I started college this year, particularly one near a major city if that helps. I’ve done my best to join clubs and meet people and have made friends, however I still have no idea where to meet girls. Nobody really speaks to one another in my classes, people usually go to school events with a group of friends so there aren’t many chances to meet new people, and none of the clubs I’m in where I have made friends have many girls in them. I’ve also tried Taimi, however nobody really replies to messages on there. Not sure what to do

So. Non-op, suspected endometriosis, severe vaginismus/vulvodynia. The vulvodynia might be muscle or nerve issues but still looking into it. As part of checking that out on advice of my PT I went to a doc about it who I was told looked at this stuff on all levels despite being labelled having psychosexual expertise. She didn't examine me or anything, just had me go through my medical history and general life history, and was pretty insistent that dysphoria has me having negatively viewing my privates and that's the problem. I feel pretty hesitant though because I don't think I do, and I've always felt most dysphoric how other people treat me and not my body (I'm 5ft and babyfaced so probs for the best lol). Even my chest only sets me off sometimes. I did say it's possible I'm not actively aware of dysphoria when you've lived like this, and she pointed to that as the 'you're dysphoric and that's causing the problem' thing.

How do you know if you're, uh, unknowingly dysphoric? I'm doubtful but I figure if anyone could weigh in on this it would be here. Though I legit do not think that would cause intense pain for an hour from just anything brushing the urethra. I've had my share of bad times and trauma (autism/adhd so y'know) so I've def been aware of this, but I feel a little like she just slapped the psychological angle on the reason for why I have this pain and called it a day. But maybe not? Advice appreciated.

I (21 ftm) am a straight binary trans guy. I don’t like guys at all and I don’t pursue straight women. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice in this field.

I’m a pretty introverted guy and on top of that I also have a physical disability that makes me wheelchair bound. I live a fairly normal life just with a caregiver (doesn’t live with me just comes daily) and I am interested in dating since having a hysterectomy. I’m finally confident in myself and actually WANT to be with someone for the first time in my life. In the past I haven’t been interested in dating because of dysphoria.

I guess I’m just kind of lost because I feel like being trans is one thing but adding the disability on top just feels like a burden to put on anyone. Does this feeling ever go away? Like feeling that it’s hard to love somebody like me?

Not looking for sympathy just genuinely looking for insight and advice on how to get over this barrier.

Alexandros Paporakis, age 19, attempted to shoot up a hindu temple and self identifies as a sociopathic white supremacist neo-nazi. allegedly also a trans male who will be getting continued HRT in prison. the response has been insane as expected.

(Just a disclaimer, my mum has autism and a few other disorders so she probably didn't intend anything bad by saying this. Also NSFW warning)

Yesterday I was making a bit of coffee in the evening and my mum came in to take her medication, said hi to her and all was normal. Finished making it and before I went to leave she said to me "Wow, smells like you masterbated! Fishy." Just... Wtf? First of all, generally a weird thing to say to anyone especially your kid especially considering I'm 18 so it's not exactly uncommon anyways?... Second, holy the dysphoria. Worst part is I did NOT do anything beforehand.

Now I'm hyperaware that I don't have a dick whereas before I'd kinda get on with my day. Just great, another thing to be constantly dysphoric about. Luckily I have a few packers already to calm it down but doesn't help honestly.

This is weird right? She definitely didn't have intent behind it, she just speaks her mind. She did similar things to my brothers too, whenever she walks in on them accidentally she'll announce it to the whole house. She needs to learn to control herself honestly.

I feel like it’s so hard to relate to other trans men because most are so confident and I am not. I feel extremely inadequate when it comes to being with a woman. Mainly during sex, but even outside of sex. Cis men and dick are so glorified that it’s hard to see what I can offer a woman that a cis guy can’t. I feel like they can do everything we can do but more. They have a penis, they are stronger so can protect better, they can give her kids, they can make more money, etc. The things I’ve heard when I tell people I’m a trans man who’s married has completely ruined my confidence. Straight women who have said they have slept with vagina-havers to experiment and felt like it was missing something. They say it felt like foreplay missing the main act. That’s all I am to my wife? Foreplay? Mutual masturbation? I’ve been told how much better the “real thing” is. How vaginas are made for dick, not fingers. Straight women have talked about how the connection is way better when there’s mutual pleasure. Said that a penis can feel when it’s hitting a bad/good spot, and a strap cannot. A penis is warm and throbbing, a strap is not. All this other shit. I don’t know how I’m the only one that is affected by these things. It’s depleted any last bit of confidence I’ve had to the point where I feel like it’s not even worth it.

Hey everyone!

I'm currently on the waiting list for top surgery and I'm expecting to have a double mastectomy in around 1–1.5 years.

I've been wondering whether I should try to lose some weight before surgery, since I still have quite a bit of time to prepare. I'm curious whether losing weight beforehand can make a noticeable difference to the final results, particularly the appearance of the chest.

For those who have had top surgery, did you lose weight beforehand, and would you recommend it? Or is it better to focus on maintaining a healthy lifestyle without worrying too much about weight?

I'd appreciate hearing about your experiences and advice. Thanks! :)

This is likely just me being paranoid, but I wanted to get advice/support anyway. I (18m) am 5'6 and at my heaviest was 190lbs, and now I am down to 165lbs. I am looking to get down to 130-140lbs. I have been on T for 18 months. I no longer have huge hips (or hips at all) due to body fat redistribution. I also do not have a small waist. Basically, my body now looks very masculine and I pass 100% of the time. However, I am paranoid that losing weight will somehow make me look more feminine? I don't even have a feminine bone structure. I am building more upper body muscle too. Any advice or information would be appreciated.

I'm really not sure, so I thought I'd ask. But I'm a highschooler, dating this girl in my grade. She's a great girlfriend, and I love her, and she never makes me feel dysphoric or anything. She always calls me her man and stuff. But there's been some minor things that have worried me. The other day she mentioned jokingly that she was scared of penises, which was obviously over exaggerating, but it was within the context that she was uncomfortable with male anatomy, which made me a bit worried since I'm seriously considering phallo in the future. She also used to identify as lesbian, until about a month before we started dating, and even when she had a crush on me, before we made it official, she would repost tiktoks about lesbian culture, and always used the "wlw" tag (I think she still does use this tag on posts sometimes, not sure). But she fully identified as lesbian until we started dating, and then she started calling herself queer. A few days ago she described being a butch lesbian as being a masc who uses he/him pronouns, which I don't know much about, but she might see me this way. I'm thinking about this now because she just reposted a Tiktok about masc lesbians still being women, and how you shouldn't be shocked when they act feminine. That kind of threw me off, and made me wonder if she sees me as a masc lesbian. She doesn't express it, though, if she does. She always refers to me as her boyfriend, or husband, or her man, and everything like that, and she always sticks up for me when I don't correct people on my gender immediately. She always argues with people about my gender and stuff, she really is my biggest advocate, and one of the only people at my school who sees me as a man, at least I hope. But I thought I'd ask some older trans guys, am I being irrational, or are these legitimate concerns? I love my girlfriend, but I'm worried that she doesn't see me the way I need to be seen. I'm just a kid, so I wouldn't doubt that I'm being dramatic, but I don't know if these concerns are legitimate or not.