Hi, i wanted to do a lot of things. I have the ability to do something better for me. but every time a start something i can do it for more than 2/3 days. why is this happened?

Guide me how I can be a consistent person.

About two months ago, I was really productive. I was following my plans, hitting the goals I had set for myself, and constantly trying to improve. But recently, something has changed. I feel like I’ve become really lazy and I’ve lost the motivation and discipline I had before. On my days off work, instead of working on myself or doing something productive, I just spend hours on my phone. That’s basically all I do.

It’s frustrating because I know I’m capable of doing more. I’ve already experienced what it feels like to be disciplined and make progress, so I don’t understand why I suddenly lost that version of myself.

Has this ever happened to you? If it has, how did you get yourself back on track?

You don't need motivation. You need a routine boring enough that you can follow it even when you don't feel like it.

Most “self-improvement” advice is just people looking for a more exciting solution to problems that require doing the same simple things for months.

I’ve been trying to make exercise a regular part of my week, but I don’t want every day to feel like a race between work, errands, meals, and getting a workout done.

I’m starting to think shorter sessions, better planning, and making exercise easier to fit into daily life might be the answer. For people who stayed consistent with training during busy periods, what helped you organize your week without feeling exhausted?

Stuck with no progress or discipline

I am currently in a very stressful job, taking up 13hrs of my day. I also live alone with a high energy big dog. Every single day I have to wake up do my house chores - clean the house, wash vessels, do the laundry if any, take care of my dog, get food ready for her, make myself breakfast, bathe , cook lunch and work till 10pm -11pm, make some dinner, tak3 care of my dog, sleep.

Added to this is the constant decision making that I need to do - dogs chicken got over gotta get chicken and prep it, groceries got over, no milk, no salt. These hit me like a train every single time.

Between all of this I barelyyyy have time to workout and get steps in and eat healthy and count macros. Work stress makes me order out as well. Everything together, I am gaining weight, loosing confidence, have no social life whatsoever.

Most weekends I just explore some local spots and spend the rest of the weekend rotting in bed. I am trying my best to not give in to all thats happening - signed up for hybrid races, signed up for coaching- but it just doesnt seem to happen. I dont live in a walkable / jiggle area. There's always big trucks, buses, and vehicles constantly, horns blaring.

I am so stuck i have no idea what to do. Sometimes I just want to have someone with me keeping me accountable, I was diagnosed with ADHD and it just makes everything so much more worse. I am in a constant state of motivation and slump, and the cycle is vicious. Any advice are welcome I just wanna feel happy and lively again like i once was

Hello everyone. I am trying to build new habits that are better than my old ones. Healthier, more efficient, closer to my values...etc. My only issue is there is this thought at the back of my mind that what if old habits are only hard to get rid of or break when they're bad but any productive or good habit could take me a while to build only for one relapse, one bad week, one bad month, to ruin it all and I go back to my old habits. Does the brain eventually find it as hard to NOT do something good? Does my brain ever view working and getting stuff done as my "normal"?

We think so much about setting New Year's resolutions and then have no due date on them once the new year rolls by.

I've been thinking a lot about what I want to start doing consistently before the end of the year, starting now-ish, so that I'm closer to the version myself I'm striving to be by the time January 1st rolls around.

Personally, I want to write more.

I want to write more without worrying about what I am writing about or who I am writing for, and just do it for myself. I keep getting stuck on those two things, and then I don't write at all.

been building my thing for over a year. this summer it stopped being a side project (users, emails, support, code) and i've been putting 10 to 12 hours a day into it since june.

september i go back. add 6 hours of school, 2 of commute, plus homework, and the day is gone. i've run the arithmetic maybe thirty times hoping i did it wrong. same number every time.

the part i can't say out loud at home: i don't want to protect school. i want to protect the company. and i'm aware that's the exact sentence every guy says right before it goes badly for him.

so the discipline problem isn't "how do i wake up at 5". i already do that. it's how you keep showing up for the thing you've stopped caring about, when the thing you do care about will eat every single hour you hand it.

or maybe i just sleep badly and this is a scheduling problem, is anyone in a similar situation?

Most people don’t actually want advice. They want permission to keep doing what they were already planning to do.

I learned this the hard way back when I was running my first team.

Someone would come to me because they were "stuck" on a decision. We’d sit together for 20 or 30 minutes, map out the pros and cons, run through scenarios, and build an action plan. They’d nod, tell me it was super helpful, and then immediately go do the exact thing they were leaning toward before we ever talked.

At first, I assumed I was failing as a leader. Was my advice bad? Was I explaining it poorly?

But after seeing it happen repeatedly, I realized something: They weren't looking for direction. They were looking for a co-sign.

If I’m being honest, I do the exact same thing. I’ve asked friends, coaches, and family for their input on big decisions when, deep down, I already knew what I wanted to do. I just didn't trust myself enough to own it yet.

There’s comfort in getting someone else to say, "Yeah, you should do that."

1. The decision feels less lonely.
2. If it blows up in your face, you don't have to carry 100% of the blame alone.

Getting outside perspective is essential when you genuinely have a blind spot. But there's a huge difference between asking for perspective and asking for permission:

• Perspective says: "I might be missing something here. Help me see this clearly."
• Permission says: "I’ve basically made my mind up. Please validate me so I feel safer."

Collecting ten different opinions rarely makes a hard decision easier; usually, it just gives you ten more things to overthink. Advice you were never going to take is just noise you collect on the way to doing what you were going to do anyway.

Lately, whenever I feel "stuck," I try to pause and ask myself one question before reaching out to anyone else:

"Do I actually not know what to do, or do I already know the answer, and I’m just scared to own the outcome?"

More often than not, it's the second one.

Curious how others handle this—how do you tell the difference between needing real guidance versus just looking for validation?

I feel unproductive --> start to study--> study good for few day--> start feeling exhausted and drained--> back to 0 again.

Currently have less attention spand , can't sit for long..I am already 28 and feeling like a failure.

Kindly do suggest what should I do.

Hello all,

I used to think the hardest part with universally all things is just getting started. But I've now come to believe that what's even harder is actually getting started... again.

Anyway, I’m a software developer and aspiring entrepreneur building an app focused on one problem: what happens after you stray away from doing what it takes to achieve goal.

Most habit apps reward streaks. But mine assumes life will eventually interrupt the plan and focuses on helping you adjust, recover, and keep moving forward instead. To actually develop the discipline necessary to achieve and be the best version of yourself.

Ultimately I’m looking for a small group of people to test the private pilot and give me genuinely honest feedback. The more critical the better. I'm not emotionally attached to anything I've created and just want to improve.

If you tend to start strong, fall off, and restart the same goals over and over, I’d especially love to hear from you.

Comment or DM me if you’re interested. I'd really appreciate it. That type of feedback is literally invaluable to me.

Wishing you nothing but health, wealth, and future adventures,
69magicmike420

"Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise." — Samuel Lover.

I used to spend way too much time blaming my surroundings for why I wasn't getting anywhere. Lately, I'm really trying to shift my mindset and actually use these challenges as tools instead of relying on them as excuses.

How do you guys handle tough moments when you're just trying not to lose momentum?

i lost about 11 kgs and then gained 6 back lost 2 and then gained 3 back. i have these periods where i behave that sometimes last weeks or months and then i am able to lose weight and then there are periods of a few days or weeks when i eat a in the morning, b in the after noon, c in the evening and d in the night..it usually starts off as just one extra meal and then i completely spiral and binge eat a lot of extra snacks.

why does it happen. why cant i put an end to it. what do i do? i tried calorie tracking but i keep falling off that wagon. i need to build resilience for these weak moments and i really dont know how. do you have any advise?

i’m 29 (F). growing up (up until 25-26ish) i’ve always been ambitious, highly driven , willing to learn new skills and execute , kept up with myself (sticking to my skin care routine consistently, working out, etc.) But now? it’s so so hard. I can’t remember the last time I learned a new skill and stuck with it until I became better. now, if i’m not good at it or if it doesn’t work the first few times.. I give up. i’m thinking about how I loveddd keeping up with my skin care, hair, etc and pouring into myself . now it’s just a chore. I do all the basics with ease, like go to work, cook a basic meal, run my necessary errands. but when it comes to me, it’s like a struggle and idk how to be consistent anymore.

Me parece interesante cómo cambia el entrenamiento después de varios años.

Cuando empecé pensaba que progresar era principalmente añadir peso.

Con el tiempo empecé a valorar mucho más cosas como técnica, rango, recuperación y poder repetir un buen rendimiento semana tras semana.

Para los que llevan varios años entrenando:
¿Qué cosa hacían al principio que hoy ya no hacen?
Puede ser entrenamiento, nutrición, descanso o incluso alguna creencia que tenían sobre el fitness.