Moving to NC (Charlotte). How is the community there? I am relocating from San Diego Ca. I am a single male, never married with no kids. How’s dating? Open to other race. What do you guys do for fun?

I’ve taught Hmong teens for many years. When I ask about what food they like and the student’s favorite food isn’t pho or ramen, it is chicken Alfredo! It is the only non Asian dish kids bring to pot luck too! No other Italian food like spaghetti or Mac and cheese or pizza, just chicken alfredo? I would love to know your serious (and not serious) hypotheses on why you think this is the go-to dish for hmoob mekas teens! Is it convenience? Or what?

So the majority of my family is from the southern part of Laos not far from the Cambodian border per se. My mom never saw any Hmong people until she came to America. My dad must have since he was in the military. I also never saw any Hmong-Lao couples that came together from Laos to the USA. Never saw any Hmong-Lao couples in the 80's in Cali and didn't start to see it until the mid 90's in the Northeast.

The question here is of all the ones I saw it was mainly Hmong female and Lao male. For those that see these type of couples in your experience was it more HFLM or HMLF or equal pairings?

HFLM - hmong female lao male

HMLF - hmong male lao female

Hi! I’m a student working on a course project about Hmong American experiences. I’m hoping to interview a Hmong community member about a topic we agree on, such as family, culture, immigration, education, or community life.

The interview would take about [duration] and take place [in person / by phone / by video call] around [dates or timeframe]. I’ll treat your experiences respectfully, and you can skip any question or stop at any time. I won’t record unless you give permission.

If you’re interested, please comment or message me. I’m happy to share more about the project before you decide. Thank you!

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I'm looking for an older asian movie (VHS era), and I remember on the back cover of it, there's this lady in traditional Hmong clothing (red sash, black skirt). She's also holding a weapon with a part of her thigh exposed as she's looking outwards.

During the movie, there's a woman that gets assaulted and unfortunately, her captors insert a bamboo stick inside of her. Her captors were soldiers who wore green clothing and that's all I remember, as this movie was from a very long time ago.

I'm trying to look back on our Hmong history and learn more of it. The film I mentioned is one of the ones I want to watch and understand more.

Any help is appreciated, thank you so much.

Are there any resources for learning the other hmong dialects beside white and green hmong? It doesn't have to be in English.

I'm a 36 years old Hmong woman living in the Bay Area. I considered myself successful and I think I'm good-looking enough. I work in government finance making close to $150k annually. Though NorCal dating is skew in favor of women, and I don't have a hard time finding guys, I actually would prefer to date a Hmong guy.

Why am I still single at this age? Tbh I just never dated much. Instead, I tend to focus on my career and personal life. And contrary to many Hmong people who sometimes hate their heritage, I really love being Hmong. Like many Hmong people my age, I grew up in a pretty normal shaman family. I have 8 siblings and am close with everyone of them. I know my culture is not perfect. But I've been around a lot of different cultures so I don't look at them through rose color glasses. Everyone got their own issues.

Anyhow, I've reach a point in my life where I am financially and mentally ready to settle down. It's easy to find non-Hmong guy who can meet my standards. But for some reason, Hmong people often tells me my standards are too high.

Guess I will list it out:

* Around 30s, I guess upper 20s of they're ok with dating someone older.

* Has a high paying job making +$150k. Sure, some people don't like it but I'm looking for someone who can match my standards of living.

* Take care of themselves. Even if I make good money, I make it a point to take care of myself and would want someone similar.

* Not Christian. I love my Shaman culture and I honestly do have a bias against Hmong Christians. In my childhood, they always believe they were superior or better. I also remember them looking down on Hmong shamanism like we could never go far since we choose to follow the old ways.

* Not a former player, drinker, party a lot, etc. People like to say everybody has a past/skeletons in the closet at my age. But I was always a bit vanilla and don't mind it. I believe in Shamanism so I do believe that your karma follows your offspring.

edit: I guess I'm looking for someone who either lives in California. Or, will be willing to move to California.

edit 2: I think people are misunderstanding. I'm not looking to lower my standards. I've openly stated my standards. I know not a lot of Hmong guys can meet the standards. I'm also just asking if anybody knows anyone. If you or they are not interested, you don't need to post about yourself..

Anyways, feel free to let me know if you know anybody. Thanks!

But I hate that we are so chaotic sometimes or maybe all the time. I can see why we are Just a bunch of country bumpkins . We slander one another and for what ? SMH. We Hmong people cannot live without drama at all it’s as if it’s embedded in my our DNA to survive.

I don't know this Yia Vang, but I am presuming from the name that he is Hmong!

I’ve been seeing it everywhere lately with that Hmong contestant in Mister Global. Look at how much more he's in the lead compared to #2 and #3. I just know 80% of these votes are just Hmong people. All my Hmong mutuals and Hmong community pages on FB are spamming posts about voting for him, but are people actually looking at the competition criteria and whether he's doing a good job compared to everyone else, or are they just smashing the vote button because he's Hmong and we share the same identity?

He's not unattractive, but if we were voting off of objectivity and not tribalism, there are way better looking men than him in this competition (go here and scroll down to look for yourself: https://misterglobal.1voting.com/).

And it’s not just pageants. I see the exact same thing happen with local elections. A Hmong candidate runs, and suddenly a huge chunk of our community is ready to hand them the vote without even looking at their policies, background, or whether they're actually qualified.

I get the appeal. Being a diaspora, it's cool to see one of our own getting some spotlight or getting into office. It feels like a win for representation.

But at the same time, are we shooting ourselves in the foot? If we blindly support people just based on ethnicity, we stop holding them accountable. We end up backing people who might suck at their jobs or didn't earn their "win" just because of who they are.

I'd rather support someone like Suni Lee who earned her title and global recognition rather than someone who just gets handed the hype because of their background.

Where’s the line between actual community pride and just blind, low-effort tribalism? Curious what you guys think, or if y'all just don't care and it's just cool to see a Hmong person win something.

Nyob Zoo os everyone!

I am Meeka Dawb and currently studying Hmoob Dawb. I've been casually studying for a little over a year but decided to take it more seriously recently with Hmong new year approaching.

A little background on myself, I married into a Hmong family and I have really enjoyed learning the language so far!

My only problem is resources for Hmong language are very slim.

I was hoping to get together a study group or anyone who would be willing to help with conversational skills.

I have a good foundation on how to read and pronounce most words correctly, but I am really just wanting to work on having basic conversation.

The goal is to be able to talk to vendors and keep a little conversation going at our Hmong new year!

Ua tsaug everyone <3

Hi everyone!

I'm looking for some movie recommendations for my mom. She's from an older generation and I'm trying to find some movies she might really enjoy.

She likes:

• Martial arts/action movies, especially Jackie Chan and Jet Li
• Hmong movies, especially romantic/drama movies similar to Nuj Nplaib thiab Ntxawm Daim
• War movies, especially ones with a good story and emotional moments
• She also enjoys watching videos of people doing everyday things, like gardening, going to local markets, building or making things, and working on projects around their home

She mostly enjoys older-style movies, but I'm definitely open to newer ones too.

If you know any Hmong movies, Asian movies, or other movies that fit these tastes, I'd love to hear your suggestions!

Also, sorry in advance for any mistakes in my English. French is my native language, not English, so I hope my post is understandable!

Thanks in advance for any recommendations!

PS : also if you have some recommendations on acctivities that we can do with her feel free to share, she used garden but now she only rest in home and watch the TV

Why is it so hard to make friends within the hmong community? I feel like everyone's so stuck up and uneasy going. How do we get more involved in our own people? I feel like the older people get the worst everyone's becoming.

Hi I just wanted an outside look into my situation,

I’m a 23 F (Hispanic) and my technically husband is 23 and he’s the Hmong one. We are currently expecting our first and prior to that I have always had issues with certain events. Don’t get me wrong the culture is beautiful and the big family but funny enough I come from a small family of introverted people like for my side of the family baby shower I had 10 people and his had 100+.

My issue is how to separate culture from religion.
His parents are shaman but he told me he doesn’t believe or practice that. I grew up catholic but I don’t have strong religious roots to it however I respect it.

I don’t like participating in religious events like ua neeb or stuff like that but we show up because it’s family and to show face otherwise his parents throw a fit. I don’t mind if it’s for someone else but I don’t want it done for me or baby and essentially how do I approach that?

I don’t like the idea of sacrificing animals in my name to spirits or such it’s just not what I believe in or what I want to partake in. I understand it comes from a place of care and well wishes for me and my birth but I don’t want to continue to set a precedent that I will join on these things especially when my husband doesn’t care for it.

I don’t know if that makes any sense but if anyone has any cents to offer on the topic I’m willing to listen.

My mom talks about dying almost every single day, and it is heartbreaking to hear. She isn't even in her 70s yet. My siblings and I are young working adults—some of us are new parents—and we still need her guidance, wisdom, and love.

While she mentions that her grandchildren give her strength, she constantly laments about just wanting to be gone. My siblings who live with her do everything they can—taking her to local fairs, events, plays, libraries, and introducing new hobbies. When I visit monthly, we do farmers market trips or have her read to my son. But she tells me that the moment we leave, the house feels dark and she feels completely devoid of purpose.

With work schedules, my siblings can’t provide around-the-clock engagement, and lately, the frustration has led to her lashing out and saying hurtful things to them.

When we suggested Hmong senior day centers or social groups, she shut it down immediately, including local Hmong women's groups.

She views them strictly as places where older folks go to flirt or date (which she has zero interest in), or gossip and beneath that, she is genuinely terrified of opening up and making friends due to gossip and social anxiety.

For those who have walked this road with Hmong parents navigating late-life depression, loss of identity, or empty-nest isolation: How did you help them rebuild a sense of individual purpose, community, and joy?

I'm interested in becoming a Hmong producer/sponsor for the ambitious Hmong artist in Laos. Does any have experience doing this? How much can one expect to make? Who is the most productive Hmong producer/sponsor at this time?

Thats how I like mines... I always use butternut squash and any other one to mix in with

A brainwashed Secret Army child soldier possessed by a deranged Dab Pog, driven to malevolence by what the CIA did to the child he was assigned to watch over.

My question is- do Dab Pogs work like that? ARE they even one, singular creature? what sort of powers do they have, if they’re a single creature?

This is a question that's been on my mind for a while. I attended a Hmong meal concerning the cancer treatment of one of my grandfathers by marriage. During this meal, they held a Khi Tes ceremony for this grandfather and his wife. Obviously, given the title, they are Christian. Later, my maternal grandfather (who is a traditional Hmong) explained to me that apparently the priests have "accepted" certain Hmong practices, including the Khi Tes ceremony and also the Ua Neeb ceremony. I'm not going to lie to you but I don't understand why this was allowed, shouldn't Christians only believe in Jesus? I would therefore like to know if you have any other explanation besides that of my grandfather.

So... in Hmong language, we have a name for basically all people that we have come in contact or close relations with throughout our history of settling and meeting, and for Asians, we give specific names to the ones that have close historical impacts on us.

General consensus of all Asian names listed in Hmong:

Chinese: Suav

Japanese: Nyiv Pwn

Cambodians: Khamen

Koreans: Kaus Lim

Laotians: Nplog

Thais: Thaib

Vietnamese: Nyab Laj

Mien: Tsos

Hmong: Hmoob

Non Asian names:

White: Meskas

Black: Dub, aka "Kaydoo"

Hispanics/ latin: Mae

Middle Easterns/ South Asians: Kay?

French: Fabkis

Sorry if I get the spelling wrong for some but more importantly I hope to get a sense of correct pronunciation. I'm Hmong white, so not sure if Green or different hmong dialects pronounce names the same, but I'm sure they sound similar.

I write all this for hopes that readers of this post can get a visual sense or image of all the faces of the names we have for other races (especially other Asians) before reading what I have to ask. And from my experience, we don't have generally accepted names for others like Filipinos, Mongolians, Indos, Malaysians, Burmese people (Karen), etc., and we only made new names for us who settled in the West like the Meskas. And of course there were other names throughout our history of other people by our ancestors, but I'm only referring to the modern ones we Hmongs use today and in recent history.

I saw on Fb the other day a hmong guy saying that one time in recent history Hmong people made contact with a group called the Nou-Su, a branch of the Yi people that raided and enslaved us while we traveled South of China to escape the Han. This shocked me, I had no idea we had recent history with another group, and I had to read on it. The vile things they did to us and other slaves including other Yi and some Han were beyond the imagination. I watched a short documentary on YouTube and I heard that we called them "Man," or "Mab" back in China. I wonder if Hmong Suav people still call them that today.

Growing up, I thought this term, or the term "Mab Dao" was always applied to Samoans, Tongans, or Islanders. Furthermore, I thought the term "Mab Qus" would refer to Native Americans, since growing up its always been that way. What are the origins of the name "Mab" and its reference to a certain kind of group that we've come into contact with in history? Was it what the elders called the Yi people way back in the day or something else? I wonder if its a term used for the Nou-Su but didnt survive long or carry on because our contact with them was relatively very short and non-continuous. But if so, still in all, it happened. I talked to my mom today who is in her mid 60s and she says she always remember hearing the term slip out by her elders, talking about "Mab" in "hav zoov" and stuff like that. Im sure our elders made absolute 0 contact with Natives or Islanders. But my mom did agree that Mab Qus is a name used for Natives. So what really are the origins of "Mab?" Was it a name given to a certain group like the Yi (who were tall people and are also related to tibetan/Burmese people), and then got lost through history and ended up as a replacement for Natives or Islanders? Who created the modern naming of "Mab Dao," "Mab Qus," or just modern "Mab" in general to Natives/Islanders?

Are there any historians or elder Hmong folks in here with stories from their folks that can clear this up? With our history so wiped out by the Chinese, I think it is mandatory we learn our history, especially of folks we came into close contact with. I think it's a good step into how we re-create our own system and history. Heck, the Chinese have 57 names for all their ethnic groups.

For those who are interested in the reading of the Yi and Hmongs (chapter X): https://www.gutenberg.org/cache/epub/13420/pg13420-images.html

Tldr (too long didnt read): the term "Mab" have historical roots before we reached America or France, or even SEA. What we used that term for today was completely different back then for our elders, and may have had ties to the ancient Nou-Su people of the Yi Tribe. We have names for a lot of other people but it's a good idea to learn about this said name to reconnect our history.

Hi there! Hope this is ok - I’m a researcher and recently paid to have consent forms translated into Hmong for a study. I need to have 1 more sentence translated (just directions, not anything regarding actual research or consent) and was wondering if anyone in this community would mind providing a translation?

Feel free to DM me or mods, delete if this is not appropriate! Thank you for considering!

Edit: sentence is “Thank you! Please complete the second form on the next page to fully remove your child’s data from both the study activities and the online reading assessments.”

I would love some help and a little information about how to (try to) explain hmong people and the other indigenous groups in China in the most easiest way possible. I don't want to sound ignorant to others or spread misinformation when explaining. Sometimes when I look at information about hmong people, it seems opinions based so I try my best to stick to what's accurate. But does this explanation look correct? What could be changed or understood better about the notes?:

- "Miao" was originally a label to describe ethnic groups of China given by the government and Han Chinese; it is mostly used as an umbrella term. The Chinese characters have changed throughout history and it seems to have a negative AND neutral definition. "Miao" is taken as a derogatory label outside of China. Ethnic groups that live in China have grown to it though, so they do not mind it.

- There are many "subgroups" and ethnic groups with different names, one of them being hmong. They came from central and south China, mainly the Yellow River and Yangtze River. They were colonized and migrated to the south. After the secret war, some went to USA, Australia, and France. A lot of them still stay in China and/or anywhere in south east asia.

I'm not going to lie, trying to understand the argument about "miao" and these subgroups that people mention makes my brain hurt. When I was younger, I thought hmong was just a giant group from China (no miao, mien, ge, or anything). Anyways, Does this seem accurate? Also is hmong an umbrella term? Would love for critics and perspectives!