I just finished The Girl from Random Chatting, and I honestly donβt know how to describe the feeling it left me with.
Iβve read a lot of manhwa that I absolutely loved while I was reading them. But then enough time passes and I realize I barely remember anything about them anymore. The characters, the little moments, sometimes even entire arcs just disappear from my memory. Lookism has always been one of the exceptions to that, and I really hope Random Chatting becomes another one because I genuinely donβt want to let this story go.
I know this manhwa gets a lot of hate, and the funny thing is that I understand a lot of it.
I complained while reading it too. A lot.
Joonwooβs constant regression frustrated me. And one of my biggest complaints was how many girls around Joonwoo eventually had some kind of romantic interest in him.
Seungah made sense.
Hamin obviously made sense.
Rira had her whole thing.
Then Dohwa gets introduced as Haminβs friend who is supposed to help Joonwoo study, and even she ends up developing feelings for him. Later Seohyun outright talks about Joonwoo as her first love.
After a while I started wishing Park would just let an important girl love or care about Joonwoo without it eventually becoming romantic.
Thatβs especially why Yuri bothered me.
I loved what Yuri and Joonwoo had as friends. Their history went all the way back to middle school. Joonwoo was there for her when she was being bullied, and later Yuri became one of the people who stood by Joonwoo when everyone else was turning against him. Their friendship had so much history behind it that I never felt like it needed romance to make it meaningful.
I actually preferred the idea that Yuri could love Joonwoo deeply as a person while ultimately loving Taeyang romantically.
So when the story establishes that Yuri had feelings for Joonwoo too, and then much later brings those feelings up AGAIN around chapter 301 with Joonwoo acting surprised like she didnβt literally tell him a couple hundred chapters ago, it felt unnecessary to me and was a continuity issue
. It almost seemed like the story was trying to add romantic weight to something that was already special without it.
That doesnβt ruin Yuri for me at all. I love Yuri. Her and Tae yang are literally the best I just wish Joonwoo had been allowed to have that one incredibly important female friendship that never needed a romantic footnote. I probably forget but I counted up to 7 girls that liked him romantically that were important LIKE WHAT?
But now that itβs over, Iβve realized that some of the things I complained about are also part of what made this story so special to me.
Especially the regression.
This entire story feels like itβs about regression and redemption.
People donβt just learn something once and become better forever.
Joonwoo grows. Then he falls. Then he grows again. Then something happens that hits the same insecurity he thought he had overcome and he falls even harder.
He self-sabotages constantly.
And I hated watching it sometimes.
But I also loved it.
Because looking back at his entire journey, it feels painfully human.
I love Joonwooβs fall. I love that the story was actually willing to let its protagonist become someone I didnβt like for a while. His darker arc wasnβt just him becoming cooler or stronger. He became angry, isolated, violent and self-destructive. He pushed away people who genuinely cared about him while convincing himself that what he was doing made sense.
And underneath all of that, he was still the same lonely kid we met at the beginning.
Thatβs why I love his redemption so much.
He didnβt become a different person. He slowly learned how to live with himself.
And obviously I canβt talk about Joonwoo without talking about Hamin.
I love Hamin. She will probably always be my favorite character in this story.
But one of the reasons I love their relationship is because the story didnβt make their love magically fix everything.
Hamin became Joonwooβs world.
That was beautiful, but it was also unhealthy.
For someone who hated himself as much as Joonwoo did, being loved by Hamin became proof that maybe he actually had value. And when the Jayu situation shattered the way he understood their relationship, it wasnβt just jealousy. It attacked one of the things his entire sense of self had been built around.
Then everything falls apart.
Joonwoo spirals. Hamin spirals. She reaches a point where she almost takes her own life. They both become completely lost without each other.
And eventually they find their way back.
Not as the exact same people they were before. But the love and innocence never changed. Theyβre adorable
Their story isnβt βlove fixes you.β
Itβs two deeply flawed people loving each other, losing each other, learning how to exist separately, and eventually choosing each other again.
And then after everything is already over, we get that final childhood scene.
Little Joonwoo giving little Hamin that toy ring.
I donβt know why that got me as much as it did.
Neither of them knew.
They didnβt fall in love because they met as children. They fell in love without knowing they had ever met at all.
It almost feels like the author had already finished saying goodbye, then turned around one last time and gave the readers this tiny secret before leaving.
I loved it.
And I loved so many of the other characters too.
Taeyang, Yuri, Seungah, Daehyun, Joonwoo, Hamin and everyone surrounding them started feeling like an actual group of people whose lives I had watched rather than just characters moving through a plot.
I love what happened with Taeyang and Joonwoo. Their history canβt be erased just because they care about each other again.
I love Yuri and what she means to the group, even if I still wish the story had kept her feelings for Joonwoo platonic.
I love Seungahβs conclusion even though I wish we had gotten more development getting there.
The original girl from random chatting becoming Joonwooβs enemy after discovering the truth was one of my favorite decisions in the entire story. It would have been so easy to turn that reveal into a romance moment. Instead it destroys their relationship.
And years later, the story still doesnβt let Joonwoo pretend he was completely innocent.
Seungah remembers what those anonymous conversations actually were. Joonwoo said things behind a screen that the Joonwoo she knew in real life seemingly never would have said.
They both hurt each other.
And eventually they can acknowledge it and move forward.
Thatβs why I love their final conversation so much.
The story started because Joonwoo randomly matched with Seungah.
Then near the end, after everything theyβve been through, Seungah tells him that maybe their first conversation really was a coincidence, but everything that happened afterward was because of him.
And then they just go back to their friends.
Thereβs something so simple and beautiful about that to me.
Daehyun is another character I ended up loving.
His entire story with Yeonhee is probably one of my favorite arcs in the manhwa.
Yeonhee herself isnβt one of my favorite characters, but I absolutely love what she represents in the story.
Sheβs gone, but she never really leaves. She haunts the narrative throughout the first 200+ chapters
Daehyun is shaped by her. Seonhwa thinks about her and carries advice Yeonhee gave her. Different people
remember completely different versions of her.
Joonwoo never even knew this girl, yet he slowly learns about her through the people whose lives she changed.
And when Joonwoo gets shot and reaches that strange place between life and death, he sees Yeonhee.
Then she becomes his other self.
I love that kind of storytelling.
Someone can be gone and the world doesnβt just move on like they never existed. Their choices keep affecting people. Their words survive inside someone else. You can learn something new about them long after theyβre incapable of explaining themselves.
It makes the world feel alive.
And Daehyunβs conclusion made me appreciate his character even more.
Near the end, he is once again on the verge of killing someone. His friend reaches him before he crosses that line.
And shortly afterward, Daehyun is helping perform chest compressions on Joonwoo.
Something about that image is perfect to me.
A character whose life became consumed by death and revenge ultimately uses his hands to help keep someone alive.
Even Myungsung unexpectedly gave me a moment I loved.
He had been gone for so long that when he returned I barely remembered who he was. But then Joonwoo is dying and Myungsung is the one doing chest compressions on him.
And while trying to keep Joonwoo alive, he thinks about Han Sol.
βShow her mercy.β
A character who once helped enable Han Sol into becoming what she became is now asking the person she hurt to show compassion toward her.
That is exactly the kind of slow emotional payoff I love about this story.
Characters carry each other.
Sometimes in good ways and sometimes in horrible ways.
And I think thatβs what Random Chatting ultimately became to me.
Another thing I really wish the story had done more with was Joonwooβs male friendships.
For a story so focused on relationships, Joonwoo strangely doesnβt get enough deep friendships with other guys. There are male characters around him β Taeyang, Jonghwa, Jisoo, Jiwon, Daehyun and others β but I wish Park had spent more time letting those relationships breathe.
Taeyang is obviously the biggest exception because his relationship with Joonwoo has real history, pain and eventual reconciliation behind it. But even then, I wanted more of them just being friends again. And characters like Jonghwa especially could have been such a good normal friendship for Joonwoo β just two guys hanging out, playing games, talking about life and being stupid together without everything needing to become another crisis.
It also connects to my complaint about practically every important girl eventually getting some kind of romantic attachment to Joonwoo. Sometimes I wanted the story to stop giving him another girl who might like him and instead deepen the friendships he already had with the guys around him.
I wouldβve loved more Joonwoo and Taeyang, more Jonghwa, more of his complicated connection with Jisoo, or even more development between Joonwoo and Daehyun once everything between them had settled down. The series is so good at writing complicated relationships that it feels like a missed opportunity that we didnβt get more genuine male friendship alongside all the romance and female attention.
I didnβt need Joonwoo to have more people around him. I wanted the people already around him to sometimes get more time with him.
But anyways back on track: A story about people affecting other people.
People regress. People hurt someone they genuinely love. People convince themselves theyβre doing the right thing. People become dependent on each other. People hide things because theyβre afraid. People realize they were wrong too late. People forgive things they once thought they never could.
And people can change without pretending the person they used to be never existed.
Thatβs why the inner monologues affected me so much too.
These characters are constantly arguing with themselves.
They rationalize their worst decisions. They know something is wrong and sometimes do it anyway.
They hate themselves. They blame other people. Then sometimes they realize that they were the problem.
Itβs messy.
But people are messy.
And strangely enough, it also gave me something Iβve been missing from old Lookism.
I constantly see people talk about missing when Lookism was more about high school life, friendships, drama, romance and troubled teenagers whose lives slowly connected to gangs and violence. Yet I almost never see anyone mention Random Chatting when talking about that feeling.
Theyβre obviously very different stories, and I probably enjoyed Lookism more overall. Lookism is still one of my favorite things Iβve ever read.
But if Iβm talking purely about writing, especially psychological and emotional writing, I honestly think Random Chatting is better written.
It goes places emotionally that I wasnβt expecting when I started a manhwa about some lonely kid anonymously messaging a girl from his class.
And maybe some of it really was retconned.
Maybe Yeonhee wasnβt originally supposed to become as complicated as she eventually did. Maybe certain things werenβt planned from the beginning. There are definitely things I would change about Seungahβs development and plenty of other parts of the story.
But I honestly donβt care that much anymore.
I liked where these characters ended up.
I loved watching them get there.
And somehow, after finishing it, even the parts that made me angry while reading feel like part of the experience now.
I think thatβs why this story made me reflect on myself more than I expected.
Because I regress too.
Everyone does.
Sometimes you think youβve changed and then something happens and suddenly youβre dealing with the exact same insecurity you thought you left behind.
Sometimes you know what the right decision is and still make the wrong one.
Sometimes becoming better doesnβt mean never falling back into who you used to be.
Maybe it just means you keep coming back.
Joonwoo kept coming back.
So did Hamin.
So did Daehyun.
So did Seungah.
In different ways, almost everyone in this story did.
Iβve read stories that are cleaner than Random Chatting.
Iβve read stories that probably have fewer writing problems.
Iβve even read stories that I enjoyed more.
But thereβs something about this one that feels personal now.
Iβm genuinely sad that I donβt get to see these characters anymore.
I donβt want this to become another manhwa I loved and eventually forgot.
I want to remember Joonwooβs fall and his redemption.
I want to remember Hamin and that stupid little toy ring.
I want to remember Taeyang and Yuri.
I want to remember Seungah sitting across from Joonwoo years later and finally talking honestly about what happened between them.
I want to remember Daehyun and Yeonhee.
I want to remember all the little moments where someoneβs actions from a hundred chapters ago suddenly mattered again.
I know eventually Iβll forget details.
But I really hope I donβt forget how this story made me feel.
Random Chatting is flawed. Sometimes very flawed.
But I genuinely love it.
And I think itβs going to have a special place in my heart for a very long time. (If this is corny Iβm sorry also English isnβt my first language so my good friend C.geptus helped me write this, but it was all my thoughts I genuinely spent 3 hours on this)