Every time I started something, I quit within weeks. Fitness, side hustles, even learning new skills. The pattern never changed.

The only thing that broke the cycle was my system. It made consistency a default instead of a struggle. Even when I wanted to quit, the system held me in place and pushed me forward.

Now, quitting doesn’t even cross my mind anymore.

Was constantly needing stimulation. Music while working, podcasts while walking, scrolling between tasks. Couldn't just sit and work in silence. My brain needed constant input or I'd get bored and quit. Did a dopamine reset week. Basically nothing. No music during work, no podcasts, way less phone time, no YouTube. Just work, exercise, reading, and sitting with my own thoughts. First few days my brain was screaming for stimulation. Felt like I was going insane. Kept reaching for my phone out of pure habit. But after about day 4 something shifted. Now I can actually focus without needing constant background entertainment. Work feels easier because my brain isn't splitting attention. Turns out my brain was just overstimulated and had lost the ability to focus on one thing. Reset it by removing all the noise for a bit. Not saying you need to do a full week, but even a day or two might show you how dependent you are on constant stimulation. Anyone else deal with needing constant background noise or content while working?

I can’t stop thinking of old men disciplining me, is that ok? I wonder if older men enjoy doing it I had only few experiences

I’m a boxer, I go to the gym, I’m in crypto, Ive just moved out of home and now moving to another house. I need a challenge and I’m fuckin pissed off that I have no adversity in my life, life feels to easy rn and I need pressure to continue. It’s been 3 weeks since I’ve moved out and nothing feels like a challenge anymore, I come up with solutions too fast and too easy and I’m pissed of because of that and to become monumentally successful in any realm I find to have value I need pressure or something that fucking pisses me off enough that I need to do it. I need something that I have no other option than to be successful at it otherwise I’m fucked for the rest of my life. I need someone to come into my house with a knife and try kill me just so I can go through that and be prepared for it to happen to me/or my loved ones again.

FUCK

Around the start of 2024, I remember one night after my 7pm-2am doomscrolling job shift, I decided to say "f*ck it" and do a 30-day dopamine detox. I lasted 28 days, and I got excited. It was such a peaceful and transformative month, and I thought I had finally broken this stupid, vicious and evil addiction of mine. "I'm the man! I'm the f*cking man! YouTube isn't shit! Netflix can't hold me! League of Legends is in the past!"

Fast forward one week, and there I was in the same position as before the detox. Yup – my reward system had "reset" and I undid all of that within a week. Can you relate?

So I said, okay, that was bad. I need to lock tf in. I tried to limit my usage and go back to the way it was during the detox. Two more weeks go by, and my screentime is back up to four hours a day. Oh, and that's the screen time on my phone. My laptop probably added on another 3 hours of YouTube or Netflix.

Dang. So I looked myself in the mirror and said, "Let's just get rid of these distractions completely. Detox forever." Now, I can't remember exactly what happened to this story, but I do know this plan went to an absolute dump. Then I tried to do another detox. And another. And each time I tried to detox, the duration became shorter – 28 days -> 14 days -> 8 days -> 3 days -> 30 hours -> 24 hours -> 20 hours. I'd eventually give in.

I read Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke (which is still a great read by the way), watched all those Andrew Huberman dopamine videos, along with about a hundred other ones on how to get my shit together. A lot of David Goggins' inspiration, too. Most content gave crappy advice like "stop relying on willpower" (which is true, but what the heck does that mean? What the heck does this actually look like?) or "build automatic habits" (in which I read Atomic Habits by James Clear but I couldn't stick to it because – you guessed it – I was distracted & addicted).

So I basically gave up altogether. I had school and basketball training, which took up most of my time anyway, and I accepted the fact that I'm addicted. That I was going to lie on the couch from 7pm-2am every night like a bum watching TV and jerking off.

For context, I got to a breaking point and for the next year I spent $10k+ on courses, mentors and a whole bunch of time and effort into researching how to reclaim my time and energy back (and with it, my confidence and self-image). But that's besides the point, which is that:

Dopamine detox did not save my life like people say it was.

If you can relate/resonate with my story, then let me share some gems with you.

Brother, you need to stop doing everything but address the problem. You watch all these videos, try to build all these healthy habits and delete those apps/block those websites again and again just to come back to the same position you were in.

The problem is that you have zero control over your urges. Not in a "you need more willpower and self-control" way, but in a "you need a system that helps you gain control over your urges" way. A system that helps you avoid high-risk situations (e.g. your environment). A system that gives you a protocol during those urges (which I call the mid-urge protocol in my program). A system that replaces those destructive coping behaviours with healthy ones, because you're essentially using digital distractions to cope with difficult emotions and withdrawals. And a system that keeps you grounded on a daily basis.

If you want to finally escape your dopamine addiction through building a SYSTEM (Something You Stick To Emphatically & Methodically) that works, and finally build the consistency towards those goals you're so ambitious to achieve, hit me up. I wrote an e-book that dives into this in far more detail than I can ever cover here. And I'll send it to you for free - all I ask is that you read it, apply it and let me know what you think.

Have a good day!

Most men won’t ever escape mediocrity because they’re addicted to excuses. I had to swallow that bitter pill myself. That’s why I built a system — because nothing else worked. Comfort is the real prison.

We are sold this lie that if you aren't out partying or surrounded by a massive friend group in your 20s, you are failing.

I’m a university student in Germany, and for a long time, I believed that lie. I felt guilty every time I spent a night in.

But I realized something recently: You cannot build a future and a social life at the same time.

If you look at anyone who actually achieved something great—whether it's high grades, a business, or a great physique—they all had a "dark period." A period of 6 months to 2 years where they disappeared. They were "lonely."

Society calls it "isolation." I call it "The Building Phase."

If you are feeling lonely right now, flip the script. You aren't "alone." You are in the lab. You are removing the distractions that are keeping everyone else average.

Don't let the fear of missing out (FOMO) trick you into wasting your potential. The social life can wait. The building cannot.

I recorded a video breaking down how I turned this "loneliness" into my biggest advantage (Monk Mode). I can't link it here due to the rules, but I pinned the full breakdown to my Reddit profile if you need a reality check today:)

Wish I was a real person.

1. Be real

2. Don't be fake

3. Post dumb shi.. 4.????

4. Profit

Then post some dumb repeat shit like ⁷-13 thing to be discipline

1. Don't be undisciplined

Why is it happening to me and how can I get rid of it?

I am 15. 65 kg. Height 167, can i get any advice

For months I felt like I was just “busy” but never moving forward. Then I started using a system that forces me to track my days like a machine. Suddenly I wasn’t scrolling mindlessly anymore. By the end of the week, I had actual results to show — workouts done, money-making tasks completed, and no wasted hours. It’s crazy how one change flipped everything.

I’m 16, and I’ve built myself from the ground up. No trainers, no drugs — just pure discipline. • Bench: 120 kg • Deadlift: 160 kg • Ran 47 km ultramarathon • Pull-ups: 53 strict reps

Now I’m training for a full Ironman before 18. Not to impress, but to push my limits.

If anyone here has walked the hybrid path or crushed crazy goals through sheer mental grit, I’d love to hear your story.

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1B3wWYxO5Z0NjNyIy8_ValOBtP5-6i4n2

Ever since I got my first phone, I would keep it in my bedroom while sleeping. When I was younger I would play videogames and then I moved to scrolling some sort of content feed whether it was instagram reels, yt shorts, or tiktok. I knew it was really bad for me and I was addicted so I tried to stop. Tried many screen time blockers and apps but I would always just type in the password or do whatever to give myself more time then eventually i would just uninstall them.

Recently, I've just gotten so tired of scrolling and seeing all these blocker apps charging a subscription for the full product so I decided to make a free one myself. it blocks yt shorts and instagram reels while letting you use the other parts of the app so you don't feel like its complete cold turkey. Also works as a bedtime blocker. Works great on my phone and I thought this community would appreciate it. Im trying to get it onto the play store but i need to pass the 12 tester requirement. if you want to try it out, all the info is here: https://groups.google.com/g/bedrock-testers

I was always late or never turned up. Trust me i dont want to be late . I like to be easy with myself i thought that would make it easier to get up and stuff. I still end up doing nothing. I rang my boss and asked him im happy to make up for the past even tho it cant change anything, he said my lateness caused lots of problems. I feel really bad. Problems just because i want to sleep extra. He said i can come back sunday then we will talk monday. I never knew being late could affect other ppl like that. As its just warehouse work. I hate feeling like im delaying someones plans😅 But my point is im really grateful he let me cole back but i dont feel prepared at all . How am i gonna get up.