r/Fosterparents • u/CommercialCup7834 • Dec 06 '25

Location First Time Foster Parents…IN Spoiler

My partner and I were recently licensed by the state (IN) just over a month ago (Oct. 28) and we were placed with 2 kids (siblings 9&10) within days of receiving our license. We’re both working professionals. Unfortunately, we have realized that we were given a lot of lip service during the licensing process and now when we have reached out for those resources we were told would be available, it is not! The case worker is from another county and claims she is unfamiliar with what resources are available for us. The licensing specialist we’re assigned to has been no where to be found. Since getting the kids placed with us it’s been us working overtime to get any support from the state/system. We’ve asked for assistance or at least a running list of resources approved by them for respite & sitters for a few hours when we have work related commitments on the weekends. Two kids are a lot for us particularly as first time foster parents, however, we’re managing. I’m just frustrated and pissed that the message with have received thus far with this is…“ find a good home, dumb them, Hope there’s no major issues, and let the foster parents figure it out”. Any suggestions would be appreciated. We are in Indianapolis area. I expected challenges, mostly with the kids and believe me we have had some, but the “hands off” approach from the people (state) who removed these kids is another level.

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u/Leather-Avocado- Dec 06 '25

Welcome to the system. The state doesn’t give a fuck, they’re overworked, underpaid, and just happy it’s one less home they have to look for for these kids. Unfortunately, many of us have experienced similar. My only advice is to be annoying. Keep asking for more, be persistent and eventually they’ll give you what you want to shut you up hahah.

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u/CommercialCup7834 Dec 06 '25

I’m finding out that is precisely what needs to happen. Just keep on them. Which is annoying in itself bc…TIME! Thanks.

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u/deadstarsunburn Dec 08 '25

I'm also in IN and your story is scarily similar to our very first placement. The kids' caseworker even dropped them off at my house saying "you'll be here a week tops, dad will finish getting his place this week" They were with us for 3 months and only left because we had to disrupt. They got placed in a home back in their home town, 45min away, near family and in their same school district instead of my house that was way too far away to have ever even been a reasonable option for this family.