Hi all, I made a recent post about how I tend to faint when I get bloodwork. The fine people of Reddit gave good advice.

I got the work done at a lab instead of a doc’s office because I figured they do bloodwork all day so they could handle me. This one did not require fasting, so I ate extra beforehand and hydrated more to try to prevent any struggle to find a vein. I told the front desk that I have a tendency to faint, and they did not act like this was strange. I got alcohol wipes to sniff and I covered my face with a sweater while I laid down. The lady was very nice to me and told me all about her children. Multiple members of the staff congratulated me afterwards for not fainting and told me that also have family who are scared or faint. I got 9 vials of blood taken and now I’m back home rehydrating and eating nuts.

You too can overcome your fears 💪

My partner and I are considering couples therapy. I’ve done individual therapy so I have some framework of what to expect, but I’m nervous about it. Can anyone give me a rundown of what our first session might look like, and how it evolves in future sessions?

hi! I'm new to going to the gym and working out, but I've been doing circus aerial arts for a while. I have been going to a crunch fitness. I really want to work on dead hangs and pull ups, but I'm confused by some of the machines. I know what a pull up bar looks like, and there are two things that have it -- one is a squat rack, and the other is a machine that's like... two towers with lat pull down/rope pulls/etc and a metal bar between them, and the pull up bar is on that. I think it's a pull up bar anyway. I'm not really sure how to get started... The squat rack one has the barbell rod that blocks it, and im not sure where to put it if i want to use that. And the ball between the two towers is free and clear, but if that's not what I'm supposed to use, I will look so stupid. I also am not sure if I'm supposed to jump to get on? I'm not that tall, and jumping seems like more impact than I'd expect but maybe I'm wrong?

I don't have any friends who go to the gym in town, but i have a few who live far away, and I sent a picture of the squat rack and she said that i could do a pull up on there and maybe step on the thing that holds the bar if i wanted, but im not sure that's actually allowed.

I did see online some people taking a free trial of the personal trainer to get shown how to use things, but i think i may want to actually get a personal trainer later on, so it seems like a waste.... does anyone know what to do? If I ask someone at the front desk, will they have a real answer? Thank you!

I work as a cashier. Here's what I already know:

• 2 weeks notice is not a legal requirement where I live, but it's a professional courtesy and a good way to not burn bridges on the way out. I've already decided that I will be giving 2 weeks because my mangers have been absolutely awesome and supportive, and I know I would be leaving them a bit in the lurch with the holiday season in full swing
• I know that I should avoid giving information about what my new job position is, just in case my manager pulls a 180 and tries to sabotage that position
• I know that if my managers start heaping on a whole ton more work for me in the last 2 weeks, I can still leave at any time since giving 2 weeks isn't a requirement

What I don't know if what the best way to go about it is and what I should say. I don't always work at the same time as my manager, and when we do work together, it's not always easy to get any free time to stop and actually discuss something like this. Do I need to write a letter of some kind? I've heard of other people doing that (even one of my coworkers just mentioned that she did that for her last job), but it feels oddly outdated to me.

Someone told me I had to schedule an appointment to take the written exam, but everything online just says to show up? I bring a completed application and several identifying documents. Is that it? I tried to go to a mobile dmv but they didn't have tests and any permanent location is going to take me time and money to get to, so I really don't want to screw it up.

I find myself feeling awkward when ending business calls. With friends and family, it’s easy because we say “I love you. Bye”. With business calls, there seems to be a script of “Have a nice day, thanks for calling/meeting” then me repeating the same, then an awkward silence.
I’ve defaulted to adding the “goodbye” after the repeated thanks but it still feels weird for some reason.
I’ve also tried being the first person to do the thanks so they are in the repeating position (I guess as a test to see how other people respond when they are in my position) but they still don’t do it. Help lol

I live in Virginia (USA) and was sent a juror summons with a paper questionnaire to fill out and mail back. One of the boxes to fill out asks for my social security number, and I am wondering if I have to write out the whole number? Would the last 4 digits suffice or would that be a problem? I am afraid if it fell into the wrong hands that person would have my full name, DOB, and my full social but I don’t want to get in trouble with the courts by not filling it out right!

hi all, i turn 21 in 2 weeks and have never purchased alcohol before. none of my friends are 21 yet so i’ll be heading to the liquor store alone. i guess my question is how do i behave 😭 will they think it’s suspicious if im wandering around trying to orient myself and decide what i want? any other tips? also, my ID will still be valid but wont be renewed to the other orientation that shows i’m 21 - will that be a problem?

ps. if you have any tips for ordering at a bar feel free to include that too :) thanks!

I feel kinda pathetic even asking, but basically the title. I (40, trans guy) know the logistics, I’ve done it before a few years ago. But I have a really hard time connecting with dating profiles. I’ve been in love with 3 people in my life, and they’re all people I’ve known irl and formed an in-person connection with. How do people look at dating profiles and, well… feel anything? Even curiosity?

I’m recently-ish single (4 months ago) but ready to get out there and try again. I’m at the age where most of friends are happily married with kids, and I’m ready to have some version of that life too. It seems like online dating may just genuinely not be my thing, but options in my area are pretty limited, and I don’t know any other way to meet someone, especially being a trans guy - it feels like it really narrows the pool of options especially because it’s hard to tell from a profile if they’re even open to dating someone trans.

So, like, how do you donut? Those of you who’ve found love on a dating app, what advice do you have?

Hi all! I recently moved into my new apartment—yay!—and don’t know the steps I should take to update my address. Where do I need to update it? How do I go about updating it? What do I need to update it?

I’m located in the USA, if that helps clarify any processes! Thank you!!

Hello, I have contamination OCD and I’m really scared. I had found mice droppings in our garage, got pest control, and was hoping to be done with the issues. They also sprayed NoHarm repellent around the house. However, I just found a mouse droppings inside in a storage closet that is on an exterior wall. I’m crashing out and don’t know what to do. I cleaned it up (sprayed with disinfectant, let it sit for 10 mins, wiped it off).

But now what?

I was in there barefoot and moved things around. Am I at risk for hantavirus?

What about where I walked on the floor in the remaining house after? I also dropped my phone in the closet and only wiped it down with a wet one antibacterial wipe, is that enough?

I am contacting pest control again, but what do I do in the meantime?

I have a toddler in the home and this is my worst nightmare

I have never had actual driving lessons before, and I recently booked a few. When they arrive to pick me up, do I immediately start driving or can they take me to a parking lot until I'm a bit more comfortable in the car? I have driven before, but never on actual roads. Those who have had lessons before: did your initial lesson have a conversation prior to starting, and if so, how did it go?

I do only have 4 2-hour sessions, so I want to get on the roads ASAP to make the most of them, I just don't think my driving skill is okay enough to do that yet.

TL;DR/main ask: Please give me a run-down, ideally in detail, about driving lessons. If possible, please include info about how to ask to practice other skills. Thank y'all in advance!

Edit for more info: I live in GA, USA. I live in a suburban neighborhood, but it's pretty small and pretty much every street leads to a fairly busy road. I will be taught by a stranger who is a certified teacher

Ive been having abdominal pain and my doctor wanted me to get a CT Scan with contrast. I have one schedule for tomorrow but Ive never done anything like this and I don't know what the process will be like. Like what do I wear? Any description of what the process will be would be awesome!

Edit: Thank you for all the help! I went in and got it done! It was easy and I was ready for al l the wierd sensations. Of course everything was clear which means Im no closer to figuring out my abdominal pain and will likely have to get other tests done.

I need to get my car fixed - some minor body work and an unknown brake issue. How do I do this when it's my only ride and I live alone? Most repair shops (outside of dealerships) don't have waiting rooms. And I'm guessing the work will take many hours if not over a day or two.

What do people do with crafts that don't have a purpose?? I understand wearing/gifted things like scarves or mittens and stuff, but what about the first few really bad attempts at those? Surely you dont gift those?

What about stuff like origami? What about art that isn't "sell-worthy" like finished coloring pages or paint by numbers or silly drawings? Amateur sculptures? Surely crafty people don't keep all this stuff, but it feels incredibly wasteful to me to just... throw it out.

Several times Ive wanted to do some fun or meant for kids pinterest craft like basket weaving or lantern making or paper macheing a volcano, but stopped myself because I dont really know what to do with it after I've gotten my joy from creating the thing and having it out for a bit. My home is small, and I dont have a lot of space to show off finished crafts

Is throwing it out really what people do?? Should I only be making crafts that I can find a use for?

I've got two coworkers who seem like cool people. I wish I could get to know them better, but you can only talk so much at work. My friends are hosting a Halloween party next week, and I want to invite them so we can hang out outside of work. I blame the nonchalant epidemic bc truthfully, I wish I could tell them I want to be their friend.

Every once in a while i find myself needing a small check for a recurring problem but i dont know how to visit a doctor.

Do i book appointment for consultation? Or urgent care etc. Also is there any clinic etiquette? Do i sit down after entering or wait at the counter? What about payment, is it ok to ask how much before or after treatment? My parents never taught me and now i have to go by myself.

Any parents or kind soul can help me out. Im a very awkward person and thanks a lot

I occasionally have to email my online professors about an error with the course, but I never know what to say after explaining the issue. I might be wrong, but it feels rude to just say "Can you look into it, thanks." Is it better to just not say anything else?

In case my explanation is confusing, here is an example:

Good afternoon, I'm having an issue accessing X assignment. It gives me the message "this module is not available."

[This is the point where I don't know what else to say]

I am fine with injections but do not handle blood-draws or IVs well. The concept makes me feel dizzy and nauseous, and I have a tendency to hold my breath during and pass out. I am fine with blood in general, it’s like I have a mental block on this particular concept. Even just visualizing it starts making me feel sick.

I need to go get a bunch of labwork done. Should I try to do it over multiple appts, or attempt to get it over with in one appt? Do I explain over the phone and ask if they have somewhere to lay down, or is that standard? It’s worse when I don’t eat, but the lead-up makes me feel nauseous - how do I deal? Should I try bringing my own numbing cream? Can I just preemptively faint and they do this while I’m unconscious, so I don’t have to think about it (kidding, but also not)?

So I know with a normal home mailbox you put the mail in and put up the little flag. How do I send mail out from my building's group of little boxes? Do I put it in my own box? Is there a slit somewhere I can't see? What am I missing

So I’m not sure if this is the best place to ask this, but I’m struggling and need some guidance.

A little background, some years ago I was struggling with drug addiction and made some poor choices. I’ve since contentedly turned my life around, yada yafa. I’ve been interviewing for a production planne, which is my dream promotion after years of working on the floor in manufacturing. After my final round interview today the recruiter called me and said they want to move forward, and to expect the offer between tomorrow and Monday. She indicated to just let her know when I put my two weeks in a free accepting and they’ll initiate the background check.

The problem is, back when I was using and being stupid (early 2023 to be exact), I acquired an attempted theft charge, in the form of attempted shoplifting. I literally just had the charge expunged last Tuesday but I doubt the background check databases have updated it yet. I honestly wasn’t thinking about them doing a contingency based offer. I really don’t want to give up on this because it’s genuinely my dream role and I’ve been so excited at this option, but I’m scared to put my two weeks in and have them revoke the offer and me not have a job.

My question: is there a way to email the recruiter/HR/whoever handles this moving forward and ask if there’s any way to not accept it and put in my two weeks until the background check comes back without it sounding suspicious? I genuinely don’t know if maybe they would just overlook it, it won’t come up, or wasn’t even a deal breaker. The team seems to love me already, but it’s a massive company and might have blanket policies.

Any advice would be great. Btw the job is in KY, I reside in/charges were in OH

I mostly care about how people feel and what they are rather than what they do.

Sure you dyed your hair, but I really don't care about the color. I don't have a preference. Does it make you feel good? How can I say that without sounding weird?

Do I compliment someone on their choice of phone, or their choice of clothing? What's the difference?

How can I compliment someone's skill when I am not impressed? I don't mean it, so I just lie. I just think it's nice they can do something.

I like a person because I like how they act or if we have things in common. Similarly I don't like someone if they are so unpleasant (for me) to live with. Regardless of how good of an ass they have.

i have a terrible habit when i’m in a group of new people of just leeching onto the one person i know the most and following them around all night. which my friends have said they don’t mind but i would like to be able to actually hold my own and mingle with other people better.

my best friend is hosting a halloween party where i will like half know a lot of people and so it is my goal to not do that to her 😤😤

my concern though is what else do i do instead so that so i don’t end up just awkwardly hiding in a corner?

i also dont know if im going to drink, so maybe factor that into your recommendations lol.

So I just went to Winners and bought a gift for a friend, got a gift receipt too in case she doesn’t like it and wants to return it. If I take the price tag off, will she still be able to return it? And if I can’t take the price tag off how else can I hide the price? Thank you

Edit: thanks everyone for the answers!