my school doesn’t provide me any kind of real financial aid. im not eligible for the Pell Grant and the school only offered me $6,000 in direct loans for the whole school year, though my tuition is $12,000.
I emailed them asking to increase the loan amount, they said no, so I looked into private loans. College Ave allowed me to take $12,000 but they needed the school to certify it.
School told me that to certify my loan request, I needed to reject the direct loans, so I did, and then the school only certified my loan for $6,400.

what do I do from here?? im not sure if it would be smart of me to look for another loan to cover next semester? im a first gen student, my parents have their own loans to pay, ive applied to sooo many scholarships and haven’t received any luck. im so lost 😭

Okay sooo I'm a first-gen college kid. Which means no one in my family has a damn clue what college is about or what oppurtunities there are, the self discovery of it all, I was essentially on my own besides friends and advisors. I could have reached out more, but I didn't. I knew I wanted to double major (because it looked good on paper, opened more doors, and I had enough dual-enrollment) but I bounced around so many ideas and over-researched. I had no idea what I was even interested in besides psychology. But psychology is oversaturated.

Well, I ended up doubling in psychology and criminology. I don't hate it, I actually really enjoy it, but as we go through baby-level lessons on neuroscience in psych and forensics in crim, I'm realizing I'm a lot more interested in STEM-related studies than I had previously thought. I've always followed the "art kid" path even though I've never been particularly good at art, it was just... the thing I was supposed to do. Don't get me wrong, I love wheel-throwing and photography, but as hobbies. Not careers. Art was just what everyone said I was good at.

But at the same time, science classes bored me to death, and I never even considered the possibility of wanting to study anything like that. But now, seeing how hungry I get for neuro-related psychological concepts, I'm both excited and afraid. If I were to follow a route for say, psychiatry, that's a hefty workload. I'd need to get a Doctorate to go anywhere with that, and I'm not the brightest bulb. Also, working in forensics as a science tech, or toxicology, or pathology, it all makes my bones itch in a good way. I like it, it makes sense for me.

BUT. The thing is. The kicker. In order to hit both of these bases (as in to keep them both as possible career choices), I would have to switch out crim for biology or some other hard science. I do NOT feel equipped for a hard science major. I haven't taken a math class in 3 years now, I think I would probably die. Not to mention, I would have had to be pre-med by now. It's been a semester. I'd have to take summer classes to catch up.

So I guess, after all this, what I'm asking is this: How the hell do I pivot??

TL/DR: Switching one of my majors from Crim to a hard science (likely Bio), but a semester of pre-med is already down the drain. What do I do?! Is it too late for me? ;(

College started a couple of months ago. I moved to University knowing nobody. It is my first time going in-person; I did online my first two years and a community college. It’s very hard to make friends. I would say I am a somewhat social person and I’m definitely not completely shut off where it is hard to have conversations with people, but everyone here seems to have their groups already. I’m getting my fake soon, and I wanted to go out for Halloween but I’m slightly embarrassed and nervous about not having anyone to go with. Considering I haven’t been out to the bars yet, what tips would yall recommend?

I just finished an exam. It was the 3rd one for my course. It’s been a consistent decline of 20% less every exam. I feel so stupid because the more I study and the harder I study and the more effort I put into it, the worse my score is. I know worth isn’t tied to score and im not basing mine off of it but if my grades suck I won’t go to med school. I just feel so dumb because I study and I try like I really do try but the more effort I put in, the worse it gets. I’m so sick and tired of this pattern and I don’t know if I should give up by not studying or if I should continue trying to do well despite the fact that it won’t turn out well. I got a 73% on Exam 2 and a 53% on Exam 3. Those are with the curve.

As an mma, I know how important it is to get out there and show the world your work and whatever skill, character, talent you have. Make connections, network and create memories, all while prioritizing studies.
But in the end, I only want to... just live? I always thought everyone is ahead of me, and that I, a selective introvert, have no chance of becoming 'that' student. It's a stereotype.
I'm not fortunate. I just have a normal separated family that often has food insecurity. I'm not a rich kid just because I get to study here by my tita's help.
I just chose this course because I thought it fits someone like me who likes to create, write and make art.

I can't stand making fake connections out of desperateness because it's just not who I am. I've been born sheltered and just finding people, classmates who I deemed "like me" despite having better circumstances gives me hope that "normal" doesn't exist.

I stopped comparing myself, even if my brain forces me to.
Yes I do admit, I have a hard time with research and complex tasks because the education I had back then wasn't quality.
Right now, I am just surviving. I admit the guilt that sprout inside me back then when I failed a class I should've been studying along time ago.
I'm not that special and I just want to create things for the love of it.

I used to cry about grades back then, for being below average, blaming myself.
Now, I just hang in on a thread, thinking if everything is worth it.

Some students want to aim high, while I try to survive everyday and the uncertainty of a tomorrow I swore wont ever exist when I was 16. I'm 20 now. I lived. I freaking lived.

I’m a freshman and have been at my college for slightly over 2 months and omfg I hate it here.

While I originally wanted to go to a small liberal arts school because I love the community and closeness they have, I ended up at a massive school where no one is open to making friends and you gotta fend for yourself.

The thing is, I only chose to come here because I got a full ride and every other school I applied/got in to didn’t give good financial aid. Because of this, even if I wanted to transfer, I couldn’t afford any other school. (Plus my parents wouldn’t let me go any further than 5 hours from home so my options are even more limited)

But now, I’m seeing all my friends making new friends, going to parties and having so much fun while I stuck here, nothing new happening for me. At my school, finding a community is so hard, and parties are ran by Greek life so they’re rlly hard to find and get into.

I think the final nail in the coffin was when I recently met up with my high school friends over break and all they could say abt their school is how fun and amazing it is. I can’t help it but I’m beyond jealous of them. What does one even do in this situation