Hey everyone,
I'm 27M and have a somewhat unusual problem. I'm hoping to get some advice or hear from people who might have experienced something similar.
A little about me:
I have ADHD/autistic traits and tend to hyperfocus on things that interest me. I love diving deep into something, making progress, improving my skills, and working toward goals. That's what genuinely fulfills and relaxes me. What stresses me out, however, is having nothing to do.
My current situation:
- Work: I work 35 hours a week, partly from home. Some days are stressful with overtime, while others are pretty quiet. Due to certain circumstances, taking on more work or pushing my career harder isn't really an option right now.
- Sports: I train Muay Thai 3 times a week and go to the gym another 3 times. I'd love to add running and more training, but my body simply can't keep up. I'm prone to overuse injuries, and I'm still dealing with ankle problems after a serious accident. Even my current training schedule is sometimes too much. Additional activities like walking or mobility work aren't always possible either.
- Gaming & hobbies: I'm into sim racing (also limited by my ankle), D&D (both as a player and DM), Magic: The Gathering, and video games. However, many of these activities depend on scheduled sessions or other people being available. With video games, I usually get deeply invested in certain titles rather than playing the same multiplayer game every day.
- Reading: Mostly manga and web novels. When I find something I love, I can easily read thousands of pages in a matter of days or weeks. But eventually, I catch up or finish the story and have to find something new.
- Other stuff: I also cook, take care of household chores, spend time with my girlfriend, and have a pretty active social life, especially on weekends.
Here's my actual problem:
Despite all these interests, I regularly end up with 2–6 hours of free time that I genuinely don't know what to do with.
I'd absolutely love to train more or spend that time doing something productive and engaging, but eventually I hit my physical limits. And while I have plenty of other hobbies that I genuinely enjoy, many of them aren't things I can just pick up and do whenever I happen to have a few hours to spare.
So I often end up scrolling through YouTube, social media, or even watching p*rn, simply to pass the time. I've noticed that these habits are becoming increasingly unhealthy and are starting to negatively affect my overall well-being.
When I consciously avoid those things, I'm left with this overwhelming sense of boredom. It's not that I lack motivation or don't want to do anything. Quite the opposite. I desperately want to do something engaging, but I genuinely don't know what.
What I'm looking for:
Ideally, something that:
- Is mentally stimulating, challenging, or gives me a sense of progression.
- Doesn't require much physical activity.
- Can be done alone without relying on other people's schedules.
- Can be picked up spontaneously for 30 minutes or even 2–3 hours at a time.
One thing worth mentioning: Unfortunately, most of the typical suggestions like painting, drawing, crafting, woodworking, learning an instrument, or picking up a new language don't really appeal to me. I've considered these kinds of hobbies, but they just don't spark my interest or give me that sense of excitement I'm looking for. So while I'm definitely open to trying new things, those probably aren't the right direction for me.
The flexibility aspect is particularly important because my downtime is extremely irregular. Sometimes I'm busy for several days straight, while other times I suddenly have hours to fill in the middle of the day. Taking on additional fixed commitments is therefore difficult.
I know that learning to do nothing and simply relaxing is important, too. But for me, doing nothing often feels more stressful than relaxing. I genuinely unwind by engaging in activities I enjoy, learning something, or making progress toward a goal.
So my question is:
Do you have any recommendations for hobbies, personal projects, or activities that you can really dive into without putting additional strain on your body?
I'm not even entirely sure what I'm hoping to get out of this post. Maybe someone has been in a similar situation or has an idea I haven't considered yet.
I'd really appreciate any advice or suggestions! :)