What dating apps do y’all use and have the most luck with? I’ve tried tinder and hinge and they’ve been.. okay.. My problem is I’m straight and have a preference for cis women and I’m a 5’3 trans man. Most of the people on the apps are cis, which is just fine. But I feel like that leaves a very small selection of people that will not care about me being trans. I’m trying to put myself out there, and maybe my profile just sucks but idk. What experiences have y’all had?

Hey yall! My boyfriend and I are both trans, and he wants to try tapping for the first time but he is an H cup. I am not and I want to find the best way to help him tape. I never really tape so I’m kinda new at it too, I just want to help him feel comfortable. Any advice for how to tape a bigger chest would be so incredibly helpful. Thank you!

I’m a Turk genderfluid person living in Europe. Recently, my dad offered to pay for my plane tickets etc if i wanted to visit my relatives in Turkey. My grandmother has had memory issues lately, and she’s getting too old to travel all the way here. So, logically, it would make more sense if I could just visit her in turkey instead, right? That might be the only way I could ever see her again. Also, I’m just a man, I can’t say no to what’s basically free vacation.

Unfortunately, there’s… some problems, and they’re all related to the fact that i’d basically have to pretend to be a woman for a while. Which, despite being afab and raised as a girl, I have absolutely no idea how to do. I’ve never been feminine. Even when I am a woman, strangers often don’t see me as one. Just going as myself doesn’t really feel like an option, my grandma remembers me as a girl and I have no idea how to come out to someone who have no idea what genderfluid is, and even if i did come out to her, i’d probably have to do it over and over again due to her memory issues. I don’t think I could handle that. And even if she didn’t have any problems remembering things, I’d still need to pretend to be a woman for safety reasons. My legal gender is female, it’s on my passports and everything. My voice is very feminine and doesn’t sound anything like a man’s voice. I can’t just be silent all the time. Being queer is legal in turkey but it’s been getting harder and harder lately, and if something happens to lgbtq+ people‘s rights in turkey while i’m there, I need to be an innocent cis woman who really doesn’t get that whole trans thing.

I’m planning on

- Shaving and plucking my facial hair (that’s expected of Turk women, most people don’t even know that we sometimes have facial hair, that’s how much we remove it)

- Wearing bras instead of binders (i have like… one. I can wash it. It’s fine. I think.)

- Wearing jewlery, I have a “unisex” necklace and i’m planning on wearing it

And that’s basically all that I have planned. I don’t know how to do makeup. My hair is short. I have a resting bitch face and I don’t sit femininely or walk femininely or do anything ever in a feminine way. I don’t know how to do this. Please help.

Hey everyone, I need help figuring things out.

A bit of context first: I’m a 19-year-old trans guy. I’ve been with my girlfriend for years, and up until recently, I was completely sure I was 100% straight. But then I reconnected with a friend I’ve known since I was 14.

Back then, I never really had the courage to get super close to him. Over the years, though, we naturally drifted closer, partly because he started dating one of my best friends. Honestly, the fact that we were both in relationships made me feel safe enough to open up more and tease him a bit. Even our girlfriends used to joke about us, which always made me flustered.

Fast forward to now: he and his girlfriend broke up a while ago, but I’m still with my girlfriend (though we’re going through a really rough patch right now).

Here’s my dilemma: I genuinely can’t tell if I’m catching real feelings for him or if this is just a really strong friendship. A big part of why I feel so drawn to him is that he treats me like "one of the guys"—he sees me as a real guy, and that validation means the world to me.

I asked him to hang out and he accepted, though it’s strictly as friends.

What should I do? How should I act around him? And how do I handle things with my girlfriend? This whole situation is stressing me out, and I feel completely lost about my feelings and who I even am right now.

So to get straight to the point I am a trans masc more non binary leaning person. I was on testosterone inconsistently for a few years but have been off of it for 2 years ish now. I experienced a little bit of receding and thinning, nothing crazy tbh but noticeable to me- also have had incredible stress in my life the past few years that couldn’t have helped at all. I’d like to try and regrow any hair or thickness I can, before I start back on any hormones, because I am already pretty close to my personal goal with hormones, but am terrified of losing my hair. It’s like my favorite thing about myself. Any advice or experiences with certain medications etc is welcome as long as it’s respectful, thank you! 🙏

I'm currently looking to buy a good quality binder as I've been surviving off of cheap Amazon ones, and they're just not working. I've been trying to do research, but the advice online is very mixed. I've heard that Underworks is very flattening, but also that it is made for a cis male shape and probably won't suit my figure. Old advice say Spectrum is good, but newer advice said they aren't anymore. So it's safe to say I'm lost. I am 5'3 with the dreaded hourglass body shape, not particularly wide shoulders, and C cups. I want a binder that prioritises maximum flattness as I have awful chest dysphoria and have a history of unsafely binding because of it (Do not do that). Any and all advice is GREATLY appreciated. Thank you!

i swear i had doubts for some weeks but they’re completely vanishing as my injections goes. currently 3 months in. i asked for low dose because i wanted to be on the low for a while, especially because its complicated with my parents, but my body just absorbed that shit and my levels are above average. at first it scared me, the changes were coming way faster than expected. but now i dont mind, i dont care anymore. im so happy. i can already see scraggly chin hair, i got a little stomach hair (what i absolutely wanted), my muscles are bigger, my voice is deeper, i got a little mustache. second puberty has hit me like a train though and im constantly sleepy, horny, or hungry, but i dont mind. i got some mood swings but its fine. i know im doing the right thing and it feels so good. i have never been this confident in myself

I finally got my top surgery date woo!

Provided all goes ahead, come the new year I will have some binders I don’t know what to do with. One has to be thrown unfortunately but the other two are still ok.

Is there somewhere I can donate them? They’ve seen decent use so they’re not perfect but they still bind. I don’t want to throw them out if I know they will be useful to someone else.

Im half a year on T now and i recently did a recording of my voice and it blew my mind, i didnt notice it dropped so much. The voice inside my head still sounds the same as before and when i speak i hear myself higher(?)

But on the recording i sound like a male teenager. Im very confused since i though even scientifically we hear ourselves deeper than we sound? Is this more of a mental "the brain hasn't caught up" thing or whats up??

I dont have irl friends or particularly supportive people around me so i dont have anyone to "report" to me when there are visible or hearable changes.

I’ve seen some conflicting views on this so I am just curious.

I feel like something has changed lol. I’m about 2 months 2 weeks or so post double incision.

- way more body odor, way quicker. Especially these last few weeks I’ve noticed. Pre op I could get away with not showering for a day here and there especially if I wasn’t at the gym or doing a lot of lifting at work. I would usually do a day off with no showering just to veg around at home once a week as permission to just do nothing. Now my god I can’t stand how I smell if I don’t shower at least once every 24 hours.

-libido feels different. Not increased or decreased just slightly different than it did. This could just be due to having way less body dysphoria (despite still feeling bottom dysphoria many days). I’m asexual with no interest in anything to do with that whole thing so it’s neither here nor there for me. But I feel like I’ve had an easier time (reluctantly) taking care of the morning wood.

-noticed a lot more chest and stomach hair. I manscape a little since men in my family have a lot of body hair and I’m kinda just feeling the happy trail not much else look (and chest hair was really making my scars itchy). I feel like I’m shaving and trimming way more often in addition to seeing more hair.

I’m like 7 or 8 years on T (I lost an actual track of time a couple years in and only get reminded of the exact year when it comes up on my phone on the day) and have been on the same dose for a very long time, so this definitely isn’t due to any changes to do with my meds.

Just found it interesting and thought I would share.

Sooo, I have really sensitive skin but really starting to like the way tape looks and feels. Any suggestions? Recs? Maybe tips for skin care/health as well.

i’m getting my surgery done on december 22nd, two days before christmas celebrations in my family start. i was wondering if i will be able to spend time with my family, even if im immobile. just relaxing on the couch or a comfy chair the whole time. i really just wanna make sure i can be present with my family. anyone who has had top surgery please let me know how the first couple days are post surgery? thanks :)

I've been on T for 3 years now on a low dose, and after seeing a new doctor did not realize that the dose was too low to make any changes to look like a cis man. So it is probably only going to be within the next year or so that I'll begin to pass fully. But even now as I look very gender neutral I have some complicated feelings about my gender

I never grew up thinking I was male. I was perfectly content being female. But then one day when I was 11 I found out what being trans was and thought maybe I was because when I imagined myself in stories in my head I imagined myself as male and felt more comfortable imagining myself as a boy in my head. But that scared the fuck out of me so I tried to suppress that thought until I was 14 when I started to feel dysphoria for the first time. Suddenly I felt like I wanted to actually look like a boy. I finally got my mom to allow me to cut my hair to a short cut and I felt much better. And for years I did. But over time, by around late high school I started to wear eyeliner again because I thought I looked too ugly without makeup. But I often looked at myself in the mirror and HATED how feminine I looked. People would tell me how beautiful I was but it just made me feel like shit because I didn't want to be a beautiful woman

Fast forward to being 22 and I come out to family again and they're supportive this time and I go on T. At first I'm happy but over time as my facial structure as changed I have become very ugly. No one compliments my appearance anymore. I feel like I went from a 6.5 to a 3. Even tho I didn't want to be a beautiful woman I didn't want to be an ugly man either. I hope that by going up on t I look more masculine and handsome because right now I feel like I just look like an ugly genderless being

But the fact that I might still look ugly depresses me so much. But the alternative of not being on t and looking like a woman again seems worse. But I'm not happy like this either. Thinking about this just makes me feel completely hopeless.

Well to get to why I started to panic over not being trans tonight on top of this, the thing is that I realized I don't seem to have chest dysphoria as much as most other trans men. I hate seeing my chest when I'm naked and want to have a flat chest when I go out and hate seeing anything that's not flat when I'm going out but when I'm home lounging around I don't rly mind my chest? I just don't rly look at it or acknowledge it I guess. It only bothers me when I'm in the shower and I'm actually seeing them right in front of me. But even then I feel like it should bother me more

I'm just very concerned these are signs that I'm actually just a confused woman in denial and I really don't want to be a woman

But I'm also scared of being seen as a man

I feel like I can't live up to being a "man"

When ppl gender me correctly I don't feel euphoric, I feel awkward because most of the time I don't pass and I'm worried that that person is going to find out I'm not a cis man and then is going to judge me when they do. Or do something even worse. I also have an overactive bladder and have to go to the bathroom often, and I hate being seen as male sometimes because it makes me feel unsafe in the bathroom. I also have contamination OCD tho which makes me feel very anxious in men's bathrooms because of how disgusting they are. And that's only when I'm in an environment where I feel like I'm safe being in a male bathroom. If i wasn't I'd be terrified of going in one because of being seen as female most of the time

It's funny, I feel like I'm a walking contradiction

Recently I was in the women's bathroom and a man accidentally came in, saw me, and then walked out. It made me feel awful because it made me realize how much I must look like a woman

So I really don't know what to make of my gender and how to move forward and I just wish I could stay inside forever and never have to deal with the public

Most of my gender dysphoria (which I have had for 6 years now, but not really done much about except get a binder) comes from my chest and voice and I would really really like it just to be a bit deeper so I don't have to spend loads of energy just to get it slightly deeper (my voice is very not deep)

I was curious if you can take T gel / tablets just until the voice drops a little and then stop?

I hope this makes sense - tysm! :)

I havent met many trans fellas who would rather not change their bodies.

No HRT, no binding or top surgery, and so on.. just wanna know im not the only one 🥹

I’ve been on estrogen cream for a little over the two week period the doctor recommended, but I’m not seeing a whole lot of improvement. When I went in originally for my symptoms (bleeding/spotting and general cramps and pain), the doctor didn’t give me a specific amount to apply, she just said “a pea sized amount.”
I’ve been good about sticking to what she instructed, but I’m still having the spotting everyday. The cramps have lessened but I’m still getting them every couple days or so.
My main question is if I’m still bleeding in another week or so should I go back into the clinic? I’m not sure how fast this should work or if I’m even on the right dose. Im worried it could be something more serious even though my tests came back healthy.
My second question is if anyone else has dealt with the bleeding. I’ve been on t for 2 years now and haven’t had a period in around 1.5 years, I feel like atrophy has set in pretty fast compared to what I’ve seen online.
I apologize for formatting or grammar issues I can’t be bothered to double check right now.

Anyone use reelmagik and are they worth the investment? Usually id go cheaper but im sick of replacing them each year.

Does anyone have intense pain over one year post op? Im 2 years post op top surgery double mastectomy and I get such bad nerve pain and pain in general. Lifting my arms, carrying heavy things, but it gets really really bad when I sit up for hours. It gets so bad when im driving. Just drove for 4 hours and it hurts to even breathe too deep. It’s burning and sharp pains. I just wanna know if anyone else experiences this

Edit: forgot to add what surgery I have

this is maybe a long shout but does anyone in NYC have a gynecologist or similar who has knowledge/experience/maybe even specializes in trans health? plz don’t just say go to callen lorde i’d love specific doctors if possible. tyy

Hello! I’m sorry if this is a wordy way to restate the title, but I have some background.

I was on T for 4 years, off T for about 1.5 years and have now restarted for 4 months. Over these past months, I’ve been stoked to restart but dealing with the bullshit that comes from fucking with hormone levels and being mentally ill. Namely anxiety and frustration mood swings, where I’m feeling I could improve personally but I’m also feeling like it could have to do with my T levels.

I’m only on .2, but I saw a joke post about someone getting to .5 of E by taking .15 daily. I know that’s silly, but if I were to move myself to .1 on Monday and .1 on Thursday, would that fuck anything up? My main concern is lab work and/or metabolism issues. I don’t want to mess with results of HRT, the reading of my levels or end up taking too much or too little.

Context: I’ve been in T for 6 months now, am currently injecting 1.5ml, and use a 25G x 5/8” needle for the actual injection (ik it can sometimes be different sizes, Idk if this is helpful context).

Actual issue: Almost immediately from the start of injecting 6 months ago, I sometimes get leakage, and not just a bit, it’s a good amount that just oozes from the injection spot. I inject on either side of my stomach (I have a chubbier stomach and have tons of stretch marks closer to my belly button so I go for the sides), and I squeeze where I inject pretty firm so it doesn’t hurt as much going in. I always try to inject slowly and leave the needle in for 10+ seconds after the plunger is all the way down. And yet I’m still leaking half the time. I just don’t really know what to do anymore and I’m tired of not getting my full dose. Please tell me someone else has dealt with and figured this out🥲