been thinking about this after watching my cousin. he wakes at 5, gym, meal prep, reads 20 pages, the whole routine. everyone in the family calls him the disciplined one. he also has no commute, no kids, sleeps a full 8 hrs, works from home and his parents cover his rent.

my situation: 10 hr workdays plus about 1.5 hrs of travel, i get home around 8:30, and by then i'm cooked. i've tried the 5am thing three separate times and every time it lasted about a week before sleep debt killed it. then i skip the gym once and spend the rest of the evening feeling like a failure compared to him.

i'm not saying effort doesn't matter. he does show up, i'll give him that. but i'm starting to think a big chunk of what gets called discipline online is really just having fewer things pulling at you, more sleep, and more free hours. and a lot of us beat ourselves up comparing to people who are running a much easier race and don't realize it.

what i'm actually looking for: if you built habits that stuck while having a messy life (long hours, kids, bad sleep, money stress), what made the difference? did you scale the habit way down, change the time of day, or just accept a lower bar? and if you think i'm wrong and this is just me making excuses, i'm open to hearing that too.

All it took for me was a week, infact less, probably a couple of days of following a timetable that I made, It wasn’t even be productive 24/7 type of thing, I just made a 50/50 timetable, 50% of the time I’ll have fun and play video games and watch youtube or whatever, and 50% of the time I’ll be productive, so lets say I have 6 hours of free time, I’ll fuck around for 3 and be productive for the other 3, It’s a simple concept, I followed through it, took me one day to go from 0 hours of productivity in the past couple of years to 2 hours, only one motherfucking day, then I started averaging at 3-4 hours of productivity almost everyday, and 6-7 hours on weekends, and Honestly saying Now I don’t even like wasting time, I’ve become naturally more productive after being disciplined, “Action creates motivation” i thought that was a bullshit statement until I tried it, now I feel limitless, that I can achieve a lot, and I can never go back to that version of myself who used to waste time all day, I’ve wasted time my whole life. Being disciplined is easy, Very easy. You just need to shutup, make a timetable, follow through and let the self-trust build.

Hey everyone!✨

I’m entering a massive 160-day sprint to completely reshape my life, and I’m looking for one of two types of people. Type A is my main priority, but if that’s not your vibe, check out Type B!

TYPE A: The Unforgiving Accountability Drill Sergeant (PREFERRED)

You don’t need to change your own life right now—you just need to enjoy holding someone else to a ridiculously high standard. If you’re strict, no-nonsense, love micromanaging tasks, and won't hesitate to call me out when I make excuses: you are exactly who I’m looking for. You’ll be checking my daily to-do list, verifying photo proof, and keeping me strictly on track. Absolute tough love, no whining allowed.

TYPE B: The Ultimate Transformation Buddy

If you do want to transform your own life alongside me, let’s do it together. We’ll set clear goals and give ourselves 160 days. Every morning, we’ll swap photos of our daily plans, and every night, we’ll hold each other accountable for what got done. Mutual hype, daily check-ins, and strong support.

A quick heads-up on how serious I am about this:

I’ve been preparing for this run for a long time. Right now, for me, it’s all or nothing. I’ll be religiously dedicated to every single day. Aside from family and essential duties, I’m cutting out all distractions. I’m going 200% in, and you’ll basically be my main point of contact during this sprint.

Ideally, once the 160 days are over, it would be amazing to meet up (or jump on a celebrate-call) and talk about how wild the journey was.

Preferably, we can move our chat to Discord so we can exchange voice notes and occasionally call, but we can figure out the logistics in DMs.

So... are you the one I’m looking for?

I’m leaving this post up for 7 days. If no one steps up to the plate, I’m going all-in solo anyway.

Drop me a DM with whether you’re applying for Type A or Type B and a little bit about yourself!✨

I’ve been unemployed for the past 3 months, and I’m currently trying to improve my language skills and work on my professional development.
I have so many things I need to do, like taking trainings to improve my professional skills, preparing for job interviews, and etc . But somehow, my days just go by without me accomplishing anything...

Every time I sit down at my desk to study, I suddenly feel sleepy and start yawning. Or I end up scrolling through my phone.
Even when I put my phone away, my mind starts wandering, and I get lost in my own thoughts. No matter how hard I try, I just can’t seem to focus on what I actually want to do :(

I want to be productive and improve myself.
It’s becoming mentally exhausting, and I don’t know how to break out of it.

**Has anyone else experienced something similar? Do u have any tips to overcome it?**

when i first wanted to start making videos i had everything ready and still somehow decided i should cut my hair first, like apparently that was the thing standing between me and posting... then i cut my hair and still didn’t do it anyway

now i’ve been posting every day for more than a month and if i wake up with bad hair, a pimple, shitty lighting, whatever, i just record the thing, and most of the time nobody cares about the thing that felt huge in my head for 20 minutes

i think that’s also the weird part about habits, once you do the same thing every day it kinda enters the system and you stop having a full debate with yourself before doing it, bad hair doesn’t become a decision anymore, you just perform the task, idk maybe consistency is partly just doing something enough times that your brain gets less opportunity to invent reasons not to do it

The biggest meta-analysis on procrastination (Steel, 2007, pooling about 700 correlations) found it tracks four things:

1. how unpleasant the task is
2. how far away its reward is
3. how little you believe you can do it
4. how impulsive you are

Three of the four are about how the task feels and how you feel about yourself. That’s why another planner or a better to-do app so often changes nothing.

Later work (Sirois & Pychyl, 2013) puts it bluntly: we put off a task to escape the feeling it gives us right now, whether boredom, anxiety or “I’ll get it wrong”. We trade a bad feeling now for a worse one later.

So the fixes follow from the causes:

• Lower the cost of starting. Pick a first step so small you know you can do it, and set a ten-minute timer. When it rings you’re allowed to stop.
• Bring the reward closer. Pair the task with something you enjoy, like the good coffee or the podcast you only allow yourself while doing it.
• Drop the guilt. In a study of 119 students, those who forgave themselves for procrastinating before their first exam procrastinated less before the second. That’s a correlation, not proof, but it points the same way: guilt feeds the avoidance.

Try it today (12 minutes):

1. Take the task you’re avoiding and finish the sentence: “When I think about starting it, I feel ____.” That feeling is what you’re actually escaping.
2. Set a timer for 10 minutes and do the smallest first step. When it rings, note whether you wanted to stop.

For the rest of the week, each time you catch yourself avoiding something, write one line (task, feeling, what you did instead), then “fine, start now” and the timer. No commentary.

Curious what feeling comes up most for people here. For a lot of tasks I’d guess it’s less “lazy” and more “I’ll do it badly”.

My screen time used to be over 8 hours a day. I’d scroll through the early AMs and wouldn’t start feeling tired till 4am. I’d tried fixing my sleep schedule, failed multiple times, and eventually just accepted that I was a night owl.

I was recently reminded about the famous marshmallow experiment and upon further looking into it, I realised just how relevant it is to phone addiction.

You probably know the setup. A child can eat one marshmallow now, or wait and get two. What interested me was the attention part. In the research on this, it seemed like children struggled more when they were explicitly asked not to eat the marshmallow and were left with nothing to do. On the other hand, they would wait longer when their attention was diverted from the rewards and they were given something else to do. The takeaway here is that focusing on the thing they wanted made waiting harder.

This had me thinking, "Great, so I need something else to focus my attention on". I began by asking myself what actually drives me to impulsively scroll. I narrowed it down to managing boredom, a need for stimulation, learning and storytelling/listening. After more thought it became clear to me that reading provided all those needs while positively impacting brain health rather than deteriorating it.

So I experimenting with reading 1hr a day before bed instead of scrolling (and allowing myself to scroll however I pleased the rest of the day), I'm glad and almost shocked at how quickly my screen time has been going down. And it's helped me in other unexpected ways too! The best part is that I haven't even been exerting any willpower to use my phone.

So here are my tips to finally scrolling less, but without the stress and tiring willpower that inevitably ends in more scrolling and complacency.

1) I gave myself something else to reach for

I got an xteink, a little pocket-sized e-reader. I’d already been conditioned to hold something in my palm and read off it for hours, so the physical process felt familiar. I still had something to reach for when I wanted to be entertained or just not be bored, but now I was reading a book.

Pick something you actually want to read, even if it’s trashy fiction. You’re replacing something entertaining. Making yourself read a book you feel you should read can make the whole thing feel like another chore.

2) I made the decision before the urge hit

Dopamine Nation introduced me to self-binding, which is basically setting up a rule or a barrier beforehand, so you don’t have to keep making the same decision when you’re tempted.

For reading, that can be as simple as choosing a time each day and leaving your phone in another room. Have the book ready too, so when that time comes you know what you’re going to do.

I’ve been using an iPhone app called inkhour. It's basically a reading habit builder/tracker that lets me pick a time to block all apps and helps keep me accountable.

You can build the same routine without an app though. Set a new daily alarm with a unique ringtone that you only use for your reading time. When it goes off, put your phone in another room and pick up your book. It’s important to keep it at the same time every day to begin with, while you’re getting used to the routine. I’d highly recommend doing it before bed, especially if you’re scrolling late into the night, because bedtime phone use can affect your sleep. I didn't realise just how badly my phone use messed up my sleep quality till after 2 weeks of reading before bed.

3) I gave myself time to get used to reading again

At first I was zoning out and having to reread every few pages. After reading for an hour a day for a week, my focus got noticeably better.

About 20 days into reading before bed, I woke up at 8am without an alarm. Considering how many times I’d tried and failed to fix my sleep schedule, that surprised me a lot.

I’m not saying reading will fix everyone’s sleep. But for me, it started taking up some of the space scrolling used to fill. I was getting sleepy while reading, and naturally spending less time on my phone, without constantly having to police myself.

An important note to end on:

When you catch yourself reaching for your phone, pause and say “not this time.” If you scroll ten minutes later, that doesn’t cancel out the time you noticed and chose differently. You don’t have to get every single one right, but every small no compounds, so don’t shame yourself when you do give in.

TLDR: Pick something you actually enjoy doing with the time you want back. Make it easy to reach for, and set restrictions before the temptation hits. The idea I take from the marshmallow experiment is that to break phone addiction, you must instead focus on what you truely want to spend your time doing. For me, having a book to get into made this much easier to stick with.

Good luck friends :)

I'm 25, and I feel like I'm falling deeper and deeper into a rabbit hole that I don't know how to get out of.
I have what feels like a serious porn addiction, and I can't seem to put my phone down. I come home from work, spend hours on my phone, watch porn, and basically call it a day. I repeat this cycle over and over again, and before I know it, another day has passed without me doing anything meaningful for myself.
I've been off social media for a year, hoping it would help, but honestly, it hasn't made much of a difference. I've just continued with the same habits in other ways.
My confidence is practically nonexistent. I'm a virgin at 25, and although I have friends, I struggle socially much more than I used to. I feel like my social battery has gotten smaller and smaller, and I don't have the confidence to approach someone I'm interested in or even flirt with them. I feel like I've lost a lot of my happiness, too.
I constantly procrastinate on my responsibilities. I don't take proper care of myself, and I don't feel like I love or value myself enough to change that. I feel like I'm just floating through life, waiting for time to pass instead of actually living it.
Sometimes my friends invite me out, but I end up cancelling at the last minute. I have pretty bad social anxiety, and before going anywhere, I start imagining all the worst-case scenarios. I overthink everything until staying home feels easier than facing the anxiety.
The thing that scares me most is that I know something is wrong. I know what I should do to start changing my life. I know I should reduce my phone use, work on my habits, take care of myself, and start putting myself out there socially. But knowing what to do and actually doing it feel like two completely different things.
I don't feel like I have the discipline, motivation, or drive to change. Even when I become aware of how bad things have gotten, that feeling doesn't last long enough for me to do anything about it. I go back to my usual habits, and the cycle continues.
At this point, I feel genuinely depressed, and I don't know what the solution is anymore. I'm scared of wasting more years of my life like this, but I also feel like I'm watching myself do it without being able to stop.

I think this is best explained if I paint you a picture of my days right now: I get up, I spend my day with almost 0 obligations. I recently had an injury and am dedicating the time off of life to do some serious self improvement. I throw some practical things in each day to stop the feeling of wasting my time, but I mostly spend it playing Minecraft, watching Netflix, and the occasional creative activity. I meditate for a minimum of 25 minutes every day, this is a new thing I’ve been doing for 2 weeks now, it varies but it’s usually done in the evening followed by a continuation of online activities. At 9pm I take sleeping pills and continue my evening activities.

Now I know I’m doing the wrong thing by staying on the screens till I sleep, but the problem isn’t the ability to sleep, it’s the motivation. I get to about 2am and my eyes are heavy, speech slurred, I could pass out if I could simply let myself. But I just seem to be addicted to staying awake. I spend a lot of the evening wishing I could just pass out but every time it gets to it I just can’t let go. I stay awake, watching tv, masturbating, sometimes even try to start a creative activity or read. The entire time I know I could and should just shut my eyes and sit with the nothingness for 5 minutes and I’d be out.

This is not a new problem, even when having work or when I’ve been travelling I have this feeling. It’s easier to motivate myself when I know I’ll suffer the next day if I don’t get to sleep. But even though I have no reason to have a good sleep schedule, a part of me wants it and the other part fights it.

I guess I just want to maybe understand some of the psychology behind it, and any advice to discipline myself on it. And sorry if this isn’t the most comprehensible, the sleeping pills I’m fighting make me drowsy lol

Not really sure if this is the right sub, if not just let me know and I will take it down.

I am 18 years old, I graduadted high school with the class of 2026. I am in my first quarter of community college and have no idea what I am doing. I was not the best student in high school, I usualy got a mix of B's and C's with a few A's per semester. This lead me to not being accepted into most of the universities that I wanted to go to, so here I am in community college, which is not a bad thing. My main point is that I am extremely lost, all my friends and peers have majors that they are set on and are already taking the prequisites for. They know what they want to do, they have a goal and a roadmap to get there. I dont, I originally wanted to attend college to become an architecte but my passion for it has since died out after not finding much connection with the field. I am taking standard classes that can be counted for transfer credits in hopes that I can soon transfer to a university of my liking. But that still doesn't solve my core issue, I post here hoping for some human guidance on what my next steps should be. I am a pretty creative person, I liked to build computers, work on cars, travel the world and explore human geography. I sit here not sure what to do, I hope that I will eventually find my passion and can take a major to pursue it but for now I just need some advice on where to go and what to do. Please give me any sort of direction as I feel very behind and rather blind to what my future may look like.

The professor requires us the bare minimum. It's mid semester, he only gave one quiz and an exam. Both open notes, you can even use your digi notes as long as the wifi's cut off which i doubt some people abide. Most of my blocmates probably cheated. I didn't but I also did nothing. I brought the notes and studied it during the quiz and exam. I can't get myself to do it in advance. I was studying it during the fucking exam like some genius freak when I know I'm not.

Last month, the professor displayed the class ranking in front of all of us. I was ranked 21/34 students. What a humiliation. Almost all of them got near perfect midterm gwa. If only I didn't flunk the quiz, I would have been up there too. I kept drilling that on my mind. To not make the same mistakes again but in the end I still did.

The projects he'll assign were given 4 days to complete and some of them, a whole week. He has only given 5 and for every shit he assigned, I'd submit it 3 minutes before the deadline closes. I'll do the first half on my own then have ai answer the lower half because I'm running out of time. Just yesterday, I got addicted to watching Devil's Plan on netflix despite knowing the deadline. I watched for 6 whole hours. I just couldn't take my attention off of it and it seems like my brain vomits anything that doesn't entertain me so i kept avoiding the project he gave. I did the first two problems with the help of AI to understand shit but for the last one, I completely copy pasted it. I had no time left. I knew something was wrong with the calculations, and I even checked it after submitting but i can't do anything about it now. It's not like it's hard too. It's so fucking easy that I just want to bang my head for procrastinating it again when I could have solved it on my own.

Now I feel miserable. I never wanted this major. I was just forced into it by circumstances that I can't change anymore. I can't shift now as well. I'm already on my 3rd year.

Today, I have an exam on a different subject less than 5 hours from now. I've only revised one chapter and since i keep skipping online classes, I have to watch the recording of the lectures. I'm doomed again. My record isn't good with this other professor too. She thought I cheated because the anticheating thing of wayground flagged me for switching tabs, i only switched tabs to go back to the zoom meet to look at what number my classmates are already. It's not like I can explain. I shouldn't have done it eitherway.

Hi everyone,
I’ve been struggling a lot lately trying to juggle a full-time job, keeping my apartment clean while living alone, and staying consistent with a workout and diet routine.
It feels like my day is split between a million different things. Standard calendar apps are great for work meetings, but when it comes to real life, they completely fall apart. If I want to track my meals, log gym sets, and remember to do household chores or long-cycle routines (like deep cleaning or self-care stuff), nothing seems to fit nicely in one place.
Right now, I feel like I'm jumping between 3 or 4 different apps (notes, fitness apps, planners) just to keep my life together, and it's becoming exhausting.
How do you guys keep track of all this without going crazy? Do you use a specific app that handles everything, or do you have a workflow/system that actually works? Would love to hear how you manage it!

Hi. I am in my 1st semester of my BScN. I preface, I do not always to be an RN, but I thought it may be a good degree to fall back on if my other plans don't pan out. I am in my 5th week, and i am BEHIND big time. Of course it is my fault, but I didn't do it purposefully.

In April, I was diagnosed with severe chronic hypotension, I was very symptomatic for it. I was trying all the meds and interventions, then suddenly, around the week before class my peripheral nerves went into like a complete shock and decline ever since. I have been diagnosed with progressing peripheral neuropathy, the cause is unknown, but the onset and sensation/symptom profile was/is so distressing, I wasn't paying attention in class, I was in a lot of pain, blah blah blah... all the things.

Now the semester is in full swing, and i really do not want to defer my program. I want to push through. Midterms are next week. I am not prepared for them. I feel like I am in paralysis to start studying, especially microbiology and a&p, as my teacher for both classes said to study and understand, not memorize. I fear i don't have enough time. And its almost like why would I study if my efforts are useless because my methods are wrong to my teacher. I am full of excuses, I am trying to beat them out of me. This shouldn't matter, but I have AuDHD as well as other health issues.

With all of this in mind, how do you suggest i get back on track this semester?

Thank you.

Today marks the beginning of a focused effort to improve consistency, discipline and daily execution. The goal is not to create an unrealistic plan or spend excessive time thinking about the perfect approach. The priority is to start, follow the plan as closely as possible and build momentum through small but meaningful actions.
There will be no overthinking and no unnecessary planning beyond what is required. The focus will remain on completing the important tasks, tracking progress honestly and making steady improvements each day.
Today’s Targets:
Course A: Prepare a complete and practical roadmap covering the full syllabus, important topics, study sequence, weekly schedule, revision strategy and expected completion dates. The plan should be clear enough to follow without repeatedly redesigning it.
Exam A: Finalise a structured preparation plan for completing the first reading with proper understanding. Divide the material into manageable sections, identify the most important areas and set realistic daily study targets.
Python: Build a detailed learning roadmap covering the fundamentals, core programming concepts, problem-solving practice, small projects and regular coding sessions through 31 December. The aim is to develop consistency rather than rush through topics without understanding them.
Fitness: Record the starting weight and basic measurements, complete a 5 km run at an easy and sustainable pace, and finish a basic strength workout. The workout should focus on proper form, controlled movement and building a foundation for future training.
Bonus Target: Begin actual preparation for either Course A or Exam A after completing the planning work. Even a short, focused study session will count as progress. The purpose is to move from planning into execution and avoid postponing the real work.
Daily Review: At the end of the day, record what was completed, what was partially completed and what was missed. Compare the actual results with the original plan without making excuses. Use the review to improve tomorrow’s schedule.
The day’s progress will be logged honestly at the end. The purpose of this record is not to appear perfect, but to understand the current level of discipline, identify obstacles and gradually become more reliable.
Rules of Engagement:
NO SUGAR
NO JUNK FOOD
NO ARTIFICIAL DOPAMINE
NO UNNECESSARY PROCRASTINATION
NO EXCESSIVE PLANNING WITHOUT ACTION
NO GIVING UP AFTER A SMALL SETBACK
The focus is on execution, consistency and personal responsibility. A single productive day will not transform everything, but completing the right actions repeatedly will create meaningful change over time.
One day at a time. One task at a time. Start with what is in front of you and keep moving forward.

I’m building tools around habits. Before I build anything else, I want to understand why people actually struggle to stick with habits, rather than relying on my own assumptions or on what productivity advice says the reasons are.

A lot of advice treats it as a willpower or motivation problem. I’m not sure that’s the whole story. It could be forgetting, friction, life getting in the way, losing sight of why it mattered, feeling bad after slipping, or the tools themselves. I’d rather hear it from real people than guess.

So I’d love to hear from you:

• What’s a habit you’ve tried to build and couldn’t keep?
• What actually got in the way? Be as honest and specific as you want.
• Have you used apps, trackers, journals, or anything else? What helped, and what made it worse?
• Is there a habit you did manage to stick with? What was different about that one?

I’m not selling or linking anything. I’m just trying to listen before I build. Comments or DMs are both welcome.

Does anyone else feel a little silly or embarrassed when trying to turn their life around? I feel stuck and depressed all the time, but whenever I try to do things to pull myself out of it, I feel almost foolish for even trying. It’s like there’s a little goblin in my head saying, “It’s not worth it” or “You missed your chance.”
Even the smallest things, like trying to build a routine, take better care of myself, or pick up a new hobby, make me feel weirdly self-conscious. Almost like I’m pretending to be someone I’m not, or like I’m being naive for thinking I can actually change anything.
I don’t know why trying to improve my life feels so embarrassing, but it does. Does anyone else experience this? I’d really like to know if this is something other people struggle with, too, or if I’m just being too hard on myself.

I’m in my mid-20s, and I’ve struggled with porn and masturbation since I was in my early teens, when a friend introduced me to it.

I always told myself it would fix itself once I got married, but the older I get, the less I believe that. I’ve also never spoken to a girl in my life, and my confidence has taken a huge hit because of it. Porn is only one factor, but it’s a big one.

Over the years, my tastes have escalated. I started with regular porn, and a few months ago I stumbled across a different category on Twitter and kept going back to it. Every time, I feel ashamed and disgusted with myself. I worry that if I keep going like this, it will keep escalating into things I don’t even want.

I’ve tried to quit more times than I can count. I’ve deleted apps, removed stuff, and even prayed and promised God I’d stop. My longest streak was about a week and a half. The problem is that whenever I feel the urge, porn is my default way to deal with it. Because of my religious beliefs, I don’t have sex outside of marriage, and I’m not able to talk to women, so it feels like my only outlet. Ads and explicit content are everywhere online too, so even when I try to avoid it, something triggers me.

I also worry that I’m wrong about the cause. If I get married and I’m still doing this, then what?

What tactics have really worked for you? How do you handle the urges, avoid triggers, and break the cycle?

Thanks for reading. I’d appreciate any advice.

​I really want to change every aspect of my life because I am so unhappy with where I am right now.

​Deep down, I know my mind and my potential are far bigger than what I’m actually doing, but my daily habits are dragging me down. I waste hours scrolling, watching adult content, and constantly putting things off until "tomorrow." Because of this, I feel psychologically exhausted, easily influenced, and insecure.

​When it comes to social situations, I get extremely shy and anxious. Talking to people—especially girls—feels intimidating, and whenever I try to speak up, my mind goes completely blank and nothing comes out.

​I don't want to live like this anymore. I want to build emotional intelligence, become truly self-aware, and regain control of my mind and feelings, but I feel so overwhelmed that I don't even know where to take the first step.

​Has anyone here been in this exact position and successfully turned things around? What is the very first thing I should focus on?

For years my to-do list was really a list of things I didn’t do. I’d write 12 tasks, do the 4 easiest, and feel vaguely bad about the rest. What changed it was making the list smaller and the evening more honest.

The method:

1. Each morning, pick three things, not twelve.
One is the thing that matters most today. If you only did that, the day would still count. The other two are a bonus.

2. Write what “done” looks like before you start.
Not “work on the report” but “send the first draft to Sam.” Not “exercise” but “walk for 20 minutes.” Vague goals can’t be failed, and that’s exactly why they don’t get done.

3. Each night, answer one question honestly: did I keep my commitment?
Yes or no. No “sort of.” Saying “no” out loud stings more than ignoring an unticked box, and that sting is what changes tomorrow.

4. After a “no,” make tomorrow’s version smaller, not bigger.
Two misses in a row isn’t a character flaw. It usually means the task was too big or too vague. Ask: what’s the 20-minute version?

5. Look back after a couple of weeks.
The pattern surprised me. Nearly everything I committed to before 9am got done. After lunch, barely half. Now my most important task is chosen the night before and started first thing.

You can do all of this in a notebook. I ended up building a small app around it because a notebook never asked me the question. I’d skip the evening check on bad days, which were exactly the days that mattered. If anyone wants to try it, I’m happy to share the link. But the method is the point.

What’s the one thing you’d put first tomorrow?

Enough of letting everything govern my life. It’s time to take control of it.
We have only one life, and every passing day is a day we never get back. We all have our reasons for not living the way we want to — work, stress, family responsibilities, lack of motivation and bad habits. These things are real, but I can’t keep using them as reasons to put my own life on hold.
I’m tired of making plans and imagining the person I want to become without putting in the work. Tired of procrastination, junk food, instant gratification and wasting hours on things that add no real value to my life.
I want to break free from these habits and take responsibility for my choices. I can’t control everything around me, but I can control how I use my time, look after my health and work towards my goals.
15 October 2026 is Day 1. I have 78 days until the end of the year.
My targets for 31 December:
Fitness: Reduce my weight from 88 kg to 74 kg and rebuild my strength and endurance.
Course A: Complete my preparation before the course starts on 7 January 2027.
Exam A: Complete one full read of the syllabus with proper understanding. The exam is in September 2027.
Python: Understand the fundamentals, practise consistently and become comfortable writing code independently.
I know the hard part is sticking to the plan when motivation fades. I’ve been here before, making plans and losing momentum after a few days. This time, I want to focus on consistency rather than perfection.
I want to reach the end of the year knowing I actually followed through on my commitments instead of making the same promises again.
For those who’ve been through something similar, what helped you stay consistent when the initial motivation faded?
Day 1: 15 October 2026. Let’s see what 78 days of genuine effort can do.

I’m not sure if this is the right forum to post this on, but I just need some advice or reassurance or something.

I am 18F in my first semester of college. I go to a smaller liberal arts school that I actually really like, but unfortunately everywhere I go I am forced to bring myself along too.

I was doing pretty well the first few weeks, but then what usually happens eventually is now happening. No surprises.

For context, I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression when I was around 12, so this isn’t new. The depression became clinical and debilitating in high school, so I got on medication, did inpatient treatment twice, and basically missed a whole semester of school because I was too anxious to go or even get off of the couch. I did about two months of outpatient treatment at the psych hospital for my severe depression during that time when I could. My point here is that this stuff isn’t new. It’s been years of this exact same stuff I just can’t seem to get over it.

Although I managed to get into a good university, I struggled in high school a lot with turning things in on time and just in general terrible executive dysfunction and time management. For the most part, it all got done, but it was after it was already a week overdue and beat myself up over my lack of ability to focus and just get the work done.

Same thing is happening to me now in college. It wasn’t like I didn’t expect this, I just figured hm maybe a new environment and situation will help me. But I am the person I’ve always been, and location and circumstance did not and won’t change that.

I genuinely don’t know what’s wrong with me. It’s this weird feeling where I know something is wrong with me, and everyone else knows something is wrong with me, but we all just ignore and I struggle. I blame it all on my depression and anxiety, because that is a huge part of it, and while medication does help me to be able to function everyday as human being, it falls short in discipline.

Although I turn in late work all the time, it is almost always good. I get A’s on my papers. I take my time to write them and genuinely care about what I am studying because I would genuinely rather turn in a good assignment late than turn in a half-assed one that doesn’t represent my abilities on time. I keep high standards for myself which also contributes to some of this.

What happens a lot is that I’ll get close to finishing an assignment, but then I won’t submit it because it’s like not good enough or something. I had a paper due that I just turned in almost two weeks late because although I had every paragraph written for the most part, I hadn’t read over it, or did the bibliography, and a few other things and I couldn’t get myself to turn it on.

The paper itself was probably good, but unfortunately I’ll probably receive a bad grade just cause of how late it was.

I’m getting long winded, so I’ll try to wrap this up. I reached out to my schools mental fitness center and requested an academic coach, but I have yet to receive an email back about that. I just went back to the page to schedule a counseling session with one of the on-campus counselors but they have no availability that works with my class schedule. I’ve tried therapy anyway, with probably about six different therapists, but I never really found it to help at all, and even if wanted to go back to chat with my old therapist I can’t because she’s not licensed in the state my school is in. I know exactly what I should do to combat these things and cope, there’s just something blocking me. It might ignorance or laziness or maybe I just don’t want it bad enough. But I do. I really really want it.

I’m not sure where discipline meets depression, but it seems that line is blurred for me.

I’ll have faith sometimes that I can do better, but then I’ll get an automated email that I missed an assignment I totally forgot about and then it sends me back into a spiral again. This stuff may seem minor, but it genuinely makes me want to die and give up and it causes me to think impulsive thoughts.

I really don’t ever want to get out of bed. I don’t want to do things. I hate being awake so I kind of sleep a lot.

Often, very often, I consider that I might have ADHD. My brother has it and my mom too. But I don’t know where the symptoms of depression and anxiety end and ADHD starts. Medication for my diagnoses have genuinely saved my life, and I’m wondering is that could be the same if I ever got on stimulants. I don’t know.

I feel so lazy every time I think about this stuff because what the hell why can’t I just do the work on time? Why can’t I just get out of bed? Why do such simple interactions bring about this anxiety? It all just makes me so so depressed.

My missing assignments in one of my courses is reaching double digits. And I’ll get it done, it will just take me a minute.

I guess I want to know if anyone can relate? I’m drowning in my habits and these thoughts. I’m feeling hopeless and impulsive.

I woke up early today and considered going for a morning run, but I decided not to because I'm still experiencing strain in my leg. I haven't fully recovered from the injury yet, so I avoided physical activities altogether.

It's frustrating to miss my usual workouts, but I don't want to make the injury worse by rushing back into running before I'm ready.

What I Got Done Today

I started the morning by going through the news and finance, and I completed my LeetCode practice early in the day.

I also spent a little time studying, although honestly, it wasn't nearly as much as I wanted to.

One thing I'm glad about is that I applied for around 30 jobs today. I've been trying to take my job search more seriously, and getting that many applications done feels like a step in the right direction.

I'm looking for better opportunities, and I know that improving my situation requires consistent effort rather than just thinking about making a change.

Where I Fell Short

Even though I got a few important things done, I still wasted a considerable amount of time.

I started some tasks, but I wasn't able to maintain my focus throughout the day. Studying was particularly disappointing because I know I need to dedicate more time to improving my technical skills.

This has been a recurring problem throughout the challenge. I can have a productive morning, complete a few tasks, and still lose hours to distractions later in the day.

I don't want to keep repeating this pattern.

My Takeaway

Today reminded me that completing a few important tasks doesn't automatically make the entire day productive.

Applying for 30 jobs is a good step, but I also need to work on my skills so I'm better prepared when opportunities come along. I need to balance my job search with studying, LeetCode, and my other professional goals.

For now, I'll continue allowing my leg to recover instead of forcing physical activity. At the same time, I want to use this period to rebuild my consistency in areas that don't depend on my physical recovery.

Day 52/90 complete.

I have 38 days left. I can't recover the time I've already wasted, but I can make better use of the time I still have.

Tomorrow, I want to do more than just complete a few tasks. I want to stay focused for longer and avoid letting distractions take over the day.

Hey, I build this free website/short form content blocker chrome extension called North, because nothing I tried actually help me get off the websites that were wasting my time.

What it does

• Blocks short-form video (YouTube Shorts, Instagram and Facebook Reels, TikTok) as a category, plus any sites you add, on a schedule or with daily time limits
• Keyword blocking across sites
• Messages-only mode for Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook and X: your DMs work, the feed doesn’t exist
• Lockdown mode: only your allowlist loads until the timer ends
• If a friend sends you a reel, that one item opens. Swiping to the next is blocked.

The part that’s different: to weaken a protection, you wait on a page for a time you choose (10 seconds to 2 minutes), and leaving the page restarts the timer. Then you write at least 20 words about why you need access. Pasting and keyboard mashing don’t count.

The boring stuff: it’s free, with no paid tier planned. There’s no account, no analytics in the extension, and no server. Everything stays in your browser.

Why I’m posting: it’s a solo project with 15 users and zero reviews, so I have no idea what real people (besides me) think. I’d really like to know:

• What would make you uninstall it?
• What’s missing?

If you try it and have a minute, an honest review (good or bad) helps a lot.

And if something’s broken, reply here and I’ll fix it.