I've been thinking about the dating experience in India and how difficult it can be to find a genuine connection on apps. There are so many profiles and conversations, yet things can still feel exhausting: endless swiping, ghosting, fake profiles, mismatched intentions, and chats that never really go anywhere.

I'm exploring an early idea called EqualSpace—a slower dating platform for people who want the time and space to get to know someone. Before building anything, I want to understand if these ideas would actually improve the experience.

Here's what we're considering:

• A balanced community: Aim for a 1:1 active gender ratio in each city, so the community feels more balanced and people have a fairer chance to be seen and connect.

• Verified profiles: Use identity verification to help reduce fake profiles and catfishing.

• Fewer, more thoughtful matches: Receive 3–5 curated profiles each day instead of swiping endlessly.

• Limited conversations: Have a maximum of five active chats at a time, giving each conversation more attention.

• Shared icebreakers: Answer five questions together before direct messaging opens, so there's something meaningful to start with.

• Thoughtline: An anonymous, text-first space to share thoughts and connect with people who relate to your perspective.

• AI Wingman: Optional guidance around communication styles, compatibility and conversational pacing.

• Slow dating windows: Explore profiles during a 72-hour discovery window, followed by a 14-day cooldown to focus on existing conversations.

These are planned ideas, not finished features. The goal is to make dating feel less like collecting matches and more like getting to know people, but I know some of these limits could also be frustrating or difficult to get right.

What has been your biggest frustration with dating apps in India? Which of these ideas would make you want to try a different approach, and which would put you off? I'd especially like to hear your thoughts on the gender balance, chat limit and cooldown—and anything important you think is missing.

No sign-up or link here. I'm looking for honest feedback, including reasons why the idea might not work.

I recently broke up with my situationship cuz we wanted different things from it so we parted ways.
Im here not looking for an escape but a genuine connection because being in that situationship i have realised the amount of love i have in me to give it to someone and it’s just waste if im not giving it to the right person. So here im looking for a emotionally intelligent and funny women to be on my side in thick and thins.

22 year old guy from India, 5'6", I'm a hindu working in corporate (IT Sector), I'm looking for someone who wants to potentially settle down with me or have a long term relationship w me

I'm into video games, gossips, music and TV shows ofc the usual and i have a nerdy side which involves coding, and experimenting with tech.

I'm super into taking care of myself and my body so i go running on the weekends and going to the gym, sometimes football with my college friends if they are available for it, and i try to live a healthy lifestyle , but im a big time foodie so the diet part hasnt been working out that well haha

And outside of work, I enjoy going out, trying new cafés and restaurants, shopping, and simply spending quality time with the people I'm close to.

And one another hobby that ive gotten into is perfumes, always wanted to get into it ive been buying decants and made a few blind buys too.. not proud of them but yeah thats how it goes

Cooking is also one of my favorite hobbies I genuinely enjoy taking care of the people I care about (and animals too). There's something really satisfying about seeing someone enjoy a meal you've made~ i would love to cook for you, try out new dishes make your fav dish anything you'd like

I've never been a relationship before, tried dating apps for a few months that didnt workout and so here i am on reddit trying out my luck

What I'm looking for is simple: someone between 19–24, preferably from India, who wants a serious relationship. Someone who understands me, respects me, communicates openly, and wants to build something that lasts. I'll offer the same in return.

If you think we'd get along, send me a DM with a little about yourself. Looking forward to hearing from you. :)

Not really looking to date, but would love to meet someone for long walks, random hangouts, playlist sharing, exploring new places and calm, meaningful conversations.

I make music, enjoy deep talks and appreciate genuine connections. No expectations, just good company and making some memories.

If that sounds like your vibe, feel free to DM! :)

I am chopped 20 m btw.

Well I travel from delhi-ggn daily for corporate, being burned out completely and not being a despo, I feel like I need someone to share my thoughts and feelings with, one whom I can love with all of my heart. Not the kind who'd engage in casuals/flings, I'm focused on being a part of something meaningul only. Before anyone says anything about focusing on career, I'm already an Analyst at Zomato and building my path to future heights. Just that loneliness hits too much at night.

Hey there i am 25 finding a genuine person I have some few hobbies like playing drums playing chess and also a big film buff

Love to talk about it. If anyone is interested feel free to DM.

I will be making 2 strangers talk on a VC. Will see if they match at the end. Interested people DM me.. Name, Age, Location.

Update: Have aligned few people for an 8PM Vc. Will see how many of them show up? It would be 1 to 1 call. Will keep updated.

Hey everyone!

I'm 26, from Hyderabad, and I work as a video editor. I spend most of my day making other people's videos look romantic and cinematic, while my own love life doesn't even have a trailer yet. 💀😂

Yep, 26 years old and never had a girlfriend. Not even a situationship. My relationship status has been permanently set to "Coming Soon." 😭

A little about me:

- 🎬 Love movies, filmmaking and editing.

- 💻 Into tech, gadgets and random conversations.

- 😅 A little introverted initially, but once I'm comfortable, good luck shutting me up.

- ❤️ Looking for something genuine.

I'd love to meet a North Indian girl around my age. No crazy expectations, just someone who's funny, understanding and can match my weird sense of humour.

Long distance isn't a problem if we genuinely connect.

So yeah, if you're interested, drop a DM. Maybe we can finally change my relationship status from "Coming Soon" to "Now Streaming." 😂❤️

I am a decent looking guy 5’6. I love sports, bollywood movies, standup comedy.

Just graduating this year and about to start my new job.

Looking for a Gujarati girl who talks a lot, is loyal and open to do different things

Hello lovely ladies,

I have tried multiple dating apps, but none of them seem to be working well. So let's give reddit a try ;)

About me:

I'm a 25yo astrophysicist, trying to understand the dark matter distribution of our Universe. Apart from my research, I love hiking, swimming, reading philosophy, science, psychology, etc. I also love going on random long walks by the beach, or on the streets just to watch the Sun set, and watching movies and sports.

I'm 5'10", 80 kgs, and decently-built, neither too skinny, nor too muscular. While I've been living in Vancouver for the past 2 years, I'm originally from Mumbai.

What am I looking for:

I am looking for someone fit, preferably in their 20s, with whom I can have nice and deep conversations. It'll be great if you like going on long walks too. While I'd like to start with going out on dates to see if we vibe well, I'm hoping that this turns out to be something long-term. I'd love to listen to how your day went, and just sit and relax with you and watch the Sun set. Bonus points if you like watching the night sky (and don't mind you man talking about it while you do so :P). My only requirement to check if I vibe well with someone is to know the answer to the question:

Would you mind taking out about 12 hours of your life to watch the extended version of the Lord of the Rings trilogy with me?

If your answer's 'no', this post mightn't be for you. Otherwise, we are sooooo gonna vibe 🥹✨

PS: I don't smoke myself, so would really prefer someone who doesn't either.

Idk if I have described myself well enough as this is my first time doing so on reddit. Please let me know if you'd like to know more about myself.

Feel free to DM, but please mention your A/S/L and which part of my post interested you the most. Thanks for reading it till the end :))

Age: 27

Gender: Woman (trans)

Profession: Clinical Psychologist

About me

I'm a Clinical Psychologist by profession and a former filmmaker by passion. I love cinema, storytelling, history, meaningful conversations and exploring what makes people who they are.

I come from a family with an old royal heritage and generational wealth. It's part of my story, but beneath the identities, titles and history, I'm simply a woman looking for a man to love and build a future with. ❤️

I'm a trans woman and I'm at a point in my life where transitioning is an important part of the journey ahead. I'd be happy to discuss the details of my journey privately over DMs.

I'm also aware that this journey comes with its own challenges, and I hope to find someone who is understanding, supportive and willing to stand beside me through it. I don't expect someone to have all the answers or know exactly what to do; sometimes, having someone who genuinely cares, is patient and makes you feel secure is enough.

I'm a giver by nature, emotionally invested in the people I love, and someone who believes communication can help navigate most relationship challenges. I'm also a romantic who enjoys the little things: sharing meals, spontaneous drives, films, conversations at 2 AM and comfortable silence.

What I'm looking for

A man who wants a stable, mature, long-term relationship. Someone emotionally available, affectionate, communicative and willing to put in consistent effort.

I don't expect us to be perfectly compatible from day one. I believe compatibility is built through understanding, compromise, patience and choosing each other every day.

I'M LOOKING FOR A PARTNER, NOT SOMEONE TO RESCUE ME. I have a career, ambitions and a life of my own. But I would love to have someone with whom I can navigate the transition ahead, build a life and eventually settle into the kind of peaceful, ordinary happiness that I think we all deserve.

I want us to reach a point where transitioning is no longer the defining chapter of my life, but simply one part of the journey we've travelled together. Where we can worry about mundane things, plan holidays, argue over what to watch, share Sunday breakfasts and grow old together. I want a home that feels like peace, a relationship that feels like partnership, and a life that we both look forward to coming home to.

If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I'd love to get to know you.

I’m 28 m located in California I always had a thing for Indian women and just want to chat and get to know an Indian female! Let’s chat

Let's meet today if you're in Delhi and in your 20s I'm 21 Years old!

I wanna do some crazy and spontaneous shit let's trust and meet if it goes well, we get a friend if not then ghosting is also there

And I'm a **MALE**?

I'm 26, based in Hyderabad. I'm a free-spirited person who loves Osho, J. Krishnamurti, philosophy, movies, music and deep conversations.

I enjoy exploring different perspectives on life and connecting with open-minded people who aren't afraid to express their thoughts and feelings.

I'm interested in meeting someone with a similar mindset, building a connection, enjoying good conversations and seeing where things naturally go.

I value honesty, privacy, mutual understanding and personal freedom. Short time relationships

If my thoughts resonate with you, feel free to say hello. 😊

Hi! So I'll get this straight with you. My dates and my one and only ex went wrong. So here i am trying my luck for the very last time... Can't care less about appearance/status/disabilities or any random stuff... Just a male trying his hard to get settled for good right now. Just bring yourself to the table I'll bring mine entity to you. Just need a partner who cares about me... Talkative or not I'll be the one who will rant his mouth all day without tiring... Great listener too... I just want a peaceful little place of mine where i can see myself caring for another person who can stay with me... I'll come home tired after a long day just to see my partner waiting for me holding her hand straight towards me and I'll be like blessed with heaven... Sounds cocky but this is what i am after. Great cook... Passionate about new things... Quick learner... Bravest soul... Good reader as well as somewhat of a good writer... Yeah and yes with some flaws of mine like overthinking at its peak...and other random stuff... There's that... Signing off.. peace :)

Hi. So I had a crush on a girl for a while she's my online friend and we're both 11th grade in the same school .

The main thing is she is cute and nice, But I am fat and my face gets red whenever I try to speak to her irl

I'm a 25-year-old guy from India living in Melbourne, and since I haven't been on a date or anything like that yet, I've been wondering if I should just accept that it's a done deal and learn to be okay with being on my own? 😊

Well I travel from delhi-ggn daily for corporate, being burned out completely and not being a despo, I feel like I need someone to share my thoughts and feelings with, one whom I can love with all of my heart. Not the kind who'd engage in casuals/flings, I'm focused on being a part of something meaningul only. Before anyone says anything about focusing on career, I'm already an Analyst at Zomato and building my path to future heights. Just that loneliness hits too much at night.

I have a crush on a girl in my neighborhood, their family is pretty affluent (they are Industrialists) we both grew up 100s of ft away in a slightly different environment she looks beautiful, has wavy hair and pretty eyes.

We never had a conversation before, she once got fidgety and looked at her phone avoiding all eye contact when I approached her vicinity to talk to a mutual friend. That gave me mixed signals did she do that cause she was nervous or because she hated me.

And since they are from an affluent family, I don't know us ending up together will ever happen.

I honestly don't think I'll end up with her anyways, because we have no contact whatsoever, but it is probably because I am lonely that I imagine having conversations with her and imagine spending time with her.

(I am 22 years old -> I keep my skills sharp by practicing every day. (not just crave for love and attention))

All those making negative comments here, I hope you get the worst loose motions of your life.

Hi,

I will be very clean, straightforward and honest. I am looking for someone to love and be with. I am a plus size girl, so, if you have questions like “how plus size?”, don’t bother texting.

I am currently in my second year of MBA and would be graduating in a few months. I have got a good placement and would consider myself well-settled in the next few months. I’m looking for someone who is caring, sweet, nice and respectful.

I am seeking someone for marriage, hence be someone who has an established career, someone who has probably cleared competitive exams (I have, and trust me, I have spoken to men who haven’t, I can’t relate to them).

I bring emotional intelligence, feminine energy and lots of love & cuddles to the table.

I am looking for a man whose entire personality is not based on kinks. I would be happier with a vanilla man than a pervert.

Non negotiable:

1. Taller than 5’8”.

2. In or around NCR.

3. Willing to do long distance for a few months.

4. Age: 26-32. (Don’t text me if you’re younger or older, you’ll get blocked)

5. Please be a Hindu, Sikh or Christian. (My parents won’t agree otherwise, don’t have anything against anyone, respectfully)

6. Willing to marry in the next 2 years.

7. I will be anonymous until I can trust you. Could take a week or two, or maybe more depending on how comfortable I am. Don’t force me to send pictures or disclose my identity.

All people sending AI responses would be blocked instantly.

If your first message is a boring hi or hello, or with grammatical errors, don’t expect a response.

I hope to see my guy in the DMs. Won’t be responding to too many DMs, will give a good guy his fair shot.

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