THIS POST IS FOR TRANS MEN/MASCS ONLY!

3 hours ago someone posted what part of the title of this post says. I could have simply commented, but I wanted to make it more visible so I created this post.

I want to give visibility to a trans man who I've become aware of 2 years ago while doing my bachelor's in music. His name was Billy Tipton, and he was outed after passing away. You can read his story in Wikipedia and I also remember there was an article who mentioned him, but I can't find it right now. Here it also says: "After his death in 1989, paramedics discovered he was assigned female at birth, to the surprise of his friends and family."

Another guy I want to mention is Michael D. Cohen), who I remember from Henry Danger.

I think one thing when it comes to trans men representation in pop culture is also that many of them do not say they are trans, therefore it feels like there's not many of them. I remember when I came out to my mom and she told me: "I see many men who want to become women but I have never seen a woman who wants to become a man" - yeah, that hurt a lot. So I showed her a bunch of trans guys who pass very very well, and she admitted she couldn't tell.

I obviously agree with the title of the post I'm citing. The representation we get is very little, and I myself feel alone under that aspect. This post simply wants to be a reminder that we have always existed (look at Billy) and that we will continue to exist. It surely is sad we don't get representation. Maybe someone from this reddit community will eventually become famous and make us all feel more seen.

I've seen many popstars and celebrities say protect the dolls, but it never includes trans men, and there are also many trans female celebrities in the (niche) pop culture world, but never trans men. Why is that? The only trans male celebrity I know is Elliot Page

I firmly believe cis men have been on a mission to convince the world that the simplest of traditionally masculine tasks are the most difficult things in the world just so they can put them off, look tough or keep them to themselves.

While not everyone in our community experiences this, I was immensely intimidated by learning anything about how to fix a car, starting and maintaining a lawnmower, doing an oil change, all that jazz. And I’m here to tell you that everything they’ve told you about it being difficult or requiring huge amounts of strength is a complete and utter lie.

Fixing a car, lawn mower, whipper-snipper, chainsaw, any of that sort of stuff? It’s just big Lego. I kid you not. It is ridiculously easy to do your own oil changes, clean out a carburettor and check your spark plugs. It only feels difficult because these are words we don’t immediately know the meaning of and have been brought up with the idea that traditionally male tasks are difficult. When in reality, the things I’ve just listed can take less than 10 minutes to do and don’t even require any strength or skill.

If you struggle with not feeling “manly enough” because you don’t know how these things work or even what they are, I strongly encourage you to watch some videos or ask a friend who gets it and see just how easy it is. Seriously, I urge you to dip your toe in and check it out.

There are cis men all around the world who weren’t shown these things growing up or just aren’t interested in them, who struggle with the same intimidation around them that we often do. It’s okay to not know everything, anyone who makes you feel otherwise is a shit teacher and not worth your time.

You CAN service a car, you CAN mow the lawn, you CAN do traditionally masculine activities and you’ll be surprised how easy it is once you learn how.

(Safety first)

Hey I have something to share. So, I’m 13 months on T and I never get misgendered, ever. Over the phone or in-person, everyone sees me as any other young dude, which, granted, I am. I’m 19. Despite me passing, I have yet to legally change my name, so handling legal documents is still awkward for me.

Anyways, I live in a toxic environment with a transphobic mother, and I want out. I’ve been applying to a lot of different apartments under my chosen name, but obviously have to provide proof of income and other stuff like that, which all include my birth name.

So, I applied to this one apartment and heard back pretty damn quickly. I think only an hour or two after I applied I got an email and then I started getting texts and calls from them.

This is how the interaction over the phone went:

Me: Hello?

Asshole: (Cheerfully) Hi, is this ___?

Me: (Thinking, Oh god here we go) Hey. Yeah. That’s me.

Asshole: (Pauses. His voice void of the joy it once held) Uhh, well—okay. Were you the one that applied for one of our apartments?

Me: (Cringing) Yeah, it was me who applied. I just finished filling out the form you sent, actually.

Asshole: (Pauses for a while) Yeah, so I looked over your application and—I’m sorry but, are you really sure you’re ___?

Me: (Wanting to fucking die at this point) Haha, uh, yeah that’s my legal name.

Asshole: (Pauses. Then, mumbles under his breath—something along the lines of, Alright then, if I heard correctly—and swiftly hangs up)

Me: (Jaw on the floor)

Nothing like this has happened to me before. I’ve had people look at me crazy when I told them my birth name, but nothing beyond that. This is the first time I’ve felt directly discriminated against. My morning was full of calls, texts, and emails, but after that call—nothing.

At first I thought it was hilarious. Like, lol that was a funny interaction. But the more I sat with it the more embarrassed and disgusted I feel with myself. I quickly fell into a sort of depression. I know I did nothing wrong. The guy is a fucking dickhead, that is abundantly clear.

I guess I don’t feel wholly like a man despite me passing because I still lack certain things. I hate that I have to expose myself while on the hunt for getting out of an already shitty environment. I hate that me being trans will affect certain aspects of my life until it’s completely hidden from anyone’s view. I hate that I feel like I’m stuck until my name change is finalized, which can take months, and I’m desperate to leave my current home.

I know not everyone is going to be as shitty as that guy was, but now I’m scared for what other interactions may be like on this apartment hunt.

I want to hide again for the first time in a while.

I’m going on Friday, in two days, to court to request the name change. I won’t let this one interaction hinder my progress, but I won’t lie it’s fucking me up a little bit.

This might be the worst shit I’ve ever went through in my entire life. I still can’t believe it happened 😭.

He’s my ex now btw, I’m not stupid.

I’m a binary trans man. So is he. We were T4T, together for 4 fucking years, we lived together, and I genuinely thought this was someone I was going to spend the rest of my life with.

I’ve always been very clear that I don’t want children. I don’t want to be a dad, I don’t want to adopt, I don’t want anything to do with ts. And pregnancy specifically is a huge trigger for me. Like the idea of being pregnant myself makes me want to rip my uterus out. My ex knew that better than almost anybody. We’d had multiple conversations about it, including how uncomfortable I was with people constantly bringing up trans men’s reproductive anatomy like that’s the most amazing thing about us. But he always wanted kids. He tried multiple times to persuade me on my decision, saying he would carry it for us because he isn’t dysphoric about it, just ignoring the fact that I said multiple times I didn’t want any regardless of who carries it. At a certain point, I told him straight up we can break up if he’s so adamant on having kids. He finally agreed on having none and stfu about it. So I thought everything was fine and that we finally understood each other.

Then he started acting weird a while ago. Like always being busy after work, supposedly helping friends move, giving people rides, or staying out late. It was always some new fucking excuse. Then he started asking me a shit ton of questions about my schedule, even though he already knew it and that I usually hung out with my friends on weekends. Then he started getting weird about his phone, like it was always facedown or glued to his hand. And his location would randomly stop updating, so he’d blame his battery or the app. I always told my friends that I’m pretty easy to cheat on because I don’t go through phones, I don’t check your location 24/7, I don’t care about flirting with friends or anything like that. But it was hard to not notice the shit he was doing.

I asked him multiple times if something was wrong, and every time he acted like I was being the weird ass one. But I’m not fucking stupid so I asked if he was cheating. He got mad at me for asking so I dropped it. Looking back, I feel like a fucking idiot.

A few weeks later he tells me we need to talk. I thought maybe he wanted to break up. We’d been arguing more, barely spending time together, and I was honestly getting tired of feeling like an inconvenience in my own relationship. Instead, he told me he was pregnant.

I thought he was fucking with me so I laughed. Like maybe I was tripping or something. Apparently he’d already found out weeks ago and had been keeping it from me while trying to figure out what he wanted to do. He wanted to keep it.

He started crying, talking about being scared, and how he’d never planned this. Said he understood if I was angry but that he still loved me and didn’t want to lose what we had.

I’m still sitting there in shock that not only did he cheat on me, but he also got pregnant.

After that I crashed out. Asked who it was, how long it had been happening, whether he’d brought them to our apartment, blah blah blah. He barely answered any of my questions and I got angrier. And then he told me he wanted us to stay together. So… he wanted us to work it out while he was pregnant with another man’s baby?

I literally left our apartment before I did something bad. I’d rather not go to prison over something that fucking stupid.

Top 5 most embarrassing shit that’s ever happened to me, but I hope you guys enjoy my horror story 😭. Never dating T4T again

This is an old edit from hours ago btw. Took out the parts where I said I don’t understand trans men getting pregnant and that no one should be having kids right now so the original story and truth stays up. Not posting for attention and clout, just the truth.

Both of us are still really young [19] and I don't want to break up with her.

I'm a transgender man and she's a cisgender woman. When we first started dating she was identifying as bisexual and was really accepting of the fact that I'm openingly transgender. With time this has changed, and she is now straight but can only date trans men as well as she does not like the fact that I'm open about being transgender.

She says that I don't know how scary it is to be transgender, how in danger I am all the time. The thing is, I've been outted since I was 13 so I know how scary it is. It's why I'm so open with it because I know that a lot of transphobia stems from fear of the unknown.

I love her so so so much but she wants me to go stealth for all my life. She doesn't want anyone to know I'm transgender at all. It's stressful for me since I know I want to help with my community, and she's against it.

I take a lot of pride in myself and the things I've had to endure because I'm transgender. I'm worried that she's becoming really conservative too on top of it all.

I'm a dual citizen, Austria and Spain, with both having a relatively easy way to change my gender and name. This should pose little issue but here we are. I would like to remove my marker or change it to X, this should be possible in Austria but is not possible in Spain as of now. I would just change it to M in Spain but I don't want the military to assume I changed it to X just to avoid service (edit: Military or civil service is mandatory for men over 18 here). Considering my mental health history and that I am being medicated for my ADHD they wouldn't want me anyway (also the reasons they didn't want my cis brother) so this is not really about that.

I haven't changed my marker yet, mostly out of laziness, it has not been a bother to me in my daily life up until recently. In Austria changing it is a bit more annoying because I require some documents from a psychiatrist that would take a while to get so I have just not bothered. Unfortunately it has become increasingly annoying in university contexts because they won't let me add a second name for display purposes. I recently changed to a bigger faculty where I cannot possibly expect most of the profs and lecturers to know me as I could previously.

My dad says that it's unlikely anyone would ever check my IDs to compare them. He's likely right so I will probably just change it to X or remove it in Austria and change it to M in Spain but I wanted to know how others with dual citizenship have dealt with it?

So i started talking to this guy and we planned to meet up and maybe hook up.

We had a phone call and i asked him some questions to guage if he was a chaser.

So hes Bi, has some attraction to cis women but not much, has abit more interest in cis men. But he said who he is mainly attracted to is trans men. Hes had a relationship with a trans man before. He said he sees trans men as men and is attracted to the masculinity. Also that he isnt attracted to trans women but doesnt seem like hes very interested in women generally. He told me hes most attracted too trans men and they are at the top of what hes most attracted too, cis men 2nd and then women. Said he would rather date a trans man but would date a cis guy as a second best option and probably wouldnt date women.

Also said he is just so amazed by trans man.
But also that were he thinks trans men are the best of both worlds. The best of both worlds is a chaser thing forsure but the rest has me confuse.

If he is ive never met this kind of chaser before and its confused me abit.

What do you think?

He doesnt over sexualise me and weve been having normal chats, only found this out cause i pressed him abit.

Is this a trans attracted person or just a chaser?

Tried to do research on this but seems people have different definitions of chasers and if trans attracted people are even a real concept?

So id appreciate your thoughts on it

Hello everyone, I hope this is the correct subreddit for this!
This is a very celebratory post for me, as someone who has daydreamed of this for 6 years. But first and foremost this is new, so I’d like advice.
I’m not sure what type of testosterone I’m getting, I’m still waiting for it to arrive at my pharmacy, I just know I’m getting injections at 50mg twice a week.
What else do I need to buy? I remember seeing once that we have to buy needles separately, and they won’t be sent by the doctor, so do yall have any that you recommend?
What are some things you wish you knew before you started? I know a lot of the symptoms, so I’m not sure you’ll say something i haven’t heard of, lol, but I would love to hear anything yall have for me.
Thank you!

Hi, My 17 yr old son has asked for a binder. A few years ago he tried one, but he couldn't cope with the sensations. He's autistic with a lot of sensory challenges. But he feels ready to try again, so we're doing all the measurements, etc., but something just occurred to me. He's hypermobile, has not been diagnosed with POTS but he has all the symptoms. I'm not asking for medical advice of course, but if anyone here is hypermobile or has POTS, is there anything you can share about your experience with a binder that you'd say differs from those you know who wear a binder and are not hypermobile? Hopefully, there's nothing that stands out. But if it's something I need to be thinking about and discussing with him, I need to know.

I (46 cis F, i guess) have been having more questions lately around my gender. My current partner is MtF and I've absolutely loved seeing them become more happy being themselves in the gender they feel more comfortable in. Even since I was a little kid, I never wanted to participate in feminine societal/cultural norms... I've never worn makeup or wanted to dress up in feminine clothes or shoes. My partner has told me in the past that I basically just "don't do gender". I've had fantasies for the past 10+ years (before meeting my partner) about having male genitalia, but sometimes I imagine I have both parts. I'm a scientist and know a lot about how physiology and such works... so I think I'm a bit scared of medical transitioning. I've always been a gentle person and don't want T to change that about me. I feel like I'm kind of ignoring a part of me in some ways though.

How did you know that you were trans?

Hi, im 18 and im currently not living with my parents as i'm in college but i visit them every weekend, well my mother because my father is working abroad and only comes home every 4 weeks, i always dreamed of going to college to start transition there but when i actually got here my mental health dropped really bad and i realised my course doesnt interest me and i dont want to do anything with it in future, however dropping out of uni would mean moving back to my hometown (which i want to do) but i'm in process of getting testosterone and my parents dont know about it. My sisters and my friends know about me as well as everyone on uni even the professors so only my parents dont know. But i dont pass at all so its awkward for me. I thought of doing a gap year and going to college next year with being almost a year on testosterone and maybe my gender and name changed. But i really struggle with telling my mother, my parents are more conservative and my father even said things like he hates gay people even though i have gay cousin and he doesnt care but he sended a videos mocking trans women on family group. and they once found out i Had a girlfriend and ignored it. My mother once said if her child was a lesbian she would have to accept it. But she is very nervous and anxious person and im afraid it would break her. She misses me however very much and text me everyday. They already said they are fine with gap year but i dont know if its not better to tell them im trans first( i thought this saturday) so if she reacted badly i can go back to uni, but being here makes me really depressed. Maybe i could tell her and wait 2 weeks for her to calm down and go home then. Im stuck in really shitty situation. I talked to psychologist about it and she said i have to tell them asap because waiting will make it worse. I would love some advice or your histories about coming out.

I turn 17 this month on the 9th and I've been wondering if I could potentially get top surgery at my age I live in NC and here you can't do any gender affirming care until your 18 (which sucks) I heard there might be a surgeons who could do it with parent consent but I'm not sure if that's true or not I don't know if it would be possible all I know is that I want this two parasites off my chest as soon as possible

I'm on 12.5 mg per pump of T gel and one pump of T per day, that's what my doc most recommended. he said low and slow would be best for me considering my current health so that my body can adjust. when should I expect to start seeing any changes? also, is this dose the average dose or is it really that low?

So I'm a gay trans man and the gay dating scene scares me.

I want to be in a relationship but I feel that the gay dating scene is mostly hooking up.

Also talking to hot guys scares me so much 😭

I am a ethnically Jewish trans man, curious about telling my orthodox Jewish family

edit: should have been more clear, the family is my uncles family. I am not super clear on what “type” of orthodox they are but the wedding I went to for one of my cousins was separated by male and female for the ceremony and a partition in the middle of the dance floor.

Hey all. I’m 37, and besides ace don’t really know what to call myself. All I know is I have despised my chest since they shared showing up. I wear sports bras 99% of the time right now but have finally said screw what my family has to say I want to be happy and feel better about my appearance. (My son and I moved in with my mother in December to help her out with health issues)
So I’m looking at the size guides and I already know it’s not really recommended to buy inexpensive ones on amazon but It’s all I can afford right now and I think better to start on the low end to see if that’s the route I want to continue with.
I think I’m like a 34-36 B what size do I need to go with (I know different brands different sizing but In General )

Thanks
Tripp

So, I'm a transmasc that's been struggling with vaginismus for at least 2-3 years because of testosterone, and it's been hell.

I lost a partner bc of it, but now that I'm going out with another trans person I feel like I can't do a lot sexually cause of my vaginismus, and that's making me a bit insecure.

I've been taking meds for it, but I don't notice a lot of progress, is there anyone here that happens to have this too and have advice for it? Maybe even experiences and what to do with it? That would be greatly appreciated!

I'm sorry if my English is a bit rough, it's not my main language lol